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How To Get Along With Your Parents

Do You Get Along With Your Parents?

Nothing has a greater impact on our lives than our families. The family is the most powerful unit of society, influencing and shaping every man, woman and child for good or for bad. Unfortunately, there is plenty of pain in families. In fact, people are more profoundly hurt by those in their own family than anywhere else. Parents hurt their children and children hurt parents. Many people carry the wounds and scars they receive in their home for the rest of their lives.

The family is actually designed to be a place where our needs are met and we’re able to learn how to love and relate to others. It is within the family we are shaped into being what we are.

Some of you have a great relationship with your parents, while others find it to be one of the most difficult challenges you face. Dalton commented and expressed this very thing: I wish I had better relationship with my mother. I love her to death but we have so many differences and we just don’t bond.

So, how can you help move your relationship with your parents from being a source of pain, to becoming a source of love and life? Here are a few ideas

Take Responsibility for Your Part in Your Family.

The family is the most powerful unit of society, influencing and shaping every man, woman and child for good or for bad.

One of the easiest ways to wreck a family is to be irresponsible and blame others when things go wrong. But Dawson, you say,It’s not me! The bad things in my family are not my fault! Just remember this, if you are having struggles with your family, neither is it all their fault, nor all your fault. You can’t make your parents change, but you can take responsibility for your part of the relationship. The part you can control the most is your own attitude. Sometimes on my show, Dawson McAllister Live, I hear some horrible stories of what parents have done to their kids. When I hear them I become irate. It upsets me so much. (I’ll talk about living in an abusive home later.) Yet, it is still true, blaming others only hurts you and gets in the way of your being whole and emotionally healthy. You need to say, It may not be my fault I was hurt, but it is my responsibility to do all I can to make peace in my family. You can’t solve every relationship problem, but you can manage it.

Understand Your Parents are God’s Tool in Your Life.

One of the easiest ways to wreck a family is to be irresponsible and blame others when things go wrong.

From the very beginning, it was God’s idea your parents would be an incredible tool to shape your life forever. It’s God’s plan for your parents to nurture and help you grow physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually. Parents have the ability to see bad attitudes and weaknesses in your life. Everyone has rough edges or bad attitudes that get in the way of being happy. It’s important for you to exchange the bad attitudes for good ones. One of the best ways this happens is through the pressure and discipline of your parents.

You can’t solve every relationship problem, but you can manage it.

When you are willing to honor and obey your parents, you are honoring their God-given responsibility and role in your life. You are saying to them, You are God’s tool in my life and I want to cooperate. Sometimes it may feel like obeying your parents is the most difficult thing possible. And sometimes it doesn’t seem to make any sense at all. But in the end, most of our parents do love us and want what’s best for us, and doing what they ask will be a great way to have a stable life. In fact, I have never met a teenager or young adult who is at war with his or her parents, and still happy. It’s all but impossible. That’s why we need to do all we can do to be at peace with them, no matter how flawed they may appear to be.

Most of our parents do love us and want what’s best for us, and doing what they ask will be a great way to have a stable life.

Amy commented about how when her parents tell her to do something, she works hard to not complain about it. Give them a little help, maybe they need it, maybe they don’t. But either way, it is easier to do what they ask instead of arguing. If they ask you to do something like, clean the kitchen when you have a huge exam the next day, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and then calmly explain that you need to study. Maybe suggest that they help you to get the task done faster. They really do want what is best for you, even if it is hard to see it at times.

Dawson McAllister Dawson McAllister (born in New Kensington, Pennsylvania) is an American speaker, radio host, and author. He is the founder of Dawson McAllister Association and TheHopeLine and host of the national radio program Dawson McAllister Live, which is aired on Sunday nights. Dawson has been speaking to and in support of teenagers and young adults for over 40 years.
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