Some of the most popular questions on my radio show come from people trying to understand what’s going on with the opposite sex. It seems many females are confused about what guys are doing and feeling. And men are equally perplexed and confused about women. While there appears to be no changing the actual differences between males and females, we can grow in our understanding of how other people think and act and how best to respond to them. My efforts with these blogs are to help you increase your understanding of why people of the opposite sex do certain things that can appear to not make sense. Someone once said, “Know your God and yourself and you’ll be just fine.” You could add to that, “Know your God and yourself, and know your neighbor too.” I think any progress we can make on answering your top 50 most pressing questions about the opposite sex will be well worth it.

QUESTION #3 Kourtney asked: Why would a guy flirt and act like he likes me and then all of a sudden stop? I have this guy friend who would email daily and tell me everything that's going on and then he just stopped. In another question, Brittany asked:Why in the world do guys act like they like you one minute and then the next they treat you like they barely know you?

Dawson: Some guys just want to see if they can get a girl to like them. To them, it is more like a game or a challenge. They say to themselves, “If I can get a girl to fall for me, then I must be a pretty cool guy.” All of this comes from a low self-esteem and an unawareness of how they hurt others. Still other guys are in a frantic state of mind, wanting that thrill of knowing at least one person cares about them. It’s like a high. But they soon get bored once they think a girl they have been pursuing actually likes them. Then they are on to the next conquest. The hunt is on for the next rush. Sadly, most guys have very little insight into what they are doing and why.

You have a choice in this. You can choose to confront this guy and ask him what he’s really feeling (be prepared for him to become angry and defensive because no one likes being found out -- remember, he may not fully understand why he’s doing what he’s doing either!). Or you can take his indifference as a clue that he’s not truly interested in you, and move on. You don’t have to be a victim of another person’s lack of consideration for others.

QUESTION #4) Riah asked: When you know a guy likes you and that guy knows you like him, then why does it take so long for him to make the first move?

Dawson: For years, there’s always been pressure on guys to make the first move. Now it seems girls are getting more aggressive all the time. Still, in many relationships, both genders (either consciously or unconsciously) expect the guy to be the aggressor and the girl to be the responder. But think how much courage it takes for a guy to be vulnerable enough to share his deepest need of wanting to love and be loved. What if he tells you he really cares for you and you in some way reject him. It’s kind of like someone said, “It’s like going to a girl with your heart in your hand and saying to her – do you want to kick it out?” Remember a lot of guys act tough and macho, but inside they too are very much afraid of rejection. You may want to help him out by making a simple suggestion. You might say something like this: “You know, you and I have been talking to each other for a while and I’m a little confused. So let’s define our relationship.” This allows you to talk about it in a non-threatening way. Give it a try, Riah. It might just work. But put yourself in his shoes. Being emotionally open and vulnerable isn’t as easy as it looks.

I still would love to hear what is YOUR most pressing question about the opposite sex. Please comment to me down below and I hope to get to your question in my upcoming blogs.