Nowhere To Go

What do I do: I have no place to go

1. If you are living in the streets your first priority must be your physical safety. As you probably already know, living on the streets can be very dangerous. Do all that you possibly can to ensure that you are safe from other people, places, and the weather. Of course the best way to do this is to get off of the streets. This means, however, that you will have to trust someone.
2. Most likely you have been burned by trusting people in the past. You may have been lied to and taken advantage of more than you care to remember. In fact, it was probably the uncaring actions of someone else who helped to put you into your current situation. However, here at this point in your life you need to allow others to help you. Begin to think about people or organizations who can offer you help. Who has shown you kindness in the past? Maybe a teacher, minister, counselor? Are there organizations in your community that you can reach out to, such as a church or a shelter? If no person or place comes to mind, then go to the police station and talk to them. If you are a minor they are sure to help you find a place to stay. If you are over 18, then they will know of some resources for you to consider.
3. Take time to consider the events that led to your current situation. While it is true that the decisions and actions of others may have contributed to your having no place to go, it is also possible that your own actions or attitudes played a key role. Is there a need for you to reconcile a relationship with a parent or friend? If so, then now is the time to do this. If you are in this situation do not allow a stubborn attitude to keep you out with no place to go. Sometimes it is better to go back, say your sorry, and work on making things better than to stay out with no place to go.
4. Setting goals is a very good way to endure difficult times. Even though you may feel hopeless and like abandoned, giving up will not be the best thing for you. Instead, think of at least three short-term goals and at least three long-term goals for your life. Short-term goals should be reachable in less than six months. This can be like finding a short-term place to life, or making a serious effort to find a part-time job. A long-term goal has more to do with life after high school. It may be getting accepted into a particular college or trade school or could even be getting a job in a particular profession. If you focus your attention on these goals you may find that you have the energy and motivation required to get out of your situation. Goals help you to maintain hope. Hope keeps you going, even when life seems unbearable.
5. If you are in school, ask to speak honestly and openly with the school counselor or a trusted teacher about your situation. If you have been abused, report this to them. Give them a chance to help you and to show that they care about what happens to you.
6. Look for ways to get involved with friends outside of school. Consider attending a church youth group or attending an after-school club. Finding just one close friend can make a huge difference for you to get through this time.
7. Don’t give up. Be aware that the stress you are feeling may cause you to consider things that you had not before thought of such as taking drugs or abusing alcohol. Now is not the time to rely on substances. You need clarity of mind right now.
8. Call the HopeLine (1-800-394-HOPE) to talk or visit www.dmlive.com to chat with a live person.