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You Can Be Twenty-Five Percent Happier

by Dawson McAllister

Giving Thanks Increases Happiness

Let’s be honest. Sometimes life is really hard. We feel broken, lonely, shamed, hopeless. It’s hard to find the positive in anything. And why should we even bother to try? Everything is just messed up. But what if we made a point to find SOMETHING to be happy for. What would happen to us?

Trust me, I’ve had my share of trials. Did you know I have a son who was in a car accident in his early twenties and now lives in a nursing home because he had a traumatic brain injury? It’s sometimes hard to “look on the bright side.” I get it.

But here’s something to consider, research has proven that intentionally giving thanks for things in your life, even in the tough times, increases your happiness by twenty-five percent! Now tell me, who doesn’t want to be twenty-five percent happier?

Research Proves You Can Be 25% Happier

In a study done by Emmons and McCullough, they asked some of the participants to maintain a journal recording things for which they were grateful and a separate group of participants to record things they found annoying. When the results came back they found that participants in the group monitoring things for which they were grateful had significantly higher levels of well-being than the others. It turns out that practicing gratitude increases happiness, optimism, and satisfaction with your life by approximately 25%.

Thankfulness, even in the tough times, increases your happiness by 25%! #givethanks Click To Tweet

It makes sense. Whatever you wire your brain to focus on is going to directly impact how you feel. Emmons says. “When you express a feeling, you amplify it. When you express anger, you get angrier; when you express gratitude, you become more grateful.”

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Practicing Gratitude

So how do you go about “practicing gratitude”? It could be as simple as making a point every day to stop and find at least one thing to be thankful for. And don’t convince yourself there isn’t even one thing to be thankful for because there always is. If you are choosing to not find even one thing, then you are essentially choosing unhappiness. That is your choice. But if you want to try to find happiness look around you.

Perhaps the thing you are thankful for is as simple as…

My favorite comfy sweats
That person who held the door for me when I was shopping
The warm shining sun
Singing with the radio
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Here were some things I found to be thankful for in the midst of my heart ache for my son.

He receives great care and is loved by many
We can still share a laugh together
He often gives me a big thumbs up
I am still able to host my radio show which I love
And my list could go on…

Make a point every day to stop and find at least one thing to be thankful for. #givethanks Click To Tweet

These are a start. A start to training your brain to look for something good. I know it doesn’t make the bad go away, but your attitude will start to shift.

You can also practice gratitude by keeping a journal and documenting things to be thankful for. This is a great tool to go back and read when you are feeling down.

Further Research: Helping Others Increases Morale

The study also found that grateful people stop focusing so much on their pain and problems, and rather start to see how they can help others in distress. It is a great morale booster to take your eyes off your own problems and focus on helping others.

Great Morale Booster: Take your eyes off your own problems and focus on helping others. #helpinghand Click To Tweet

If you need some help to get started with how to give back, we’ve come up with a list of our Top 10 Ways to give back. Click here to view the list.

There is a verse in the Bible that says, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). God knew that life on earth wasn’t going to always be easy once sin came into the world, but he also knew long ago, what researchers have just recently proven…that if we continually give thanks through it all, we will make it through the tough times and find happiness.

What can it hurt? Give it a try. Give thanks!

My Best Friend’s Suicide Hurt Me

I Was Shook By My Best Friend’s Suicide

If anyone would have told me that you were going to come and leave so quickly from my life, I would have smacked them and called them a fool. We made it to 6 months. In those 6 months, you became my life. April, I have never met a more beautiful, bright, amazing and loving girl. You made me feel so far from alone. You made me feel like I mattered. You showed me the true definition of a best friend.

But you were always so sad. I tried to do anything I could to help you forget your troubles. We went out on dates, hung out everyday, went and spent nights at the barn with your horses. April, we did everything we thought best friends were supposed to do, but just when I thought you were the thing that saved me from me, I got the worst news…that you took your own life. My best friend’s suicide shook me to the core.

I Am Sorry I Couldn’t Save You

April, I’m sorry I couldn’t save you. You made me feel so much life where I thought I never would feel it again, you truly brought out the real me. I wasn’t afraid around you and you never judged me. I will not ever forget the last night I saw you. You called me and asked if I had a cigarette, and I saved my last one for us to share. When you came through my gate, your eyes were covered in tears. We sat and I hugged you and I told you we would get through this. That it was just another bump. You cried and told me that you couldn’t take it anymore, that you hurt too much. We talked for about an hour, I cleaned up your tears, and we said we loved each other. You told me you would call me in the morning.

I never got that call, but you did that a lot so I didn’t think much of it. Two days later I found out you overdosed. All I could think about was that I really wish I could have saved you. I wish I could have said something to change your mind. April, everyone says it was an accident, but I know the truth. You were so full of life, yet so broken inside. I wish you could have seen how loved you truly were.

To Survivors of Suicide Loss

My Best Friend’s Suicide Was a Whole Other Type of Hurt

Losing someone you love to suicide is a whole other type of hurt. I lost my first friend when I was 19, to a murder. That hurt me in ways I thought were impossible. But losing you, April, knowing you were in my arms hours before you decided to depart the earth, makes my heart feel in ways I never knew I could feel. We may have been friends for less than a year, but you were one of the most amazing friends I have ever had. April, you showed me what a real friend was and you showed me a true friend.

Suicide Doesn’t End the Pain

April, losing you made me realize that I may be sad and I may want to die sometime, but I now fully understand the meaning of, “suicide doesn’t end your pain, it only passes the pain on to the ones who love you”.

Reach Out and Talk to Someone About Your Thoughts of Suicide

My message to anyone reading this and thinking about killing yourself….never be afraid to reach out and talk to someone! People love you! You are more beautiful and amazing than you think and you do have a purpose!

Sincerely,

April’s Best Friend

If you or a friend need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, for free confidential, 24/7 help. Head here for a list of crisis centers around the world. For additional help, please visit the suicide prevention resource page.

The Reason – Lacey Sturm [Video]

The Reason

This is one of our favorite songs by Lacey Sturm.

“All my life I searched for something to satisfy the longing in my heart. And everytime I come away emptier than before. And now I finally see the reason, cause I was made to be yours alone. You formed my heart with your own hands, but I just could not understand. If I gave you my life, I’d be healed by your grace. I was made for your love, but gave others your place.”

You too have a reason. This hope is yours as well!

For more resources on the topic of suicide go to our Suicide Resource Page.

Your Scars Are Proof That God Heals

Do you often feel like a failure? This blog was originally published on Anthem of Hope, a non-profit dedicated to illuminating hope for those battling brokenness, depression, anxiety, self-harm, suicide and addiction.

Your scars are proof that God heals.

We live in a world that calls failure a weakness, and labels weakness a flaw. We are taught to mask the truth because, “it’s better if you keep your pain to yourself,” and that the best way to lead is from our strengths instead of our weakness. This is not the way to live, and I’d encourage you to do exactly the opposite.

If I can be honest, I think our world has built itself on a shallow and narrow foundation. The truth is that this foundation is ready to crack at any second. Our society doesn’t allow people the freedom to share their pains, their struggles or their hardships. These “dark times” have become surrounded by stigmas and kept quiet instead of being allowed to be spoken of freely. While I know this is just my opinion, I think I have a pretty valid point to stand upon.

1. “Crying is not allowed.”

2. “Keep your pain to yourself.”

3. “Don’t show your weaknesses.”

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There is hope.

These are things we’ve heard throughout life. And while many of us may try to shake off their weight, you’d be surprised to know how many people are haunted by these thoughts on a daily basis. I believe in a God of Grace, love, and second chances. And if it wasn’t for those divine qualities all working together, I can promise you that I wouldn’t be standing here today. I’ve been redeemed. No matter how dark and desolate your life is or was, there is hope and God can take your life to places you never thought imaginable. Every cut, bruise and broken bone can be mended and made new by the love of God.

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I am not proud of my past.

I’m not proud of my past, but I wear my scars on my sleeve because I am proud of who I’ve become in Christ. You should as well. These scars remind us that we can conquer all things and that healing is possible. There is nothing too broken for God. He can fix anything because he created everything, and that includes you.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”—2 Corinthians 5:17

My failures and mistakes are NOT my most treasured moments, but because of them I am now a living testimony of His redemption and grace. Guess what? So are you! Your story, your past, your suffering and pain, it can all be used as a testimony and story to help others.

Don’t hide your scars, wear them as proof that God heals. It's okay to not be okay. @JarridWilson Click To Tweet

Your story is His glory. Share it to the world. Don’t hide your scars, wear them as proof that God heals. It’s okay to not be okay.

—Anthem of Hope

Do you feel like the pain will never end?

Your future is amazing and we want to show you how you can find a lasting hope in knowing that you are loved and have a purpose! Download our free eBook, Understanding Hope, for help.

How Can I Find Hope?

by Dawson McAllister

LIFE.

It can be really, stinkin’ hard sometimes, right?

When your situation gets really tough…You just can’t find happiness anymore…Everything seems to be going against you…

What keeps you from just giving up?

HOPE.

Have you ever wondered, “How Can I Find Hope?”

Hope keeps you hanging on because it allows you to believe that:

Things will get better.
You have a purpose to fulfill.
There is a plan for your life.
You are cared for

But I would like to suggest that people are losing hope at alarming rates.

As the founder of TheHopeLine which has been around for 25 years, I’ve seen trends. While relationship issues with friends, dating, and parents used to be the number one thing people wanted to talk about…now it is self-worth issues, suicide, depression.

And statistically, we can look at national suicide rates and note that they are up significantly. The Centers for Disease Control recently released a report that shows that between 1999 and 2016 suicide rates went up by more than 30 percent in over half the states.

Why are we losing hope?

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5 Reasons for Losing Hope.

In my many conversations with teenagers and young adults, I hear variations of these five reasons over and over. I believe these statements capture some of the leading causes of hopelessness:

They have no experience receiving unconditional love which causes feelings of worthlessness.
Their identities are tied to changing circumstances and not a secure source, so they don’t know who they are.
Life is meaningless. They can’t find a purpose.
Intense feelings of being alone, rejected, abandoned…no one cares.
Inability to find anything to look forward to.

Do any of those describe you?

What Causes People to Feel so Lost?

Let’s consider the prevailing way people view the world in this moment. It’s often referred to as the postmodern worldview.

Perhaps this worldview can best be summarized with, “You do you.”

In some ways – I appreciate this saying – it allows people to be accepted for who they are without being judged harshly. “Be yourself.” There’s nothing wrong with that.

But on a deeper level, the message is, “You can believe whatever makes the most sense to you based on your life circumstances. There is no one truth. It’s all relative to your experiences.”

While this may sound good on the surface, the reality is it leaves a lot of people in a state of chaos.

Because what is true anymore and, well, what does work best for you?

When we are unstable without something solid to hold onto we start to lose our sense of self, our sense of purpose, our sense HOPE.

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Where do you start?

There are over 4,200 belief systems in the world today.

If any of them can be true…where do you start?

As you search for your own truth, you realize you are completely untethered. There is nothing to anchor yourself to. Especially if what you believe depends upon your circumstances because circumstances change. People in your life change. Everything is constantly moving. So if you are tying your identity and your belief system to your circumstances (even if that belief system is that you don’t believe in anything), what happens when your circumstances change?

You once again feel lost. Untethered.

So let me ask you a question that the postmodern worldview would appreciate…

How’s life working for YOU right now? How is what you believe or don’t believe working for you? Is it giving you hope? Do you feel secure? Is it helping you feel loved and cherished?

What Give Us Hope?

To match the 5 reasons people are losing hope that I mentioned above, I believe we have hope when:

We feel loved and valued.
We know who we are without a doubt.
Our purpose is clear.
We don’t feel abandoned.
Our future is bright.

How can we have this security?

Only one thing has consistently provided all of these things for me and that is my Christian faith. I am not talking about religion, but about my relationship with Jesus and my faith in Him.

Now you may decide to stop reading at this point. You may think that I am failing to give you practical advice. To which I say two things:

My practical advice for HOPE is to find unconditional love, a secure identity, a purpose, a community and a confident knowledge that your future is secure.
The only way I know how to find these things is through my faith. So I ask you, what kind of person would I be if I have found HOPE and I believe it is the ONE TRUTH that is UNCHANGING, and then I chose NOT to share it with you, would I be showing my genuine care and concern for you? If I kept this to myself when I believe it is the answer, would that be right?

So I hope you will keep reading because I really do genuinely care. If you are feeling hopeless, what do you have to lose?

I am going to briefly share how my faith has provided the above 5 things for me and how it gives me HOPE. For further detail, I hope you will download our free eBook, Understanding Hope.

You are Loved

My faith gives me the hope that I am loved by God. Always and forever. And so are you.

