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Advice please?

Squidge — Thu, 17 May 2012 05:45:10 GMT

hey guys. i'm new here and i'll be honest i don't normally like to blurt my problems out to the world but i really don't know how to handle this. Ok, back story, i've been dating a girl for over a year. We fell in love, and moved a little quickly but we had planned to get married and blah blah blah. She's 17, i'm 21. We were/are trying to save money to start school in the fall. Starting for her, going back for me. (I've been in a factory for a year) The problem: She's going on a vacation to see her family. Originally she told me it was going to be a week. Then she decided she wanted to take two weeks. I don't have a problem with her going to see her family, but my issue is that two weeks is longer than any vacation i've ever heard of and i think she should be back here looking for a car and a job so that we can focus on our future. Not too mention, i'm working 5-6 days a week, with an average of 54+ hours. I mentioned this problem to her and all she wants to do is tell me i'm wrong and controlling her. What are you're thoughts on the issue? I just want to know how to deal with it because she's already pretty much left me but she says she needs time to think and i just want to forget about it and move on with the relationship when she gets back but she tells me she wants me to know why i'm wrong and i don't believe i am

im sick of this happening

free 2B me — Tue, 15 May 2012 14:30:22 GMT

okay, so i have this friend, well shes sort of a friend... but she says shes a christian, but shes constantly falling and focusing on the bad in life. id put her under the "attention freak" category if i had to. she tells me and many others her problems and im pretty sure shes doing it just for a reaction. i usually try to help. but theres a point where I just dont care. i dont want to hear about every problem.. would you? especially when its basically the same thing over and over again.. "i want to cut" "i want to die" i just dont care anymore last thing i want to do is for that to happen but i almost told her to do it. i was thinking it, very loudly, not meaning it of course.... i just dont know what to do i maybe just stop talking to her change subject? i dont know. i just know i (and several others) are tired of her need for constant attention. seriously ive said all i could.. and what i want is not something you think i should do, its what YOU WOULD DO in this situation.. help?

Site problems

FaithChick26 — Thu, 17 May 2012 00:11:37 GMT

I came on here lst week for the first time since like Novemembr or December. I had several conversations with ppl. So weni saw three had responded i was happy. Wen i clicked on Conversations i couldnt read the conversation. I can only Report or Delete. I thought maybe i culd delete the current conversations and start new ones. But i cant start conversations either. Anyone elsehaving the same issue? Andyone kno wats wrong and how to fix it.

A big family shock

Stephanie1997 — Sun, 23 May 2010 05:10:09 GMT

On, top of my nana having to be in the hospital with a stroke but family secrets are coming out. Things with abuse and other terrible things like that. please pray for my family and my nana. :)

Please pray for my Fiancee.

Sweettooth — Wed, 16 May 2012 01:20:45 GMT

I know there are more important prayers that need to be answered, but please continue reading this and keep me in your prayers. I'm desperate. My Fiancee lives in Wisconsin, while I live in the south. We're far away from each other, but we talk online and stuff like that. I haven't talked to him in 2 months. He isn't getting on, he isn't answering his phone. I don't know what to do. I keep praying for us to get some kind of answer from him but it seems like my prayers are not being heard. Please pray for him to get on or answer his phone. I'm terrified that something awful happened, and I don't know what to think. If you do pray for me, thank you so much for taking time out of your day/night to do so, it is considerably appreciated. I just want him back, I want to talk to him again. Once again, thank you.

Just remember...

FaithChick26 — Wed, 16 May 2012 16:23:13 GMT

No matter where you come from. What you look like. Who your friends are or who yoru family is. God loves you. It doesnt matter what your past is like. Or how you are living. God loves you and wants you to love him. Every tear that fall God knows. He knows if you are hurting and he hurts for you. He wants the best for you and he wants you to stop hurting. There is Hope. God will use what you are going through for good not bad. Jeremiah 29:11 "For i know the plans i have for you they are for good and not harm." There are people who love and care about you . And no matter how many tears you shed here on Earth there are no tears in heavan.

anorexia/bulimia

free 2B me — Wed, 16 May 2012 02:22:38 GMT

im struggling again... when i was in 7th grade i started gaining weight. lots of it... then i was told i was getting fat... it was my best friend's dad and he was totally joking and i knew it. then when i went home i looked in the mirror and i had gained almost 50 lbs within 8 months. i couldnt stand it anymore so i stopped eating, and when i did eat..it wasnt there for long. i stopped with the help of my boyfriend. longer story short, its been an ongoing fight, on and off for the past 4-5 years. and now im struggling with it again.. im not fat i know that, i love how i look, as long as i have a loose fitted shirt on. but now that summer is coming up (and the only thing stores sell now are bikinis) that want to lose weight (fast) is overwhelming. i am forcing myself to eat, but there are some days where i dont want to eat. and i cant pull myself through...

