173. Holiday Highs and Lows: The Real Meaning of Christmas

In the previous blog on How to Give a Gift that Matters, I talked about how materialistically crazy Christmas has become. For many, especially children, the meaning of Christmas is simply how many good presents they get. But as we all know (hopefully), that’s not the real meaning of Christmas.

 

As we get older, we realize that there’s more to it than presents. Every now and then there will be a movie or news story on television about some truly generous giver. And with that, we are reminded of a better perspective on the holidays; that it is like Jesus said, “More blessed to give than to receive.”

 

So then, the real meaning of Christmas is giving – right?

 

Well… no.


Whether your focus is on getting presents or on giving presents — either way, the true meaning of Christmas is not about the presents.

For many, Christmas is either merry or depressing because of how many good presents they are able to give. And for some, because their financial situation makes it very difficult to give, they have come to hate the Christmas holidays — because of all the giving. Whether your focus is on getting presents or on giving presents — either way, the true meaning of Christmas is not about the presents.

 

So, if the true meaning of Christmas not giving or receiving presents, then what?

 

Many Facebook and blog commentators wrote that the most difficult part of Christmas for them was a person who was not with them any more.

 

Amanda wrote: the best part of christmas is being with my family. the worst part is not having my grandfather here anymore. he passed away in august of 2007, 3 weeks before my birthday. he always was the life of every family gathering especially christmas when he dressed up as Santa. every year when he dressed up i always had a picture taken w/ him...i'm only 22 and he's been my everything. it's hard knowing he's not here. he got me santa figurines every year as a present. now i buy one every year to remember him.

 

Tragedy always helps us recalibrate our sense of values. It shakes us up and brings us back to reality. It reminds us of what is really important.

 

Those of you who are regular listeners to thehopeline radio program or who follow us on Facebook, know about the recent tragedy in my family; that my son, Fulton, was seriously injured in a car accident and at the time of this blog is still in a coma. There is great uncertainty about what lies ahead if and when he comes out of the coma. I can’t tell you how blessed and encourage I am from the hundreds of prayers, well wishes, and encouraging words.


Christmas is about totally pure, unconditional, irrepressible, inconceivably, awesome, self-denying - TRUE LOVE.

It’s like the old Cat Stephens’ song (way before your time) — “You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.” With my son, Fulton, lying in a coma at this very moment I have been forced to stare this truth in the face. Yes, I’m just like the rest of you, and especially like those for whom tragedy (or near tragedy) is a reminder to us of what is really important. Christmas is so much more than presents, receiving them or even giving them.

 

So then, the real meaning of Christmas is about the people in your life that you love.

 

As much as I feel the importance of loved ones at this moment (and will be reminded of it every Christmas for the rest of my life)… No, that’s not the real meaning of Christmas. There are people all over the world who love their friends and family but who do not celebrate Christmas.

 

Okay, so what is the real meaning of Christmas?

 

I’m no Scrooge. Christmas is partly about giving and receiving gifts and it is about celebrating the family and friends in our lives. But the real meaning of Christmas is something even higher, bigger, and infinitely better that all of that. Christmas is about totally pure, unconditional, irrepressible, inconceivably awesome, self-denying — TRUE LOVE.

 

John was one of twelve disciples of Jesus, and he wrote the book in the Bible known as The Gospel of John. The word “gospel” means good news.

 

John, Disciple of Jesus, wrote: For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16).

 

I like what Michelle wrote on our Facebook page. I could easily understand how Christmas could be the worse time of the year for her. But she seems to have put it all together—realizing importance of the people in her life, the real meaning of Christmas, and because of both those things, the true joy of giving.

 

Michelle wrote: Hardest part of Christmas is losing my mom on December 26th to cancer. Best part of Christmas is celebrating the true reason for the season -- the birth of baby Jesus and the HOPE He brings to all. Another best part of Christmas for me is visiting the cancer center where my mom had treatments and giving a teddy bear to a cancer patient from Build-A- Bear workshop in honor and in memory of my mom. Bittersweet moment but well worth the tears :o)

 

Merry Christmas to you all! — Dawson 

 

Next Week: With Christmas passed and New Years on the way, people begin thinking about resolutions. What are some of your New Years resolutions? Any suggestions on how to turn those resolutions into reality?

 

 

 

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Posted 12-23-2010 9:54 AM by Dawson

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Ethan wrote re: 173. Holiday Highs and Lows: The Real Meaning of Christmas
on 12-25-2010 4:22 PM |

Hey,  so what I have to say has nothing to do with what this bloggs about.  I just really need help.  I'm 17 my girlfriend is 16 and she's 7 weeks pregnant.  So we went to planned parent hood a week ago for an abortion but while we were there I kinda talke her out of it.  Now I think shell keep it,  she doesn't want to but I think she would if we all would support her.  The problem is her dad wants her to get the abortion done, her mom wants her to keep it, I was talked to her mom last night and she said that re only way we could stop the abortion is, her go to the church elders and have onenof them come talk to him.  The problem with that is she said that he would divorce her is she told someone.  So I just don't know what to do.  Like I know that having an abortion is wrong, but i don't want them to divorce either.  I feel like that if I tell him not to do it and that it's wrong he would kick me out and not let me back,  I'm already not allowed over while he's there. Im finding myself slippig into depression and not beig able to tell anyone why I'm having such a hard time.I just don't know what to do, I don't want to be the reason they divorce but I don't want to be the reason that they get a divorice.  please help me!!!

Lara wrote re: 173. Holiday Highs and Lows: The Real Meaning of Christmas
on 12-26-2010 8:36 PM |

april 6 2009 my dad lost his job we couldnt make our house payments so we downsised but my dad has back problems so he cant work my mom works at home depot but to get to the point my dad had tryed to get disability but anyway we were struggling to pay the bils many times people sent us moneybut this christmas a guy my mom works with bought us chrisymas presents he spent 800 dollrs on all of us but thursday we got the disabilty letter it was approved when we were down and deppressed god pulled us up GOD IS GREAT

Joe wrote re: 173. Holiday Highs and Lows: The Real Meaning of Christmas
on 12-28-2010 3:24 PM |

Please be in prayer for my friend who is very sick this time of year and is in desperate need of the flu shot.  She is a great person just ill

Naomi wrote re: 173. Holiday Highs and Lows: The Real Meaning of Christmas
on 12-30-2010 11:50 AM |

Christmas is hard for me since my family's relationship with my relatives and my brother and sister was pretty much destroyed. I dread Christmas since my sister left on December 26, 2006 and I haven't seen her since Christmas of 2007. My brother left a week later, and Christmas for me is full of bad memories. THe hope I do have at Christmas is through Jesus, when he was born to die for me.

jadee wrote re: 173. Holiday Highs and Lows: The Real Meaning of Christmas
on 01-11-2011 2:50 PM |

i know im writing just a bit late, but i want everyone to know that god is always there with you. he is your everything. we are blessed to have for us, for  him to always be there with us, even though we are sinful. i hope that 2011 will be a new year for experiences, relationships, and much much more. and i ask everyone to pray for the victims of the arizona shooting and their families. please.

elaine wrote re: 173. Holiday Highs and Lows: The Real Meaning of Christmas
on 01-28-2011 11:56 AM |

jesus is the reason for the season