Even when you mess up. God loves you.

He created you and wants a relationship with you. The God of the universe thinks about you personally and wants the best for you. ALWAYS.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me! (Psalm 139:17-18)

And when bad things happen, that is not what He wants. He still loves you.

In this sinful world, people are going to fail you. Even those who are supposed to love you unconditionally, they are going to let you down sometimes. They aren’t perfect. And if every time a person fails you, you in turn start to wonder if you are worthy of love. You will lose hope.

That is why knowing you are loved by God is an anchor of hope! You are loved no matter what!

You have Worth

Do you find yourself tying your identity and your worth to:

What you achieve · What you look like · Who approves of you · Mistakes of your past

As a Christian, your worth and your identity are no longer defined by what the world says about you but rather by who God says you are. In the Bible He says you are:

Chosen ·Accepted ·Treasured ·Beautiful ·Protected ·Able ·Complete ·Known· Overcomer ·Masterpiece ·Rescued ·Held

Once you believe in the God of the Bible, these promises are yours to claim.

There is such hope in knowing that nothing can change who God says you are. Your identity is secure.

You have a Purpose

The whole idea that life is a vapid hole without meaning goes away when you are a Christian.

God designed you uniquely and created you in His image. He wouldn’t waste his time if you had no reason for existing.

God created you because he wants to have a relationship with you. He wants to love you, and in return, be loved by you. He is a personal God. We are here to praise Him for how great He is! To live lives that honor and glorify our Holy creator.

One way we honor and glorify God is to love others and that is our other purpose. In the Bible, God tells us that the most important things for us to do are to love God with all our hearts and love the people around us just as much as we love ourselves. Your purpose then is to:

Love God … Love yourself … Love others

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ (Matt 22:36-39)

Your purpose is to: Love God … Love yourself … Love others. #LoveGod #LoveOthers @DawsonRadio Click To Tweet

You are Not Alone

God promises to NEVER abandon his children.

God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” (Hebrews 13:5&6)

When you take the leap of faith to believe, there will be times when God feels super close and times he feels farther away, but faith allows you to trust that God’s promises are always true. Even when you feel alone, you recognize that is just a feeling. God is still there.

Years of believing in God have proven this truth to me. There have been many times in my life where my circumstances would have made me feel hopeless and alone, but God has always been my anchor to hold onto in the storms. The knowledge that He is unchanging, unmovable, trustworthy and good allow me to have HOPE.

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Your Future is Amazing

Do you ever feel like you have nothing to look forward to? That the same despair you may be feeling now will always be with you?

By putting your faith and trust in Jesus Christ, your life is made new. You get a fresh start. You are forgiven, no matter what you’ve done. God will pour out mercy, peace, grace, blessings, and love on you. Your future is secure.

And once you have given your life to Christ, you can rest assured that, no matter what you face in this lifetime, you can look forward to eternal life in heaven.

And heaven…well, it’s going to be great! More beauty than we can comprehend. But even better is the pure joy we will have. There will be no more tears, no more pain, and no more death.

Is This Hope for You?

It is certainly available to you if you choose it.

If you desire this kind of hope, please download our free eBook on Understanding a Hope to learn more.

You can also visit our Get Help page to talk to someone about this.

Here’s the thing…. Christians still have problems. We still make mistakes. Bad things still happen.

Once sin came into the world, God never promised us life would be easy. However, God promises to overcome all of it, to love us always, and to never leave us.

Read this and see if you relate:

I’ll never forget the trouble, the utter lostness, the taste of ashes, the poison I’ve swallowed. I remember it all—oh, how well I remember— the feeling of hitting the bottom.

That’s from the Bible – nothing much has changed in human feelings over thousands of years. Here is what the writer of that passage went on to say.

But there’s one other thing I remember, and remembering, I keep a grip on hope: God’s loyal love couldn’t have run out, his merciful love couldn’t have dried up. They’re created new every morning. How great your faithfulness! I’m sticking with God (I say it over and over). He’s all I’ve got left. God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits, to the woman who diligently seeks. It’s a good thing to quietly hope, quietly hope for help from God. It’s a good thing when you’re young to stick it out through the hard times. (Lamentations 3:19-26 MSG)

God provided hope to people then and still does today!

For more help with understanding hope and your purpose, download our free eBook!

Finding Purpose, A Cheating Boyfriend, and Jealousy: EP 12

The Hard Times Were the Best Times Because…

In This Episode:

Looking for Purpose

Luke was kicked out and has been living in his car for 2 weeks. He just found a friend to stay with and is looking for a job but things are not going his way yet. He’s determined not to quit trying. In the midst of all his struggles, he’s looking for his purpose.
Sometimes hard times force us to look for answers to life’s questions; such as: Why am I alive? What is the purpose of my being here? Luke is searching for the answers to those hard questions.

Played by Her Boyfriend

Nakita’s boyfriend played her pretty hard. She stood by his side, loved him and supported him. Instead of being faithful to her and treating her well, he lied to her and cheated on her. Now, the girl he cheated with, is pregnant. Nakita is having a hard time letting go of him but the truth is, there are no roads which lead back to him.

Jealousy Is Tearing Her Apart

What do you do when a friend shines brighter than you? Renee’s friend is getting all the attention and Renee is jealous of her. Renee says jealousy is ruining her life. The truth is, if we compare ourselves to others, it can cause us to have a jealous spirit. Renee doesn’t need to compare herself to her friend. Her friend may be beautiful and get lots of attention but Renee has been made in God’s image and has her own great qualities, especially in the eyes of God.

Did Today’s Episode Get You Thinking?

Most people’s problems are so deep and complicated, they are not solved on their own. I give advice which can help but Luke, Nakita, and Renee need to take the next right step. It’s not going to be easy but that’s why we have a lot of resources to help them and you, if you are facing your own struggles.

Resources to help you with finding purpose and relationship struggles:

Take a look at my eBooks: Understanding a Relationship with God, Understanding Cheating, and Understanding Self-Worth.
Check out my blogs: How to Spot a Toxic Friend, Your BF/GF is Cheating on You, Now What, and Versus of Hope for Relationships, Sex, and Cheating.
To learn more about having a meaningful relationship with God, check out my podcast episode 9: Find Hope and Peace Through a Relationship with God. I talked to a guy named Ronnie. The call was amazing, it really spoke to me. I think you’ll like it a lot. It just might be the most important podcast you’ll ever listen to.
Need prayer? I believe God wants to change your life and mine, through prayer. If you need prayer and would like to have someone pray for you, go to the ThePrayerZone.com and check it out.
Need to talk about your issues? Sign up for an Email Mentor, an online coach who will email you and come along beside you to offer support.

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Join me in my next episode where I talk with Calvin, Erin, and Chris, who are all dealing with parents against their relationships. Calvin’s girlfriend’s dad hates him. Erin’s mom is not happy about her dating an older guy, and Chris’ parents don’t like that he is back with his ex. My goal is to offer them insights which could help them and hopefully help you as well.

Remember, whatever you do, Never Lose Hope!
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My Hero – Billy Graham

by Dawson McAllister

God used Billy Graham to change my life. As I reflect back, Billy Graham was one of the top 5 people that had a dramatic influence over me.

This man inspired me greatly. He was a shining example of someone who dedicated his life to reaching people who were searching for real and lasting hope.

In many ways, he motivated me to spend my whole life reaching out to hurting teenagers and young adults.

I had the distinct privilege of meeting Billy Graham on a couple of occasions. One time when I was very young and another when I was starting my own ministry.

Last week at the age of 99 Billy Graham passed on to heaven. He is famously quoted throughout his life as saying, “My home is in heaven. I’m just passing through this world.” So we rejoice that he is now home with Jesus. As Billy Graham is laid to rest, I pause to reflect on my great memories of meeting my hero.

But first, let us remember who Billy Graham is…

Billy Graham’s Message

Billy Graham was a very influential evangelist and preacher in America. He held large indoor and outdoor rallies calling people to a relationship with Jesus Christ. His sermons were broadcast nationally on radio and television, beginning in the 1940’s until 2005 when he retired. He preached to live audiences of over 210 million people in more than 185 countries.

“Billy Graham pursued a singular vision—to share the love of Jesus Christ with all who would listen. In doing so he has met with Presidents, kings, queens, celebrities, and everyday men, women, and children. No matter his audience, the message is still the same. “Everywhere I go I find that people … both leaders and individuals … are asking one basic question,” Billy Graham has said. “‘Is there any hope for the future?’ My answer is the same, ‘Yes, through Jesus Christ.’” Billy Graham Library

Billy Graham’s message never changed. It is a simple message, but one that comes straight from God’s Word. “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16). A message of God’s love, God’s forgiveness, and God’s salvation through Jesus Christ.

To learn more about his message watch this: A Tribute to Billy Graham

My Personal Memories of Meeting Billy Graham

The first time I had an encounter with Billy Graham, I was but 10 years old and our whole family attended one of his crusades in a stadium in Minneapolis.

Once the crusade was over, he stepped off the stage and was heading for the exit. Several hundred people and I had the same idea, to shake Billy Graham’s hand. When I got within a few feet of him, people were surrounding him, wanting an autograph or to have Billy pray for them. I just wanted a handshake, so I finally grabbed Billy’s hand even as the crowd continued to grow. He drug me several feet before I let go. I’ll never forget that day, the day Billy Graham sort of shook my hand.

On Stage with Billy Graham

Years later, I was working in youth ministry in Southern California and Billy Graham was coming to town. I worked hard to spread the word about the Billy Graham crusade, encouraging teenagers and young adults to attend. I was invited to sit on the stage during the event. Before it began, Billy came over to me, reached out his hand for a handshake and thanked me for all the work I had done for teenagers. I was blown away by this meeting. He was a shy man with intense humble eyes.

I was sitting no more than 10 feet from Dr. Graham as he preached, right next to one of his personal aids. During his rally, the aid leaned over and said, “Did you know that Dr. Graham stepped on a bar of soap this afternoon and cracked 3 ribs?” He went on to say, “Billy is wearing a bullet proof vest and is in much pain.” I watched him as he preached. You could tell he was hurting, but he made it through the sermon. When the alter call started, thousands of people walked to the stage to accept Jesus Christ as Lord of their life. I thought, “What a man, preaching in pain and look at the results.” It was a once in a lifetime experience I will never forget.

Our friend and recording artist, Lacey Sturm, shares her tribute to Billy Graham in this video. His message touched so many!

Lacey Sturm: “We’re Still Here” To Continue Billy Graham’s Message.

Billy Graham…What a man! What a ministry!

If you are interested in learning more about where Billy Graham, Lacey Sturm and I all find our hope. Please download this free eBook Understanding a Relationship with God.

Inspiring Stories of Everyday Kindness

by Dawson McAllister

Making Kindness the Norm

I imagine you have heard the term Random Acts of Kindness (RAK), but did you know that every February there is a week dedicated to RAK? I think this is awesome because anything that promotes showing kindness to others is a win in my book. In my blog, The Kindness Experiment, I talk about how I believe showing kindness truly could change the world. Today I share stories of kindness shown in normal everyday life.

In an effort to help us all make kindness the norm and not the exception, I hope to inspire you today with 25 real-life stories of random acts of kindness. I hope this list encourages you to notice those around you and become aware of how you can bring sunshine to someone’s life.

Interesting side-note before we begin:

I asked my staff to share with me their personal stories of kindness and also asked this question, “What is the nicest thing someone ever did for you?” on social media. The list below is a compilation of the TRUE LIFE stories I received. As people thought of stories to share, they mentioned that they were surprised how these times when kindness was both shown to them and by them stuck out in their memories. I imagine this is true for two reasons. First – Kindness carries that much impact. Second – It is not the norm.

25 real-life stories of random acts of #kindness from TheHopeLine staff and you! #RAK Click To Tweet

Now here we go!

Random Acts of Kindness – Inspirational Stories

We can show kindness anywhere and anytime. Don’t miss the chance to seize the opportunity wherever you are!