Prayer Request from xxandes

His Servant — Tue, 11 May 2010 19:43:38 GMT

I'm trying to help... but I'm being to critical... she can't see that the guy who broke up with her is confused and messed up.. and her emotions are being played with. Please pray for her, and her ex boyfriend, and me... so I don't say the wrong thing.

xxandes

Pray for my Cousin

KatieBug1313 — Mon, 14 May 2012 04:39:58 GMT

Please pray for my cousin her name is Grace and she needs prayer. she has had many surgrys and shes only 9. She can't talk yet and is vary tiny. but she has learned to walk:) She is sure a cutie and I love her but she is in lots of pain by just looking at her. She still will probably have more surgrys and lets hope they will all be sucesfull:)

maybe im not a good christian.

FaithChick26 — Tue, 15 May 2012 18:12:37 GMT

i became a christian a year ago. before that i supported gay marriages and thought it didnt matter if i had sex or not before marriage. And i thought wictchcraft. Anyway wen i becam a christian everyone started saying gay people are abominations to the world. my dad is gay. and i love him very much. Sure god madea man for a woman. But people r tellin mei shuldnt viit him anymore. And that its important to be pure for marriage. ya i agree with that. But now people r tellin me how to dress.Like i shuldnt wear skinny jeans or skater shoes. or low cut shirts. Well im srry but i like those clothes. O and i cant skate board cuz non-christians do that. And i shuldnt date anyone. i feel like maybe im a bad christian. o an people r telling me to stop hangin out with my old friends. I want to get wild colors in my hair. I want to get another pircing in my ears. And wen i get older i wanna get a tatoo. But i cant cuz its sinning or christians rnt supposed to get any of that. I work hard to be a good christian. But if being a christian mens losing my personality. maybe i cant be one.

Past bullying

Shyandquietgirl — Mon, 14 May 2012 03:23:06 GMT

I was bullied alot in school and it taught me how to hate myself. I locked my personality away in a shell so no one could hate me for it. I ho to a new school now and what people said is affecting me more than ever. I don't get bullied here but I stoped eating because I'm scared people will call me fat again. The worse part is my shell is breaking. My personality is showing and I couldn't be more afraid. I know it's only a matter of time before they start to bully me again. I am sliping back into self harm and getting worse than before. I just want my personalty to stay hidden but the scratching and slight cutting isn't helping. I've been thinking about cutting harder and I don't know what to do. I have no idea how to accept who I am.

Asking for PHONE NUMBER PPL ARE RUDE

Cutie7519 — Tue, 15 May 2012 12:59:09 GMT

I would NEVER IN A MILLION *** YEARS PUT MY *** CELL NUMBER ON A *** SITE I CAME FOR HELP! YOU PPL NEED NOT TO KNOW MY CELL NUMBER I HOPE THEY DELETE THIS *** GOD *** ACCOUNT!

Friendship

Brian walte — Mon, 14 May 2012 03:41:53 GMT

I have this really good friend. I took her to homecoming and we were trying to date but our parents wouldn't let us. We really clicked. We decided to just stop talking. I now regret doing that, I want her back so bad but I don't know how to get her back. I'm moving in 90 days and I can't get over her. I dont know what to do

Prayer for a little girl.

FaithChick26 — Sun, 13 May 2012 15:44:52 GMT

A little girl of six years old is in ICU at the hospital. She was ATVing in Utah with her family and got in an accident. Her liver is lacerated and she is in ICU. Please pray for her.

Life sucks

FaithChick26 — Sat, 12 May 2012 22:44:11 GMT

I know some people have a Much harder life than me. I was in Africa so i kno. But to me my life sucks. Last year soo manypeople called me a ***. I dated all the wrong guys and i paid for that. Rumors went around that is was a major party girl. And that i went to a party practically every weekend and got wasted and high. I never got wasted. I mean had somewine once last summer but thats it. And ive never done drugs. Ya ive held a bag of weed. But it was some guys. And another rumor tha went around was i slept wit this guy in my class. He was currently my boyfrien and i knew he had a rep for sleeping with his girlfriends. But the worst part of that was i went along with it. I didnt even appempt to say i didnt. I was a cutter i stopped May seventh of last year . But i started again. I stopped now but i dont kno how long it will las. I don wanna live with my mom. She controls every part of mylife. If i moved wit my dad across the country i culd start over. I wldnt be known as a *** or a party girl. Butmy mom hates mdad. She books up my summers with camps so i cant see him. Im so tired of this. I think the only way to end this pain is to end my life. Nobody wuld miss me anyway.

secret

free 2B me — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 17:54:26 GMT

have you ever had a secret? One that you should tell someone? or rather have something happen that you should tell someone about, bu not have the courage to tell? Im in that exact situation. i need to tell my parents and my bf, but they already have to much to worry about. i dont want to put them through more stress...if i dont, nothing bad will happen, but i just dont know what to do. and if i do tell em, how do,i tell em? Im scared right now... and just need some help, sorry abt not putting more info down... not really ready to fully talk about it just yet.

Please pray for me!

john8400 — Sat, 12 May 2012 12:35:23 GMT

I'm dealing with a couple financial situations that could really be disasterous if they don't turn out well. It's really wearing on me, causing me a great deal of anxiety and depression, making me wonder sometimes if I can go on. I just really need a touch from the Lord and a miracle. Pray that God will get me through this. Thanks!

Pray for church

mcgraw — Thu, 10 May 2012 19:43:43 GMT

pray for church strife and those that need strength to stand strong. Pray for pastors and leaders of the church to lesd in the important issues that need to be sddressed. That christians would repent and turn from sin. amen

Need direction

Wolverine22 — Wed, 09 May 2012 18:41:59 GMT

What should I do? I go to church and pray and all of that, but I don't know what god wants me to do right now.

How Long Did Your Longest Relationship Last?

WebmasterNoah — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 16:01:23 GMT

How Long Did Your Longest Relationship Last? What Made it Last Long?

Missing my daughter

Brittany8503 — Tue, 08 May 2012 02:09:26 GMT

Some days are good,some are ok and then there are the ones like tonight when I'm really sad and angry.. I lost my daughter two years ago last month and I cannot understand why,I was a good mother to her and she was such an amazing girl. I thought maybe someone would pray that I have peace and and let it go..

Hard Times...

Brooklyn193 — Tue, 08 May 2012 05:49:08 GMT

I was sexually abused when I was five by my brother and by a few boys in the neighborhood I lived in. Ever since I realized that it affected me more than I ever thought possible, I have been cutting and feeling suicidal from time to time. I was talking to a live hopecoach last night about how I felt and my internet got disconnected for a second...the police showed up a few minutes later asking me about who I was talking to online and why I wanted to kill myself...

I feel like I can't talk to anyone now. That was really embarrassing... I wasn't even suicidal last night. But I do understand why they had to do that. Anyway, I would just like prayer for being able to trust people, to trust God, to let go...I need something to change here. I'm lost.

Sexual temptation

aschwiring — Tue, 08 May 2012 11:48:10 GMT

I need some feeback on this question:

If you knew having sex before marriage was bad and you do it anyway, what is going to happen to you? Will God still love and forgive you? I actually love this guy and want him, but he wants to make love to me. I am not against it but I do values. He does know that. I am not sure what I need to do. We both do love each other which is really hard cause I dont want any of us to get hurt.

Have You Ever Thought About Committing Suicide?

WebmasterNoah — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 15:22:40 GMT

Have You Ever Thought About Committing Suicide?

The Ones I Don't Want To Live Without...

wolfpup — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 01:34:56 GMT

ok. this is my situation...

My two very best friends ever, Amy and Crystal are hated enemies.

Amy I've known since kindergarten, while Crystal I've known for only about a year. No one likes Crystal, she's a "dork" and "childish" but she's also my friend and I don't think she's any of those things. All of my other friends don't like her because of her personality or her looks or some other excuse, etc. and it pushes on me. And it's onlt gotten worse since Amy and her started fighting, I knew it was going to happen eventually, but still, it's a hard blow to take, I love them both and don't want to lose them, but I don't know how much more of this I can take...

My friend, Josh, who I've known for almost three years now is really popular, but he's still a nice guy, he's helped me a lot in the past, but he can be so flippin DENSE sometimes I just wanna smack him upside his head! He's got a bunch of health problems that add to his already hectic life and he acts like he's nothing to anybody. He says he wants to move back to Florida because there's too much drama and too many people to deal with. Him and Amy are really close, like Amy realllllly, really, REALLY likes him and he likes her, though he'd never admit it to her and when he says that kind of stuff it really hurts her and me and he just doesn't seem to notice. Well he does, but it's like he can't believe we would care about him that much. He doesn't trust very easily, mostly because his last girl friend broke his heart eight times!!! I'm surprised he took her back after round four finding out she was cheating on him for his two best friends, ever since she moved away, (HALLELUJAHHHHH!!!) he just hasn't been the same.

I would appreciate some ideas on how to handle both situations! Thanks!!!