Ideas for Showing Kindness at a Store:

I was walking through Target and my two-year old was throwing a tantrum and another woman walked past me, smiled and said “Don’t worry. You’re a great mom.” Just the encouragement I needed.
An elderly gentleman was attempting to carry six Styrofoam coolers to his car on a windy day. As I watched, they all started to blow across the parking lot. Together we began chasing coolers, laughing at ourselves and somehow managed to get them all into his car.
I overheard a woman that was crying and upset as I was shopping for purses in a TJ Maxx. She was talking on the phone about getting fired from a restaurant due to a misunderstanding about missing money. She had walked to the TJ Maxx and didn’t have gas in her car to get home or any money for the week. I felt the Lord tugging on my heart. He told me not to judge her, not worry about why she was fired or what she would do with the money. He said help her. After her phone conversation was over I walked up to her, hugged her and gave her the $40 cash that was in my purse. I told her I would pray for her and that God loved her. She lit up and couldn’t believe it! She was so thankful that someone cared.
It was my daughter’s 1st birthday and I went to purchase a birthday cookie and cupcakes. I was so embarrassed when my debit card was declined, that I just left the store. As I was getting into my car, a gentleman who was behind me in line came out and gave me the cookie and cupcakes and said it was on him. I cried and hugged him. How do you thank someone enough?
I was checking out at Wal-Mart and the cashier had the most beautiful color of vibrant pink dyed hair that I had ever seen. So I told her I loved her hair color. She went from a blank look as she scanned my groceries to an engaging smile as we proceeded to talk about how she was able to achieve that color.
We were going in to Kroger Marketplace one day and saw gentlemen riding in one of the electric chairs the store provides. It was raining and he had a basket full of groceries. I felt this need to help him. So I went over and asked if he wanted help putting his groceries in his car. He happily agreed. I noticed he had a Korean War Veteran hat on so when he asked if I would take $5 for my help, I told him no, his service was thanks enough. He was surprised. I told him to have a good day and took the electric chair back inside.
On a day that I was really low on cash and ran into two of my friends at the store. I didn’t tell them I was having financial problems, but had only $100 for the whole month. I filled my cart and prayed the entire time I was shopping. As I was checking out, I ran into them again and they paid for my whole cart of food. They said they both heard God tell them to pay for it for me!
I am a cashier at Walmart. I had a gentleman come in, and he told me that he had to pay a large sum of money for some sort of unexpected life event. He looked like he was lacking a few days of sleep, and was stressed. With the little money he had left over he planned to buy a DVD player. When he went to pay for it, it was 58 dollars. He only had $38. He looked disappointed. I went around the counter to where he was, and paid off what else he owed on the DVD player. He had tears to his eyes and thanked me for my act of kindness. That was the best moment of my career at Walmart.

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How to show Kindness at a Restaurant:

During my college years, I worked as a waitress and one night I spilled an entire pitcher of ice water on a lady in my booth. I was mortified and did my best to help her dry off. I couldn’t stop apologizing. She was very gracious and kept telling me, “It’s O.K. sweetie.” At the end of the night, I went to clear off her table. She had left me a note on the back of her ticket that said, “You did a great job. Remember God Loves You.” Along with my biggest tip of the night!
I was finishing my internship at Walt Disney World so my mom flew down to spend a few days with me before we had to pack my things and fly back. We had a reservation at one of the park restaurants, and as we were seated, we began talking to this family at the table next to us. They were extremely nice and asked all kinds of questions about my internship. They were finishing up so our conversation was a brief five minutes. Mom and I had a nice dinner, and when we requested the bill, our server informed us that the family next to us payed for our entire bill. My mom, bless her heart, broke down with tears of happiness, and I shed a few myself. I will never ever forget that moment. (Facebook)
My granddaughter (10 years old) and I were Christmas shopping and stopped at the Mall’s food court for a quick lunch. We wanted different things so she when to get Pizza. She struck up a conversation with the woman in front of her. When she got to the front of the line the woman had paid for her food. My granddaughter was amazed and tried to insist that she pay for her own. The woman simply told her to study hard and pass it on when she got the opportunity.
A friend of mine and I went to lunch together and we could see our waitress was struggling. So we asked how she was doing. She said she was fine at first, but after some persuasion, she told us she was a single mom and didn’t have the money to cover her electric bill due that day. We asked how much she owed. We relayed our sympathies to her and went back to eating lunch. However, we both felt God tugging at our hearts to help her. I left the restaurant to go get cash and my friend spoke to the manager. The manager said she was a hard-working, honest person and he would allow her to take a break so she could go and pay her electric bill. When we gave her the money, her face was priceless. She told us how grateful she was as tears welled up in her eyes.

The Kindness Experiment

How to be kind at an airport:

A friend was walking through the airport with her 2-year-old and 3 month old, carrying a car seat and diaper bag and she was struggling to make her way to the baggage claim without losing her 2-year-old. No one paid her any attention. Finally – as she was nearing the baggage claim another lady offered to carry her car seat so she could hold her two-year old’s hand and it made all the difference.
Read Houston’s story – Would you stop to comfort a lady sobbing in the airport? Houston’s Story
One time on a very long flight from the states to Russia, I was assigned a seat next to a Russian young woman and her small child. It was a long flight and the child sat quietly for a while but then got bored and started trying to get out of his seat. His mom was calm, but you could see she was getting worn out trying to keep him entertained. Even though we couldn’t speak the same language, I started playing games with him. We drew pictures in my notebook. We had a lot of fun and before I knew it, we arrived. His mom gave me the biggest hug and I could see the gratefulness in her eyes

Examples of Kindness to students

During my senior year of high school, I had a part-time job but didn’t have much money for extras. I really wanted a yearbook but they were $50 and I just couldn’t afford it. The day came when yearbooks were being passed out. I had my little notebook of blank paper so I still get everyone’s signatures. When I heard my name called to go and pick up a yearbook, I just knew it had to be a mistake but I went ahead to check it out. The lady handing them out said with a smile, “Here’s your yearbook, someone anonymously paid for you.” I was blown away. Still to this day, I don’t know who paid for it.
As a sophomore, Sabrina Ma started an Acts of Random Kindness Club at her school as a way to deal with her own internal strife and help others – Acts of Random Kindness Club
When my parents were going through a divorce in middle school, my 7th grade teacher didn’t make a fuss when I misplaced a HUGE homework packet. She whispered to me later that she believed I did it and gave me an A. I wanted to fall apart every day during middle school, but she was a huge light in those dark times.
At the end of a year in college, I had just enough money for gas to get me back home for the summer. The air conditioner in my car wasn’t working and since it was the end of May and I had a long trip home, I asked a mechanic to check it out. He couldn’t fix the air conditioner in time, but when he brought the car back to me, he had filled the car with gas and left $7 stuck on the steering column. Not only was it a random act of kindness to me, but another assurance that God loving provides for His children.
Read Rachel’s story of the incredible impact just saying “hi” can have. Just Say “Hi”

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Showing Kindness in Your Community & Neighborhood

There is town in frigid South Dakota where residents put stocking caps on all the statues in town with the known purpose that the homeless can help themselves to a hat.
My neighbor was fighting breast cancer and I saw this super-soft, long-sleeved t-shirt on-line that said “It is Well With My Soul.” I knew that quote meant a lot to her, so I ordered it and dropped it off one day with a book of prayer.
The nicest thing anyone has done for me was when a new neighbor, to whom I had been ministering, told me that she could see Jesus in me, because no one had ever shown her love the way I had shown it!
One evening as my daughter and I were leaving our church a family pulled into the parking lot in their station wagon. They were hoping to get a hot shower at the church before heading on to Indiana. As we talked, the lady shared that her husband had been laid off for some time. I could see that she was weary and losing hope. They were trying to make it to Indiana as her husband had a job waiting for him, but the trip had cost them more money than they expected. She asked if we could help her with gas. I rarely carry cash, but I had stopped at the ATM on my way. This encounter was not random. I believe our heavenly Father allowed an opportunity to bless us both with an act of kindness.
At a Christian women’s conference that I was attending with my mom and sister, I saw a lady walk in by herself. She looked lost as she scanned the crowd for a place to sit. I felt God prompting me to go and invite her to sit by us. She immediately gave me a hug and said I was an answer to prayer. Her neighbor was supposed to attend the conference with her, but had backed out at the last minute. She almost didn’t come because going alone felt lonely. However, she found the courage to attend the event by herself. Her husband had passed away and she knew she would find encouragement and comfort if she went.
I was driving home from college in a heavy rain one dark spring night in the pre-cellphone era. Suddenly, I had a flat tire about three miles from the small town where my parents lived. Sadly, I hadn’t paid attention during the tire-changing demonstration in drivers education class, so I was essentially helpless. However, just as I parked on the shoulder of the county road, I saw headlights behind me. It was a young man, accompanied by his wife. He got out and asked if I needed help, which was an understatement. He got plenty muddy and soaking wet over the next fifteen minutes as he put on my spare, while I stood there twiddling my thumbs. Then the young husband quietly returned to their car and waited until I drove off.
I was losing my hearing and was struggling to do my job as a teacher/trainer. I began to withdraw due to my loss of hearing. So I made an appointment with company that would allow me to borrow a pair of hearing aids. They made such a difference and I wanted to purchase them, but they were very expensive. Unbelievably, two friends told me they would cover the total cost. My life has been radically changed due to this gift of hearing via hearing aids.

Are you inspired yet? I hope so! Please inspire others by commenting below – let us know how someone has shared kindness with you when you weren’t expecting it or how you showed kindness to someone else.

You Are Free: Be Who You Already Are

We were not made to keep up, we were made to be free.

Rebekah Lyons wrote this book from her own experiences. She gives honest insight into her life’s challenges; discussing her fears, insecurities, and her constant striving to be accepted and loved by everyone.

We think we need to act like everyone else.

We think we need to look like everyone else.

And we think we need to be liked by everyone else.

Rebekah learned early in her childhood that she wanted to be liked, accepted and so she earned love by working hard to fit in. Her worth became tied to her accomplishments.

She explains that when our worth is tied to what we do then we start to believe we are not worthy of love unless we earn it. What she has learned in this journey we call life and her message to others is: We were not made to keep up, we were made to be free. Our worth is enough, not because of what we do but because of who we are.

Then we asked Rebekah, “How did you get to that point of feeling free?”

Rebekah talks about her broken heart from rejection and discusses how God told her, public affection will never heal private rejection. And her prayer became: “God, heal my broken heart.”

It’s not what you do, it’s who you are. @rebekahlyons Click To Tweet

God Rescued Her

When Rebekah moved to Manhattan, 7 years ago, she started experiencing anxiety and began having panic attacks. She tells us how the anxiety affected her and how she dealt with the panic attacks:

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God says, perfect love casts out fear and He has not given us a spirit of fear. @rebekahlyons Click To Tweet

Rebekah had a moment where she was on the beach by herself, dancing in the wind and she describes it in the book: “I felt a glimpse of the freedom God longed for me to live into, a reckless abandon blooming into unencumbered joy.” We asked Rebekah if she thought it was possible for everyone to feel that reckless abandonment and unencumbered joy? Here’s what she said:

Joy is not the absence of darkness but confidence that the darkness will lift. @rebekahlyons Click To Tweet

Rebekah had many people say to her, “You’re writing my story.” Rebekah says it’s not just her story of struggles but it’s God’s story of rescue.

How to Deal with Anxiety, You Can’t Just Toughen Up

Tania’s Story: Not Believing in Myself

In the book, You Are Free, Rebekah Lyons invites you to:

Overcome the exhaustion of trying to meet the expectations of others and rest in the joy God’s freedom brings.
Release stress, anxiety and worry, to uncover the peace that comes from abiding in His presence.
Find permission to grieve past experiences, confess areas of brokenness, and receive strength in your journey towards healing.
Throw off self-condemnation, burn superficial masks and step boldly into what our good God has for you.
Discover the courage to begin again and use your newfound freedom to set others free.

The Kindness Experiment

The world is FULL of hurting people

Could showing kindness make an impact?

Every day on TheHopeLine, people respond to us, telling us about their burdens, sharing their depression, and expressing feelings of brokenness and deep loneliness. What can we do to impact their lives? I believe that a little kindness could go a long way because showing kindness gives others value.

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Here’s a glimpse at some of the comments we receive:

“I am bullied by my friends. They start teasing me spread fake things about me. My other classmates have good friends except me.” Amaya

“I remember from young on I was always obsessed with love. It was what I wanted more than anything in the world. I even subjected myself to a lot of bad treatment just to feel love. I’ve been used, abused, and mistreated by a lot of guys just to get it. Now I realize I brought it upon myself in some way.” Lindsey

“I hated myself for a while…I felt that I wasn’t worth anything and wondered why anyone would want to waste their time on me.” Betsy

“At least you have people that care and love you. I don’t have that and never did. I actually do care bout others but I have not one person asking me if I’m ok. Never did.” – JK

“Living is hard, dying is simple and easy. And to die by my choice seems to be the only way. Nobody not one friend nor family to talk to.. I’v wasted years thinking somebody could help me. The more i realise i’m just alone the more evident it becomes i’m not meant to live this life. Everything seems so pointless being alive.” – Sane

Where Does It End?

I can’t take it all in without asking myself, why so much sadness? How and where does it end?

Mother Theresa, one of the modern day saints, said it well, “The world is lost for want of sweetness and kindness. Do not forget we need each other.” She spent her life on the streets of Calcutta, India, amongst the poor and orphans and she recognized that “The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.”

So I wonder…what if we were just kinder to one another? Here’s my challenge:

We Need More Kindness

For just one day take your eyes off of your own problems and considered that you are surrounded by people with problems of their own. They may look like they have it together…but, likely, you look pretty good from the outside as well. It doesn’t mean they aren’t hurting. So what if, for this one day, you simply choose to be kind?

Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless. Mother Teresa

After years of talking to teens and young adults on the radio, I know this to be true…we are all desperate to be loved and accepted. I also know that when someone is treated with kindness and respect, they feel worthy and can hold their head a little higher. Whether you live in the slums of Calcutta, a ranch in Montana, small town Ireland, or the streets of Hong Kong, ALL of humanity wants to be seen and feel like they matter.

Sound too simple?

A Day of Choosing Kindness

I get that kindness won’t solve every problem, but let’s see what it could do.

There are a million ways to show kindness.

Today I encourage you to try this:

Sit down with the girl who always eats alone and invite your friends to join you, rather than walk past her again.
Tell your sister the shirt she stole from your closet looks nice on her rather than getting back at her for taking it without permission.
Take 5 minutes of your time to call your friend who is going through a tough time. Don’t keep putting it off.
Make a point to encourage teammate who lost the game for you, rather than blaming them.
Stop and say hi to the little kid on your block who sits outside by himself most days, rather than ignoring him.

Or how about this scenario:

Every morning when you wake up you have some choices to make. For example:

You could yell at your mom, flip off the driver who turned in front of you, ignore the person who sold you coffee, and give the cold shoulder to your friend who didn’t text you back.

You could hug your mom, wave at the person who turned in front of you, make eye-contact with the person who sold you coffee and wish them a good day, and forgive your friend for the oversight and ask how their night was.

A lot of it has to do with the impact our little choices have on others.

Inspiring Stories of Everyday Kindness

Here are some more simple ideas to consider:

Tell someone you like their sweater.

Compliment your boss or teacher.

Visit with your grandma.

Ask the gas station attendant how their day is going.

Help the person who dropped their groceries.

O.K. I’ll stop now. You get what I’m talking about.

Are you wondering what’s in it for you?

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Showing Kindness Makes You Happier

We are not on this planet alone….and when we care for each other our life takes on more meaning….more purpose…and quite honestly, more joy.

It is probably obvious to point out that after a day of purposefully showing kindness, the people around you feel better.

But here is the beauty of it all. How do you think you are feeling at the end of this day? Do you feel still feel angry, frustrated, hateful, etc.? Or do you actually feel encouraged, energized, inspired and hopeful yourself?

You get it, right? Kindness has rewards on both ends! Holding on to all the angst you feel and taking it out on others will NEVER make you happier. But making someone else’s day…that will always feel good.

In fact, this is proven by research. In a study published in the Journal of Social Psychology, people were asked to take a survey measuring how satisfied they were with life. Then they were divided into groups. One group was told to perform a daily act of kindness for 10 days, the other group was told nothing. After 10 days they filled out the satisfaction survey again. The group that practiced kindness had a significant boost in happiness. And this little experiment only lasted for 10 days!

Is it really that hard to choose kindness? Are you ready to give it a try?

Kindness is Not a New Idea

Obviously the idea of being kind is not new, but I feel like it gets forgotten along the way. We get too busy, and become too self-centered. We focus on our own stuff and neglect to take the time to pay attention to others.

Did you know that the Bible often talks about being kind? “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32) and “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, “ (Colossians 3:12)

God is kind and He desires for His children to be an example of Him. God hates to see us hurting and wants to use His people on earth to spread love and joy by caring for others. He wants us to love others the way He loves us.

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I’ll leave you with this final quote from Mother Teresa.

“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.”

Love Gives Life, Love is Oxygen

Love is the Fuel for Life

Love gives life to us as we breathe it in and then we can’t help but spread the love to those around us as we breathe it out. Jarrid Wilson, author of, Love is Oxygen, wants you to know that it doesn’t matter who you are or what you’ve done, God loves you very much! If you want to better understand God’s love and how to harness it in the way God intended, then this book is for you.

We are giving away 5 copies of Jarrid Wilson’s book: Love is Oxygen. To be entered to win, make a comment below and retweet one of Jarrid’s tweets by September 30th!

“Love is the fuel for life, it gives us life as we breathe it in.” @JarridWilson Click To Tweet

Oxygen Gives Life to Our Souls

In the same way oxygen gives air to the lungs, love is the oxygen that gives life to our souls. This book is about Jarrid’s discovery of who God is in his life and his encounter with God’s love. For many years, Jarrid knew of God’s love and knew God loved him but had never really grasped a hold of it. It wasn’t until Jarrid was at his lowest point and didn’t want to do life anymore that he had a revelation of God’s love. He had googled, “painless ways to commit suicide” and he told God he didn’t want to feel this way anymore. That’s when he heard God tell him, “I don’t want you to feel this either.” Jarrid soon realized that God had a better life for him and thus began his journey of understanding and accepting God’s love. Jarrid wrote this book because he wants you to understand and personally experience God’s love.

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3 Biblical Truths

Jarrid says there are 3 truths from the Bible (which are not necessarily easy to believe) but they are God’s truth which can help you start to understand how much God loves you and transform your life:

God loves you.
Every life matters.
Everyone has a purpose.

We can take these truths and put our faith in them. God says, the truth shall set you free so by starting to profess and believe these truths you can start to find freedom and understand God’s love for you. Read and say these as much as you need to:

God loves me.
My life matters.
I have a purpose.

You are loved by God! Your life matters! You have a purpose! If you can believe these truths, it will change your life. If you think you don’t matter, you do. Have you contemplated that you have no purpose? It is not true, you absolutely do have a purpose. God loves you, not because of anything you have done or haven’t done but because He created you and loves you just because you are who you are. He made you in His image and he wants to have a relationship with you. He’s already poured out his love (as much as you need – like oxygen), now you just need to recognize it and accept it.

Depression, Meds, and Churches and Mental Health

Jarrid Wilson also addresses controversial mental health issues in his book. You can listen to our interview with Jarrid Wilson for answers to important questions about mental health. Do you want to know…?

If taking medication for depression or for any other mental health issue is a sin.
If God has fully freed Jarrid from depression. (Can He and does God do that?)
How churches can help people dealing with mental health issues.
Or if you want to be encouraged, that it’s okay to not be okay.

In this book, Jarrid Wilson, shares about when he felt suicidal and some other heartbreaks and failures in his life. He also shares about the freedom he’s found by understanding and accepting God’s love. He wants you to understand God’s love too! In our interview with Jarrid, he said, “If only one person’s life is changed through reading this book, then it was all worth it.”

It's okay to not have it all together. None of us do. @JarridWilson Click To Tweet

For more information on Jarrid Wilson’s book, Love is Oxygen, or to get a free chapter, visit: loveisoxygen.com.

Jarrid Wilson is a husband, father, pastor, author of several books, founder of Anthem of Hope, and follower of Jesus. TheHopeLine wants to give a shout out to Jarrid for giving us some of his time to talk about God’s love!

Win a free copy of, Love is Oxygen, by Jarrid Wilson. Make a comment below and retweet one of Jarrid’s tweets by September 30th to win!

If you or a friend need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, for free confidential, 24/7 help. Head here for a list of crisis centers around the world. For additional help, please visit the suicide prevention resource page.

‘Identity’: A Chat with Christian Recording Artist Colton Dixon

In a society so ready to define us by our Instagram feeds, it feels counter-cultural to turn to a higher power. In his third studio album “Identity,” Colton reminds us that God never intended anyone or anything other than Himself to label us.

Since placing in the top 7 during “American Idol’s” 11th season and performing for more than a million fans across the country on tours with Britt Nicole, Third Day and TobyMac, it would be easy for Colton Dixon to allow his success to become his identity. Instead, Colton chooses his identity solely in Christ.

The Christian recording artists says, “The only thing that’s going to really satisfy you is the Lord, and He’s the only thing that will continue to blow your mind as you live your life. He will always exceed your expectations, always.”

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Find out what made Colton want to pursue a career as an artist:

Letting God lead the way – “God put the call in my life and He started opening the doors, and here I am.” – Colton Dixon, on leaving baseball to pursue music.

Figuring out what matters, and what doesn’t – “It started as a personal thing, trying to figure out where I placed my identity, and figuring out the things that mattered, and the things that didn’t.” – Colton Dixon, on the inspiration that led to Identity.

Find out how Colton met his wife, Annie and what has made their marriage successful:

It would also be natural for Dixon to stake his identity in his marriage, but he doesn’t look to his relationship with his bride, Annie, to define him, though her mark on his life is woven into the fabric of his album Identity. Meeting through mutual friends, Colton and Annie are now celebrating their one year wedding anniversary. As to what contributes to a successful marriage?

A servant’s posture – “The servant posture [is what helps make a marriage successful.] Every day I have a chance to serve my wife, [like] doing something she wants to do verses something I want to do. I’m not perfect at it, but I’m learning.” – Colton Dixon, on getting married.

Learn to reflect on your own life – “I definitely deal with some topics that might be hard to hear. I want fans to feel motivated and encouraged, but I want these songs to challenge them and make them think about their own lives.”

The Other Side – “Death is inevitable, and know that they’re on the other side and they’re living it up right now.”

Dedicated to Annie’s brother Dillon who passed away shortly before Annie and Colton met, the song The Other Side talks about the sensitive topic of death and what it means to lose a loved one.

How to know what your true identity is:

In a culture of teens and young adults tying their self-worth to their online audience and how they’re perceived via social media, how do we put an end to the superficial characterizations? By putting God back into our Identity.

God Defines You – “God defines us in His word and we’re precious and we’re beautiful to him. He made no two people exactly alike… God cared about you so much to make you unique, that in and of itself is enough for me.”

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“Here there is no Gentile or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all.” — Colossians 3:11

“No matter who you are or what you’re going through, YOU MATTER.” -Colton Dixon

Identity, the third studio album from Colton Dixon, is intentionally divided into three sections – Mind, Body and Spirit – each separated by an instrumental, cinematic interlude. The MIND delves into the way our thoughts direct out actions and control the way we see ourselves. The BODY explores our humanity and how we are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. The SPIRIT provides moments of contemplation and peaceful reflection. With every note and lyric, Colton’s heartbeat is to express the truth he’s uncovered in his own life over and over again. This world can’t define us, because God’s love is our identity.

TheHopeLine’s eBook on self-worth gives practical advice on how to increase your self-esteem.

How Her Pain Turned Into Something Beautiful

Cam’s Story: Her Pain Turned Into Something Beautiful

We have partnered again with Vlogsters to introduce Camille Paddock to you. She’s been through a lot! She was bullied to the point where she considered taking her own life. Thankfully, she did not. She decided to use the challenges she faced for positive change. She started her own online anti-bullying community through Facebook, called Cam’s Dare to be Different where she could reach out to other people dealing with bullying and give them a place to vent and find hope. She advocates for anti-bullying, suicide prevention and “just being who you are.”

Check out Cam’s Story, brought to you by Vlogsters:

In 4th grade, Camille was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease called Alopecia Areata, it caused her to lose her hair (including her eyebrows) which resulted in bullying from people at her school. It got worse in middle school. They called her names; like, freak, hairless cat, ugly, told her she was worthless. Then they started calling her names online, texting and calling her and saying horrible things. Camille fell into a deep depression that led to self-harm and thoughts of suicide. She asked God, “Why, is this happening to me?” She explains,

Suicide seemed like the only solution.

Then she wrote her suicide note. She was at home alone and had a bottle of pills ready to take. Then the garage door opened and she heard her sister come into the house. Her sister felt like something was wrong and that she needed to come home. She asked Camille, “Are you, okay?” and it hit Camille…she couldn’t leave her family in that way. Camille decided she couldn’t go through with suicide. She wanted to get better but she didn’t know how. Camille then decided to start a Facebook page, Cam’s Dare to Be Different because she knows everyone has something about them that makes them different. On her page, she shared her story, vented, shared inspiring quotes and stories that helped her so that they could help and inspire others.

Everyone has something about them that makes them different. #daretobedifferent Click To Tweet

People started reaching out to her and it began the healing process for her. She was a cheerleader at the time and the cheer gym asked her to share her story with a cheer team that was struggling with bullying, teasing, and bickering. It was really hard for her to speak in front of those cheerleaders but as she finished telling her story, she looked up and everyone had tears in their eyes. It hit her that she had the ability and power to do something good. All of the pain and hurt she went through could be used for something beautiful. The more she spoke at schools and events, the better she felt about herself because not only was she helping people but they were helping her to heal.

All of the pain and hurt can be used for something beautiful. #somethingbeautiful Click To Tweet

Have you been through something similar to Camille? Is there a way you can use the pain and hurt you’ve experienced and turn it into something beautiful? Let us know in the comments!

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For more information on bullying, here’s a guide to understanding the types of bullying and cyberbullying and how to deal with it.

8 Ways To Be A Great Mentor

by Dawson McAllister

Try These Tips to Be a Good Mentor

If you ask any successful person what helped them along their journey to success they will undoubtedly mention a person who took an interest in them early on and invested in their life. Someone they would call their mentor.

I have been strongly influenced by people who took an interest in me and my work with teenagers and young adults and helped guide and direct me and my ministry over many years. I believe God placed these mentors in my life to help shape who I am today. Likewise, I have tried to make a difference in the lives of the people who call my radio show by speaking truth to them, being a positive influence in their lives and connecting them with TheHopeLine and our partners.

Have you had a good mentor in your life? Are you in a season where you need to find a mentor to help give you direction? Could you be a good mentor for someone else?

Mentoring makes such a difference in the lives of others, that the United States designated the entire month of January as National Mentoring Month.

Here are some benefits a good mentor provides:

The assurance that there is someone out there who cares for them.
A consistent presence in their life that they don’t want to disappoint, so they try hard.
A person who can hold them accountable for achieving the goals they set.
A resource to bounce ideas off of and help process difficult situations.
A voice of truth and guidance to keep someone on the right path.
The encouragement that someone believes in them and has their back.

Quality mentoring relationships have powerful positive effects on people in their personal lives, in social situations, in their education and careers.

Mentoring has the power to change people in all aspects of their lives. #mentoring Click To Tweet

This short video shares an e-mail mentor success story:

I think this world could be an amazing place if we stopped being so focused on ourselves and started investing in the lives of others. So this blog is my way of encouraging you today to open your eyes to the people in your life who may benefit from your influence. You don’t need to go announce to them that you are going to be their mentor, but you can start showing an interest in their life, you can invite them out for coffee or a soda and just give them an opportunity to talk.

Start investing into the lives of others! #mentor #mentoring Click To Tweet

8 Tips For Being a Good Mentor:

(Many of these also apply to being a good friend as well.)

1. 1. BE TRUSTWORTHY. It is important that they fully believe you have their best interest at heart…that you genuinely care. Your motives cannot be selfish. If you are doing this to look like a hero or look like an expert, they will pick up on that. It needs to be about them so that they can trust you with the junk in their lives.
  2. BE SAFE. You want to be their safe place. A place they don’t fear judgement. A place they can share their fears, their mistakes, their vulnerabilities and you will not walk away. You won’t laugh at them. You are safe to confide in.
  3. BE CONSISTENT. Be a person they can count on. If you say you are going to meet at a certain time, be there. If you are going to attend an event, be there. They need to know they can count on you.
  4. BE TRANSPARENT. It’s O.K., even helpful, to let them know you struggle too. You will be more relatable. In fact, knowing you faced challenges, and succeeded despite them, might give them hope for themselves. Using personal stories and experiences is also often a good way to communicate and influence their way of thinking. People often relate to stories much more easily than straightforward advice. However, when sharing your story, you must remember that this is NOT about you. It is still about them.
  5. BE CURIOUS. This might be the most important quality on this list…much more important than offering good advice. Because if you aren’t curious about their life, if you aren’t willing to ask them lots of questions to discover what brought them to where they are today, why they view the world the way they do, and what it is like to walk in their shoes, then you have no right to offer advice. Additionally, learning to ask them questions rather than just throwing advice at them will help them “buy in” to a solution. They need to discover the solution on their own. Research shows that if someone offers you advice or simply shares an opinion with you, your brain tends to interpret that as a threat to your own ideas. On the flip side questions are embraced by the brain. Here are some questions to help get you started: What’s going well for you right now? What isn’t? What’s something you’re feeling frustrated about? Where are you feeling stuck? What’s something you’ve learned recently that you’re excited about? What would you like to be different in a month? In a year? Two years?

1. 1. BE PATIENT. A person will change when they decide to change. Don’t expect them to immediately make perfect decisions once you walk into their life. But stick with them, even when it’s frustrating. They might continue to make some bad decisions for a while but be patient and be a consistent presence in their life.
  2. BE A VOICE OF REASON. As you seek to guide them, much of your role will involve helping them process what the next right step to take is. You are a sounding board for them to bounce ideas off of and then a facilitator…asking them questions to help them come up with their own answers. If they ask for your opinion, say something like, “Sure, I’ll give you my opinion. But first I’d like to hear what you think about it.” Change and growth are hard work. But help them reason out what the alternative is. Is it better to stay in the same place with the same consequences? Or to do the hard work of moving forward to a better future?
  3. BE A CHEERLEADER. Celebrate their accomplishments. Build them up. Let them know you believe they can do whatever they put their mind to. Encouragement is the muscle that helps them take the first step toward change.

Be their safe place of no judgement. #mentor #mentoringIRL Click To Tweet

The benefits of mentoring both for the mentor and mentee are vast. If you are interested in making a last impact on someone’s life, become a mentor. There are many great organizations seeking volunteer mentors, to find an organization in your area check this out: http://www.mentoring.org/get-involved/become-a-mentor/

If you are in a season of life where you could really benefit from having mentor you can sign up for an e-mail mentor through TheHopeLine here – https://www.thehopeline.com/email-mentor-signup/ or find a mentor in your community here http://www.mentoring.org/get-involved/find-a-mentor/.

Have you benefited from a mentor? Give them a shout out in the comments below.

Have you mentored someone and found it impacted your own life? Tell us how. Do you have a friend or are you mentoring someone dealing with self-worth issues? Download our eBook for ways to understand and help them.

Life is Worth Fighting For

The Enemy is Fighting to Defeat You

Written by: Lama-Leah

If you were not on this earth, life for everyone else who is still here would never be the same. If you are struggling with knowing your true value, continue to read.

Last week I was at a coffee shop with the intention to write but I made a friend. They shared their wisdom about life with me. This person shared parts of their testimony. Despite having a HARD life, they choose to remain positive. I shared about the first time that Satan had a spirit of death and suicide over me.

How they responded to me is prevalent to anyone who has/is struggled with suicidal thoughts/actions. I was told,

The enemy did/does not want you here because he knows how special you are, what you have done and are going to do here on this earth for the glory of God.

That statement in itself has so much truth in it. If I had died the first time I desperately wanted to, I would not have been able to make the small mark on the world that I have made. I wouldn’t have the honor of helping those whom I have gotten the chance to help, and Lama Leah wouldn’t be what it has been becoming and my thoughts and wisdom would not have reached around the world. In my wildest dreams I never thought that my life would change for the better, but against my contrary belief, it did! I have been able to do some things and help some people that I would have never have thought was possible.

The Enemy is intimidated by those who are going to do great things for the kingdom! When he sees something great that comes from God his instincts are to destroy it and prevent it from doing its work. The most rewarding thing that you can do is overcome the devil through the blood of Christ.

When I personally choose to fight for life, my depression did not end nor was I always content with my decision. In the small moments of hope that’s when I knew that it was worth it. For me, it was giving a friend a hug who is hurting, snuggles with my dog, drinking peppermint tea, late nights focused on art projects, and writing a blog post that others enjoy or learn from. These are the small moments when even depression is at its peak and living seems unbearable, but life is worth fighting for.

In the small moments of hope that’s when I knew that it was worth it. #youmatter Click To Tweet

If you die from suicide you are taking the mark that you have put on the world and making it significantly lighter because if you continue to live the possibilities that you have to make your mark are endless. The world will absolutely never be the same without you because you bring something unique and individual to the world. If you are suicidal, I am truly begging you to give this life another chance. Life may not become better now but it can and will change eventually. God could be allowing you to go through this season as an opportunity to grow. Maybe God will use the season that you are in now and saving the wisdom that you gained from it for a different season. I promise you that choosing life will be worth it!

The world will absolutely never be the same without you! #youmatter #suicideprevention Click To Tweet

Two years ago, in the car, when my best friend was pleading for me to fight, she told me this, “You can’t commit suicide, think about how great the day when you are able to say ‘I made it through this hell and look where I am now.’ Things can only get better from here.” What she said was true. If you are suicidal from a bully in your life (any kind of bully, a physical person, depression, current life circumstances, the DEVIL, etc.), how will you be able to prove them wrong if you’re not alive to do so? From my experience, the rewarding part of various struggles in life is when you can overcome them.

Those who have the hardest life become the strongest people. If you are currently suicidal, please be encouraged. The battles that you are in are always worth fighting, even when it seems that you may not have victory, but remember it is impossible to achieve victory if you surrender. I promise you that life will change, and when it does, you will be grateful that you did not act on your plan. Think about the great day that it will be when you are able to see the beauty in your hardships. Suicide eliminates the chances of life becoming better because it stops your journey in this world.

Those who have the hardest life become the strongest people. #bestrong Click To Tweet

If you choose life let me tell you this, it will not be an easy battle to overcome but in the end it is worth every hardship and tear. Yeshua is here to walk with you, by your side, every step of the way. Everything will be okay in the end, if it’s not okay, remember it simply isn’t the end. Also read these passages Psalms 57:8 and 1 John 5:4-5.

When you saw one set of footprints in the sand, is when I carried you,

Lama Leah

Lama Leah is blogger, supporter of the arts, social change, and God’s chosen people. Read more from her at her blog: Lama-Leah!

If you or a friend need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, for free confidential, 24/7 help. Head here for a list of crisis centers around the world. For additional help, please visit the suicide prevention resource page.

For information on what to do if you are having suicidal thoughts or if you know someone who is considering suicide, check out TheHopeLine’s eBook: Understanding Suicide.

One Word for the New Year

by Dawson McAllister

Finding Focus with One Word

Here we sit at the start of another New Year. 365 blank days staring us in the face waiting to be written. What story will those 365 days tell at the end of this year?

That is kind of a daunting question to ask yourself. And yet most people do ask it. It is why we write resolutions and set goals. We desire the year before us to tell a GOOD story.

I have written blogs on how to motivate yourself to keep your resolutions and tips for keeping your resolutions. I believe there is real value in setting goals for the year.

But today I want to talk about a different idea to consider as you start a new year. I’ve heard it referred to as One Word for the New Year or One-Word Resolutions. Essentially – you pick one word that encompasses how you want to approach the New Year.

It's one word that encompasses how you want to approach the New Year. #oneword Click To Tweet

For example, maybe your word for the year is Discipline. This is your focus for the year. You are saying that you want to approach your work, your relationships, your spiritual life, etc. with discipline. You are committing to giving a full-effort to areas of your life this year and not just giving a laid back, half effort to the important things in your life. You want to be disciplined and stay on task.

On the flip side, maybe your word for the year is Relax. Perhaps you have had a number of stressful years in a row and this is not the year for you to be disciplined, but a year for you to give yourself a break. Your focus is one of finding balance and learning to relax.

What ever your word – it is something personal that you select based on this point in your life. It gives you a focus on how you approach all aspects of your life for this one year. It helps you determine the kind of person you want to become. Rachel Olsen, co-author of “My One Word: Change Your Life With Just One Word” says,

A word can’t be broken. It serves as a reminder; a filter. It’s who you want to be instead of what you regret.

For me, I like the word Grace. It is a good reminder on how to approach everyone in my life…from my family and co-workers to the teens and young adults that call my radio show to strangers that I meet. I want to show everyone grace. We all have “stuff” in our lives and the more grace I can extend each person letting them know that I understand life isn’t easy and I’ll love them anyway…the less uptight I will be from holding everyone to such a high standard and hopefully those around me will be blessed as well.

Grace is my word. Grace is a good reminder on how to approach everyone in my life. #grace Click To Tweet

So how do you go about selecting your word for the year?

Begin by taking some time to decide what kind of person you want to be. Then identify the characteristics of that person, and write them down. You might have a lot of words on your list now. Now pick JUST ONE WORD. Resist the temptation to pick more than one. With just one word, you can view all situations that come up over the next year through your WORD.

Don’t pick your word quickly or randomly. Think it over for a while. Pray about it and ask God to give you clear direction on your word for the year and then ask Him to help you stay focused.

To help inspire you here are some words to get you thinking:

Joy ~ Serve ~ Contentment ~ Connect ~ Detach ~ Purpose ~ Listen ~ Pray ~ Integrity ~ Still ~ Breath ~ Persevere ~ Advance ~ Care ~ Aware ~ Release ~ Forgive ~ Dare ~ Bold ~ Focus ~ Gratitude ~ Forgiveness ~ Hope ~ Intentional ~ Authentic

I hope you will give this a try. It’s not necessarily easy to stay focused on your word for an entire year, but hopefully you will see small successes in becoming the person you want to be and that God wants you to be.

Picking a word and doing something, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction and that one step could lead to the next step.

Don’t get discouraged if you lose focus from time to time. Any change you make with your One Word in mind is significant.

What do you think? Do you thinking picking a word for the year might help motivate you? Do you have a word that you want to strive for this year? Please share your thoughts in the comments below. Maybe you will inspire someone else.

If you are facing challenges in your life, check out TheHopeLine’s eBook library, with eBooks on Dating, Self-Worth, Depression, and much more!

The Beauty in Pain

Do You Believe There Can Be Beauty In Pain

Guest blogger, Lama-Leah, shares her own story of how she found beauty in pain.

There is Beauty in the Utter Brokenness, Sorrow, and Pain of Life

The choices that we make every day don’t (always) solely affect us individually. They can affect our friends, children, spouses, the planet, and sometimes strangers who live across town or strangers across the world. Newton’s third law states that for every action there is an equal or opposite reaction and this can apply to many aspects of life. Some of these reactions can be positive; while some have negative consequences.

In life we all experience joys and sorrows. Some are fortunate to have few sorrows (at least from the outside), while others are not as blessed. Some are born into one parent, one small paycheck, households where abuse lingers in the walls. Children grow up and make their own choices and write their own stories and testimonies. They live life from a new perspective because for the first time the lifestyle that they choose is in their hands. I’m not referring to social class but I’m referring to the fact that they can choose a lifestyle of love or hate. Their own children will either grow up being cared for in every way, or they become victims.

When considering religion the question is often asked, “How can I believe in a God who let’s horrible events happen?” I have asked myself this question in the midst of the storm when God seems to be so far away. I have walked through my fair share of storms. I have pondered the lie, “How can anything good happen through my brokenness? I think that God turned His head away the times I was a victim.”

God has been teaching me about this lie that I believed for years. Yes, I was a follower of Christ but I did not understand and am still learning just how God works and there is beauty in the utter brokenness, sorrow, and pain of life. The first time I had a glimpse about how my brokenness has beauty in it was about two years ago. I was with my best friend at a church gathering and one of our other friends came in and she was hysterical. About anything bad that could’ve happened to a 16 year old girl had and her day was miserable; it was one of those days that had pushed her over the edge. She had expressed to us that she was suicidal. All three of us went into the bathroom to talk things out. As we talked, I learned that this girl and I had similarities in our stories and I did the best I possibly could to encourage her that things could and will become better. I’m not sure how much my words would have meant to her if I hadn’t walked through storms. That night, I started to see a small bit of beauty through my pain. Yet I have had a hard time believing that God was with me through every season and that He has never turned His face on war, poverty, world hunger, sexual assault, and abuse.

Beauty in pain can be as simple as having empathy towards others. #beautyinpain Click To Tweet

I’ve been learning that beauty in the pain can be as simple as being able to have empathy towards others who have been in the same situation as you. In my own walk, the times that I’ve had the most emotional healing was not when I was sitting in a therapist office (I’m not saying that therapy isn’t important because it is) or sitting in church. God has done the most healing when I’m doing something as simple as having coffee with a fellow Christian and they are sharing their own story of walking in the storm. I have a connection of pain with them when they share about life after the storm.

It’s the priceless feeling of knowing, “I’m not alone.”

Yes, we have Jesus but sometimes we need a friend here on earth to share our journey with. Having the honor to be a friend guiding and loving on the one who is still walking in the exact same rainstorm that you were once in is beautiful. THAT is when I know that God had never left me. I am beyond grateful for those He has given me to hold my hand while I’ve been in and out of the storms we have all walked through.

Newton’s third law states that for every action there’s an equal or opposite reaction. As we walk this life and deal with more storms than sunny days, how are you going to react? When others hurt you, you have the choice to do the same to someone else. Or you can use that exact pain that you have to empower you to help someone who has gone through the same or similar experience. THIS is how you can find the beauty in pain.

What situation have you been able to find beauty in the pain? How have you been able to help others through what you have experienced?

With love, LAMA-LEAH

Lama Leah is a blogger, supporter of the arts, social change, and God’s chosen people. Read more from her at her blog: Lama-Leah!

If you have been through some struggles and were able to find beauty in the pain, you can share your story to help and encourage others who might be struggling. SHARE YOUR STORY!

Age Doesn’t Matter…You Can Make A Difference

Today we are happy to feature Katie Davis as a millennial who is sharing hope. We continue to share stories like Katie’s to hopefully inspire you that your age doesn’t matter. You can make a difference in the world. Here is a bit of Katie’s story:

In December of 2006, 18-year-old Katie Davis from Brentwood, Tennessee, traveled to Uganda for the first time. She was immediately captivated with the people and the culture.

In the summer of 2007, right after graduating from high school, Katie returned to Uganda to teach Kindergarten at an orphanage. She made an agreement with her parents that it would only be for one year and then she would return to the states to attend college. However, God had a different plan for Katie. As she lived in Uganda and saw the deep needs of the people and began responding to those needs…one person at a time, the idea of going back to live in the United States became unrealistic.

During her first year there, she was shocked to see the sheer number of school-aged children walking along the road, playing with their friends, washing their families’ dishes, or digging in the fields. She learned that most schools in Uganda require school fees for attendance, making impoverished families unable to afford an education for their children. God laid it on Katie’s heart to start an Education Sponsorship Outreach which would match orphaned and vulnerable children who are unable to afford schooling with sponsors anywhere in the world. She originally intended to have only a handful of children in the sponsorship program, but in the first year Katie had 150 children sign up. Today the program sponsors over 700 children.

Later that year, in 2008, Katie established a non-profit organization called Amazima Ministries International. The word “Amazima” means “truth” in the native Luganda language. The organization seeks to meet the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of the people of Uganda who need it most.

Shortly thereafter, Katie was introduced to the Karimojong people of Masese. Living in poverty, and losing their children to malnutrition and starvation at an astounding rate, she noticed their desperate need for nutritious food. She started what is now the Masese Feeding Outreach which provides meals to 1,200 children Monday through Friday. This program allows the children to attend school and therefore not be forced to the street to beg. Amazima also provides medical care, Bible study, and general health training to the Masese community.

As her friendships developed in Masese, Katie wanted to help the women in the village provide for their families, for the Gospel to take root, and for them to be the change we wish to see within the community. She initiated a self-sustaining vocational program to empower these women to generate needed income by making unique Ugandan magazine bead necklaces. The necklaces made by the women are purchased weekly by Amazima and then sold in the United States. The money the women receive for their beads allows them to support their family and send their children to school.

All of this happened because one young girl followed the call God placed on her life…and it was never about her comfort or for her honor and glory. It was all about caring for the “least of these” for God’s glory.

Her work in Uganda can be hard and heartbreaking and at times frustrating. She wrote in her journal in her first few months living in Uganda that “Sometimes working in a Third World country makes me feel like I am emptying the ocean with an eyedropper.” What Katie has learned over time, however, is to be okay with knowing that while she may not be able to change the world, she can change the world for one person at a time and that is enough. She began to understand that God had one purpose for her, in Uganda and in life, and that was to LOVE the least of these…one at a time.

Beth Clark, who assisted Katie in writing the bestselling book “Kisses from Katie”, said it well when she wrote, “I’ve noticed something about people who make a difference in the world: They hold the unshakable conviction that individuals are extremely important, that every life matters. They get excited over one smile. They are willing to feed one stomach, educate one mind, and treat one wound. They aren’t determined to revolutionize the world all at once; they’re satisfied with small changes. Over time, though, the small changes add up. Sometimes they even transform cities and nations, and yes, the world.”

This calling to respond to the needs of one person at a time, led her to the amazing decision to adopt 13 daughters by the time she was 22 years old. The first three little sisters she adopted were living on their own in a mud house when it collapsed on the oldest sister, Agnes, who was 9 years old at the time. Their father had died of AIDS and the mother had disappeared. They had a grandma who provided a little food when she could, but typically their days consisted of digging in the field for a little something to eat and walking miles to and from the nearest well with a large plastic jug to collect the day’s water. After the house collapsed, neighbors brought Agnes to the hospital. When Katie heard of this tragedy, she decided to go to the hospital to pray for this little girl. What she discovered was that she was lying there, untreated, because no one would pay for her care. Katie agreed to pay the $20 to cover her treatment and took the younger two sisters home with her until Agnes was better, but one thing led to another and Katie knew she needed to be the forever home for these girls and 10 more who would enter her life at different times.

Katie wrote in her book, “I believe there is only one truly courageous thing we can do with our lives: to love unconditionally. Absolutely, with all of ourselves, so much that it hurts and then more.”

To learn more about Katie and the Amazima ministry visit www.amazima.org.

Or get the book – Kisses for Katie http://www.amazimastore.org/products/kisses-from-katie

Jai McVay Wins Gracie Awards

by Dawson McAllister

Congratulations Jessica!

May 26, 2016, BURBANK, CA”Benztown, an international radio imaging, production library, programming, jingles and voice-over services company, announces that the Alliance for Women in Media Foundation (AWMF) honored nationally syndicated radio personality, Jessica JaiMcVay with two 2016 Gracie Awards for outstanding achievement in programming. The Gracie Awards celebrate women by recognizing their outstanding achievements across all sectors in media. McVay earned two national Gracies this year for her work as Co-Host of the weekly talk radio shows, Dawson McAllister Live With Jessica McVay and Dawson McAllister Late Nights, heard on over 50 radio stations across the U.S. and Canada, including a Gracie for Public Service Announcement, McVay Minutefor Dawson McAllister Association. McVay’s recognition comes in a record-breaking year, in terms of total number of submissions for Gracie Awards consideration.

The 41st annual Gracie Awards, which support AWMF’s educational programs, charitable activities, public service and scholarship campaigns that benefit women in media, were presented at a gala awards show at the Beverly Wilshire Hotel in Beverly Hills, CA. Jai McVay accepted her award along with fellow national honorees including: Tina Fey, Angela Bassett, Cynthia Nixon, Jada Pinkett Smith, Vera Farmiga and Kathie Lee Gifford.

McVay joined the Dawson McAllister Association in May of 2012 as Dawson’s “Online Connection”, moving to full Co-Host of Dawson McAllister Live and Dawson McAllister Late Nights in early 2015. As Co-Host, McVay gives loving advice and encouragement on-air to hurting teens and young adults on 50 radio stations across the U.S. and Canada six nights a week.

Helping People Live Their Best Story

by Dawson McAllister

I sat in the back of a fourth-grade classroom in Kenya and told God that if He gave me something meaningful and purposeful to do with my life, I wouldn’t quit unless it was complete or He said it was time to quit. – Derek Snook, a Millennial

How Derek helping others LIVE THEIR BEST STORY

While living and working in Africa, Derek realized, “There was often a disconnect between those who wanted to help, those who really understood how to help and those on the receiving end.” Having previously volunteered at the Star Gospel Mission, a men’s homeless shelter, Derek decided to spend a year living at the shelter. The hardest part of his experience was being a day laborer. Day labor was one of the most miserable and demeaning things I’ve done Derek said.
There was often a disconnect between those who wanted to help and those on the receiving end. Click To Tweet
Because of this life-changing and eye-opening experience, Derek Snook turned a problem into a passion. Derek started his own company to empower people to “Live Their Best Story.” This is the mission of “In Every Story Labor Services.”

What makes IES different from other labor companies?

Starting wages are higher
Workers are paid weekly instead of daily (to help gain skills for long-term employment)
After working 150 hours you automatically get a share of IES profits (and the longer you work, the more your share goes up)
Relationship building is a priority (i.e. team building and accountability)
Celebration (IES celebrates each time a worker is hired full-time – check out their stories here)

Derek made many friends and gained a lot of wisdom while living at the Star Gospel Mission. The wisdom he gained is relevant and real. The following is an excerpt from a memoir he is writing:

Want versus Need

“I learned a lot about what it really takes to survive while I lived at the Star Gospel Mission. For me, seeing the men at the mission really changed my perspective. It made me wonder why we think we need so much to survive, and helped me see the dysfunction of healthy wants becoming needs. It’s not that I solved the problem, either, and I write this as one erring soul to another.

In general, I learned like most things in life, less is more. I can answer the question What do you really need to survive? with simply, God. I can answer it by adding to God, food, water, shelter and clothing. Or I can add to that a vehicle, family, and house. Or I can add to that not just any vehicle but a SUV, not just any family but one with a hot wife and 2 well-behaved children (one boy and one girl, duh), and not just any house but a brick one in a nice neighborhood.

Or I can answer it with simply, I need just as much as the people around me because the real issue is their approval. Or maybe just a little more than everybody around me because the real issue is I need to feel superior…Which means the answer of what you need to survive actually changes depending on if you’re born in the USA or Bangkok.

What do you really need to survive? Click To Tweet

To be honest I feel like this question more pointedly attacks me because I’ve tried taking it by the horns and answering it for myself rather than simply keeping quiet, staying in line, and going with the flow. ‘Thoughtless is the man who abandons his ideals, surrendering himself to the common fate,’ says Autobiography of a Yogi. And so, daily this question hides behind a corner on my walk to work and tries to mug me. ‘Put your hands up and give me all your joy!’ it screams. Some days the question wins and makes me sad and depressed and I’m sure no girl will ever want to marry me and my future will end living in a van down by the river.

In general I’ve accepted the tension between what I want and what I need and that there’s a force out there trying to move healthy things from my want list to the need list, at which point they become chains. What I gained from the mission was not a clear understanding of a right or wrong answer but instead the insight it’s a serious question my life is too short not to consider now. Rather than let other people tell me what I need to live I should have the courage to decide for myself. Because however I answer the question, What do you really need to survive? will ultimately determine what I can accomplish with my life.”

Want more? Watch Derek’s TEDxCharleston talk here.
You can follow In Every Story on Facebook or check out their website here.

How to Live Life on the Hard Days [Video]

You never know until you Live Life what might happen.

TheHopeLine has partnered again with Vlogsters, to bring you this video. Vlogsters is a group of millennials sharing hope through their videos. This is a great video for those that are struggling, or even those just in the mundanes of every day life…going to school, studying, working, living, breathing…a reminder that not every day of life is going to be a wild ride. It’s about the journey, the small, quiet moments and not just the destination. Vlogster Adrian Nuno shared: “My hope is that it is a thought-provoking video and it can inspire others to keep on going through the hard days.”

When you are young, you are given the impression that every day of your life needs to be a day of countless adventures. From movies to books to commercials, you are given the impression that life should be a wild ride. And sometimes, it is. But in so many other ways, that isn’t the case.

For most of us, that idea of a wild life is getting up early in the morning to go to a job, or to a class that you can’t wait for to end. For some of us, that idea of a wild life is staying up late at night, pondering about who we are and what we are. Some nights, those thoughts can enchant us. But other nights, those thoughts can haunt us. Haunt us that we aren’t doing enough, or that we aren’t living the life that we should be living. That’s life.

Yes, we might be young. But for some of us, we just aren’t living that wild and crazy lifestyle of adventures. Because that’s not what real life is. In reality, you need to wonder what your next meal might be, or what your plans for the weekend will be that doesn’t end with you going broke.

And we dream, or at least I do. I dream of hopefully making a name for myself one day. I dream that one day, I will be able to look at my troubles and say that they were well worth it. I dream that one day, I can truly be living what I dream of doing: entertaining others. Whether that be making movies, hosting a talk show or hosting the Oscars. If it were all three, that’d be pretty awesome. But let’s not get too bogged down in that. Hopefully, it will happen someday. But for now, it remains a dream.

For me, it is what keeps me going. It is what makes every late night doing homework or every hectic week worth it. Because I know it will hopefully lead me down the path to do something great. For now, I don’t let my hectic work schedule and classes and homework stop me from doing what I love. I still edit movies, I still edit videos and I still film videos. For now, it just remains a passionate hobby. Hopefully though, it will soon be a passionate way of making a living.

Surround yourself with people who dare to dream big. Click To Tweet People who won’t take the simple way out for an answer. Because as someone once said, it is those who think that they can change the world that are the ones who do. Because they had the audacity to do what others wouldn’t even think of.

Life is like a car driving down an empty road sometimes. You just keep going and going, even if you may not know where you are headed. And along the way, you see moments of utter beauty that just take your breath away. That’s the key though, you just need to keep on going, because you’ll never know what you’ll end up discovering. Life is full of surprises. Some of them will be pleasant, others not so much. But what’s important is that you keep on going. Because who knows?

Tomorrow, you just might win the lottery, or run into the star of your dreams, or meet that special someone who loves you for who you are. Maybe your class might get cancelled and you’ll get to hop back in your bed for another hour. Or maybe, you just might get that big deal that will make your dreams come true. But you’ll never know unless you try, unless you try to live life. So that’s all I ask. That’s it. Two simple words.

Live. Life.

-Adrian Nuno

Are you struggling with a hard day? Do you have a way of getting through the hard times or the mundane times? We would love for you to comment below and share how you live life on the hard days.

You might also want to check out Dawson’s blog: How to Follow Your Dreams.

And check out one of Vlogster’s other videos, a powerful slam poem, inspired by a girl who died by suicide: All Too Soon.

How To Follow Your Dreams

by Dawson McAllister

Follow Your Dreams

There’s an old Nike slogan that said, “Life is Short, Play Hard.” They should’ve written, Life can be small, dream big! Life is too short to not really live it to its full potential. That’s why you’ll often hear me say to callers on my radio show, follow the dream. Life with a dream can be filled with adventure, meaning, and purpose.

Why Figure Out What Your Dream Is?

James wrote: “I’d love to go after my dreams. I just don’t know what they are.”

Most people who don’t figure out what they want to do, end up doing what other people tell them to do, or they just settle for what’s safe and comfortable.

You can decide to live differently!

Think about what it is that moves you. What seems to be a right fit for you? What can’t you stop thinking about? If you could push a magic button and have your greatest dreams fulfilled, what would they be?

Following your dream gives your life focus, and the dream can be anything you want it to be. In fact, it could be being a waitress, running a cash register at Wal-Mart, or maybe even being the President of the United States.
Whatever it is, if it is meaningful to you, and not harmful to yourself or others, go ahead and pursue it!

How Do You Start?

Ask anybody what is it that they’d really like to do, and most people will have an answer. But, unfortunately, in many cases, it’s something other than what they’re doing. So how can you get started pursuing your dreams?

Here’s a simple plan

Catch a clear vision for where you want to go. Find people who are doing what you want to do and ask them what it took for them to get there. Ask some of these people to help you on your own personal journey.
Figure out the steps it’s going to take to get there. Don’t look for a simple, quick path. This is a journey you’re deciding to undertake. You’re going to need a lot of help, and a lot of patience.

Paul wrote: “Sometimes I really hate practicing my guitar. I want to be a good guitar player, a really good one. I wish I was just automatically good. The best I can do now is to do what I can and keep working at it. I’m better now than I ever was. The only way that would change would be if I stopped practicing altogether.”
Set large and small goals and track your progress to keep you motivated. Do something little each day. Don’t wait for big blocks of time when you can really dig into something serious. The more frequently you work at your goals, the more energized and encouraged you’ll be. Tracking your progress will help you maintain focus on your dream. Trust me, if you don’t stay focused you’ll be distracted and get busy doing all kinds of other things.Here’s what Julie said to herself to stay motivated:

I say to myself things like “I can” and “I will,” instead of I can’t” or “I won’t.”
Be prepared for setbacks. Anyone who has ever gone after their dream has experienced the pain and disappointment of rejection and failure along the way. These setbacks don’t have to stop you from continuing toward your goal. Be prepared to find a different route, if the one you were counting on turns into a dead-end. In fact, you haven’t failed until you actually quit trying. So don’t let setbacks destroy your dream, but rather let them motivate you to try even harder.

Bri wrote: Whenever “I hit a road bump I can choose to be depressed and just give up, or I can take it for what it is, learn from it, and move forward. Knowing that everyone fails sometimes actually helps.”
Find a way to use your dream to help other people. If the dream is only for you, it will be easy to lose motivation and give up. If you can catch a vision for how you will be able to help and encourage other people, you will find it easier to stay on track. If you bring purpose and meaning into every situation, it won’t matter what your occupation is. Wherever you are, and whatever you do can be an opportunity to help bring life to every stranger you meet. And that’s a dream all of us should pursue.

Just remember, your dream isn’t going to happen just because you want it to. I always say, If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.That’s why you need to make going after your dream a priority for your life. Once you’re committed to pursuing your dreams, it’s important to know, and resist, the most common dream-killers.
No dream is dead until you quit. Click To Tweet

The most common dream killers:

Laziness – It’s just too much work.
Not having clearly defined goals – I don’t know where to start or how to finish.
Thinking I can’t – I’m not good enough. There are so many others better than me.
Listening to other people’s negative talk – Maybe what they say about me and my dream is true.

John wrote: “My dream is to join the SWAT team. Except all the people at school keep telling me I can’t do it. It’s frustrating when everyone around you tries to stop you from doing what you want to do.”

It’s become too difficult – I can’t stand the failures and rejection along the road to success.
Money – If only I had more money, my dreams would come true.
Wrong motives – I just want to be loved, rich, and famous.
It’s not your dream -Those around me will finally be happy when I ________.
Unrealistic goals – I’ll never reach the Sun, so why even attempt the journey! (Who knows, maybe you’ll reach the moon!)
Deadlines – If my dream doesn’t come true soon, I’m going to quit.
Quitting – I’m done.

No dream is dead until you quit.

There are always going to be many opportunities for you to give up. But it’s up to you whether or not you do. Just remember, as long as you are heading in the right direction, you are being successful. It’s going to take a lot of work and persistence. Nobody ever achieved his or her dreams just by wishing. You have to work at it.

Have you heard people say the joy is in the journey? That is absolutely correct. If you’re miserable along the way, only thinking you’ll be happy once you reach your goal, you’re probably going to be miserable once you get there, as well.

Be fearless and don’t give up!

FOLLOW YOUR DREAM!

Millennials Share Hope

by Dawson McAllister

Millennials Share Hope in the New Year

So let me ask you…with a New Year beginning, do you automatically start thinking about what you are going to do differently?

Here at the Dawson McAllister Association we do.

As we started thinking about this year we wondered what can we do this year to help empower a generation to make a difference in the world around them?
And we thought about you many of you have already taken a stand and said you want to make a difference in the world. So, together, what can we do?

I want to make a difference in the world! #sharehope Click To Tweet

First here’s what we commit to do.

We’ve heard from many millennials making a difference in their corner of the world. They have a story and they are sharing it. We are going to celebrate their stories by posting them on my guest blog at thehopeline.com and on social media. Everything will be hash tagged with #millennials and #sharehope.
We will help you share your story. Tell your own story on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter and hash tag it with #millennials and #sharehope. We will pick it up! Or submit a story to our stories page.

Or leave a comment below in the discussion section of this blog.

Second “ I realize that having a resolution to #sharehope is a bit vague.
Here’s some valuable advice about how make this resolution attainable. (BTW – These 3 steps are important for all your resolutions.)

Make a specific plan. Decide what you are going to do to #sharehope. If you don’t have a specific plan, trust me, nothing will happen. So:
- Find something you are passionate about. Homelessness, kids with cancer, bullying, texting and driving, sharing the good news of Jesus, etc.
- Find a way to do something about it. Can you help raise awareness about your passion? Perhaps you can blog or make videos. How can you get personnally involved? Visit kids in the hospital, serve at a shelter, lead a Bible study.
Make the goal achievable. If your goal is too big, you will get discouraged and give up. For example, your goal doesn’t have to be to end poverty, rather your goal could be to make a difference in one family’s life, or help an organization that is keeping people fed. What you do doesn’t have to be big and splashy, it can start as a simple act of kindness. Never underestimate the power of kindness. And then see where it goes from there.
Be accountable to someone. That someone can be us!! As you share what you are doing and post about it, we will provide you with feedback and encouragement.

I’m looking forward to a life-changing year together!

Your Friend,
Dawson

P.S. Write a comment below about your own inspirational story!

5 Goals for the Best School Year Ever

by Dawson McAllister

5 Goals for the Best School Year Ever

The new school year always brings with it plenty of new challenges. Check out this video from TheHopeLine and then read this blog to learn 5 GOALS that will help you have the BEST SCHOOL YEAR EVER.

Shawn wrote the feelings of millions of students:

I don’t really like school to begin with, but the beginning of the year is always the toughest. You don’t know a lot of people, and all the new classes seem really hard at first. It gets better though.

In a poll we ran on TheHopeLine.com, we asked what you most want to avoid doing at school this year. More than half of you answered: Slacking Off.

Obviously, you recognize it as a potential problem. So what are some ways you can avoid slacking off, and help make this the best school year ever?

First, it is important to recognize that an education is a privilege and learning new things can be fun. Taking your studies seriously WILL prepare you for a bright future.

Next, I recommend setting these 5 Goals for yourself before the school year begins. Commit to these goals because how this school year goes academically is really up to how much time and effort you put in. Believe in yourself. You can do this! And as you meet some of your realistic goals for each class you will get a lot of personal satisfaction.
People who skip a lot of classes, end up skipping life. Click To Tweet
1. Go to class every day and take it seriously.

People who skip a lot of classes, end up skipping life. When you miss a day, or even a class, it’s easy to fall behind. Nobody likes to feel like they’re behind, or in the dark. It can be hard to catch up and then pretty soon you might just give up. The best way to stay with the flow of the class is to be there! If you have to miss a class, make sure you meet with your teachers to find out exactly what you missed.

April said:

I used to think I was cool for skipping class. Then I realized I was just hurting myself. The temporary fun I had only made me feel worse when I was in class.

Then when you are in class, take it seriously and focus. Don’t surf the web, text, snap chat or whatever other distraction tempts you. Take notes during class even if your teacher doesn’t require it. This exercise will increase your concentration, and will greatly improve the amount of information you retain. You don’t have to write down everything, but keep track of the main points. Write down questions you have, and then the answers to the questions when you get them.

2. Do your homework
Homework isn’t meant to be a punishment, it’s meant to help you learn the concepts presented in class. Set aside time everyday to work on your homework. This is a great discipline you’ll be grateful for. It’s easy to get distracted and pulled away from what has to be done, but don’t wait until the last minute to finish your work or study for your exam. You’ll be stressed out and won’t get as much out of what you’re working on

Mike said:

I thought only super smart people could be organized. But it’s really simple to just keep track of everything I need to do, in one place. It helps a ton.

3. Ask Questions
Don’t be afraid to ask questions. In fact, teachers like students who are willing to raise their hand and ask for further explanation on something. Believe it or not, most teachers do really want you to LEARN and if something doesn’t make sense, they want to help you understand. If you aren’t comfortable asking in front of the entire class, stop by after class to talk to the teacher.

Shana wrote:

At first I didn’t want to ask for help. But when I realized the teachers appreciate when we make an extra effort, it makes class so much better.

Don’t be another one of those students that just tries to get by. The whole point of learning is to develop knowledge about things you don’t know. On top of that, everybody processes information differently. So if you feel like you’re not catching something, or missing some details, it really is quite normal. It does NOT mean you are stupid. Your teachers, or even tutors, are there to help you. Don’t wait until too late to get help.

4. Explore and try new things
Use your time in school to explore various interests you might have. Maybe you’ve been trapped in the path of just doing sports, but you’d like to try something in the music department. Or maybe you’ve always loved science, but decide to try a literature class and love it. View this as a great time to test out different activities and subjects you’ve always wondered about.

Usually 1 out of every 4 people is new at your school this year. Click To Tweet
5. Make a commitment to reach out to others
It can be extremely stressful worrying if you’ll have any friends, or if you’ll be alone and not able to blend in. This is especially true of students who are enrolling in a new school. Believe it or not, 1 out of every 4 people is new at your school this year. That means there are plenty of people who are facing the same kind of fear and stress that you are.

Stephen said:

One of the hardest things for me is to be alone at school. It can feel like everyone is talking about me, or worse, ignoring me.

Look for the peoplewho are usually sitting by themselves in the lunchroom, in the library, etc. They are probably just hoping and waiting for someone to talk to them. Reach out to them, find out who they are, and what they like to do, etc. Don’t be afraid of being too aggressive. You will discover your new friends sooner than you think. Taking time to reach out to them will go a long way in making the school year great for that person, as well as yourself. Check out this TRUE story about what happened when someone was brave enough to say hello.

Remember, it’s up to you to decide what kind of school year you’re going to have. This much we do know, having a great education greatly increases your chances of being successful in life. Make the most of it while you can.
P.S. If you or someone you know is struggling with self-worth, please download this free Ebook from TheHopeLine.

Too Much Downtime 10 Strategies to Beat Boredom

by Dawson McAllister

Are You Bored? Try These Fun Ideas to Beat Boredom

People at all ages are living crazy busy lives these days. It may not be that we do more things than before; it’s just that life happens faster and faster. Can’t explain the physics of that, but I sure feel it. And so, when given a break to stop everything for the summer or a holiday some people begin to go a little stir crazy. Are you finding yourself with too much downtime now?

When we are at school, life can be non-stop between studying, constant interaction with friends, and extra-curricular activities. Then suddenly you are on break and it all stops.
Let’s see if I’ve imagined a typical day during a break from school. You are stuck at home, missing your friends, and killing time by tweeting, texting, checking in with FB, watching Netflix or YouTube videos, playing video games, etc. How closely does that describe your day?

This might be fun for a while, but eventually you get bored and then what? Have you heard the saying Idle hands are the devil’s playground. It’s found in the Bible and there’s a ton of truth in it. If you don’t know what to do with all your new found time and boredom is creeping in, it can suddenly be very tempting to fill your time with trouble because trouble is often easy and accessible. Whether it’s drinking, drugs, pornography, vandalism, bullying, gossiping, etc., you are entering a slippery slope.

Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there. -Will Rogers [Tweet This]

Trust me, I know. I’ve heard the story countless times. When asked, Why did you do that?The answer is often, I was bored and wanted some excitement.And then when facing the consequences, Was it worth it? Inevitably the answer is, No. So if you find yourself with too much downtime I have 10 strategies to help you beat boredom and have fun!

If you want to avoid this pattern, you might need to put a little effort in, but I’ve got some ideas for you. The first step might be go offline for a while. I know it’s hard to live a normal life knowing that you might be missing something on social media. But think about doing this: Just post a message saying, Going offline for awhile,and then do something totally outside your normal life. Everyone will wonder what in the world you are up to. Not only will you have something interesting to talk about when you reappear, you might even be considered cool for doing this. If you shut down your cell phone, the boredom factor might escalate quickly. So, you’ve got to find something to do fast. Whether or not you go off-line, here are some ideas about non-typical things to do.

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. -Helen James [Tweet This!]

Random Acts of Anything. I know a guy who systematically forces randomness into his life. He and his wife go to the movie theater on the first Thursday for each month and buy tickets to the very next show, no matter what it is. Every time he goes on a business trip, he closes his eyes and picks one magazine off the newsstand for every hour of flight time. There are some oddities about this guy, but he is never bored or boring.
Random Acts of Kindness. Find ways to give back to others. Is there a place you can volunteer? If you need a list of ideas, click here. Or you could offer to help around your own house. Can you even imagine how your mom or dad might respond, if you said, Is there something that I can do to help out?
Uncharacteristic Entertainment. You can’t beat a good book. Don’t like to read? Check out an audiobook. You can rent audiobooks at Cracker Barrel, check them out of the library, or download from iTunes. And hey, this could not only be fun, but you might be able to use it for a book report later on. Nothing like reading / listening to a thriller to pass the time.
Journal Like Crazy. Even though you may not think the story of your life will be a NY Times bestseller, you’ll be really glad one day that you wrote things down. Though you don’t realize it now, you’ll be surprised how many great experiences you’ll forget. You also might discover you have some interesting thoughts that were worth documenting.
De-junk. A break from school is a great time to go through your stuff and get rid of the junk. Simplifying and downsizing always make me feel better.
Start a Conversation. Have you ever asked a grandparent a question about their past? Something like, What was the most exciting thing you’ve ever done?or how about, If you were 18 and had your life to live over again, what would you do? You never know what you might find out. Maybe some wisdom, maybe just some humor, but it could be fun and they will be touched you took the time to talk to them.
Reconnect with Nature: There is something about being outside that is good for the soul. Find hiking trails or bike trails in your community. Go fishing or swimming in a lake.
Read the Bible What are you filling your mind with? What if you filled it with words from the Bible? Spend a little time reading about how much God loves you, His promises to you and His guide for living a life that brings peace.
Learn a new skill/hobby. What interests you? Whatever it is, I’m sure you can find a tutorial on YouTube that will teach you how. Does music interest you? You can get a cheap Ukulele and teach yourself to play. Crafts learn to knit or find a re-claimed wood shop and create something cool. Sports look up drills that will help you increase your skills. Baking find awesome recipes and cook for your friends or family. And the list goes on
Get in shape. Having some downtime is the perfect time to focus on exercising. Set some manageable expectations for yourself and try to achieve them. Today I am going to run a half a mile. Or whatever is right for you. Train for a 5k race. Click here to find a race in your area. You will feel great about yourself! You can also find many Apps or videos with work-out regimens that can match your ability.

How’s that to get you started? The cool thing about all of these ideas is that they will help you grow as a person and enhance your life. I know that many of you struggle with hating yourself or not feeling good enough. Achieving goals, helping others, and learning new skills will help you feel great about yourself. If you struggle with self-worth, TheHopeLine has put together a free Ebook for you.

If you have other ideas of what to do with your idle time during breaks from school, please share them by commenting back below. Tell us about a new skill you learned or a goal you accomplished.

Advice for Graduates

by Dawson McAllister

It’s really impossible to know the future, but you can know what your NEXT STEP is going to be.

When you graduate, you’re sure to be overwhelmed with heartfelt congratulations, and maybe even fancy little books filled with syrupy platitudes about going after your dreams. While that’s all good, I’d like to offer a few words of real practical advice for graduates as you make your way out into the world. Here are 4 things that I think every graduate needs to know.

1. Don’t be freaked out if you don’t know what you’re going to do with your life.

You might be feeling pressure to figure everything out, like some people seem to have done. Like your friend from school who seems to have the path laid out in front of her, without having to worry about a thing. This is very unusual. It’s more common for someone to not have any idea what’s next. A large majority of people change their major in college, or never even use their major once they graduate from college. Plus, people change jobs all the time. You don’t have to lock yourself into one thing you think you’re supposed to do for the rest of your life. It’s really impossible to know the future, but you can know what your next STEP is going to be.

Trisha wrote: As graduation approaches, I get nervous cause I don’t know what I’m going to do. The only thing I know is that I enjoy working with special needs kids, so I’m going to volunteer during the summer and see if I’d like it long-term.

You can aim for making long-term goals, but make sure you start with the ones in front of you. Eventually, short-term STEPS will help get you where you want to go.

2. Don’t let outside pressure weigh you down.
After you graduate, you may experience all kinds of pressure, much of which we put on ourselves. Ash wrote: For starters, I don’t want to disappoint anyoneshame isn’t exactly a pleasant feeling. I don’t want to screw things up for my future. That’s the main thingtrying not to screw everything up.
Don’t let the weight of that pressure prevent you from making any decision at all.
You may even feel like your parents or teachers are pushing you, too. Most of the time those closest to you just want what’s best for you. Sometimes it’s easier for someone else to see when we’re not doing all we can to make the most of our lives. It’s good to get their advice, just don’t let all that advice weigh you down.

3. Be bold and courageous.
When you’re in high school or college you will often find yourself in a cocoon of security because you know who you are and what you’re supposed to do. It’s easy, once you graduate, to be gripped with fear and insecurity about what comes next. This is why you need to be bold and courageous. If you have a dream, follow it. Explore all your options. Yes, you are making choices that will affect the rest of your life. That may feel like a huge responsibility, but don’t let the weight of that pressure prevent you from making any decision at all.

Adam wrote: Sometimes I get so overwhelmed with all the choices in front of me. I don’t know what I want to do. I certainly don’t want to pick the wrong thing.

The worst thing you can do is nothing. Jared wrote: It’s tempting to want to sit on the couch and watch TV all summer. But in the past, when I was a camp counselor or helped out at my dad’s work, I felt better about myself, like I actually counted for something.

And remember, it’s the people who find their dream, or their calling for this life, who are the most fulfilled.

4. Be patient with the process.

YOU get to decide what part you’d like to play in the grand story of life.

This is the most important point of all. Transitions are difficult, but you’ll make it through. You are on a great journey. It’s a very exciting time in your life, even though it’s a time of great change in your life. You may be used to defining yourself as a student, and when that’s over you may struggle to figure out how to define yourself. That’s okay. Tens of thousands of others have gone through the same thing and were able to make the adjustment and end up doing great things with their lives.

Remember, you have the whole world in front of you. You get to decide what part you’d like to play in the grand story of life. God’s great plan for your life will unfold over time, and in a way that you won’t be able to completely control yourself. Do your best, seek God, and trust that He will lead you, if you let Him.

Jesus said something very powerful in Matthew 6:34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Do your best, seek God, and trust that He will lead you, if you let Him.

6 Steps to Change Your Life

How to Change Your Life

Guest Blog is written by: Susan Gillpatrick, MEd, LPC, CTS with Centerstone (a not-for-profit organization, they have provided a wide range of mental health and addiction services to people of all ages for more than 50 years)

The Courage, the Risks and the Rewards

Life can be difficult and uncertain, especially when faced with the prospect of change. Although change is often the key that will positively alter the path of our lives, we shy away from it for fear of leaving behind our comfort zones and entering into the unknown. This fear robs us of our freedom to make the life choices that can bridge the gap between where we are and where we want to be.

It may take courage to move from the known to the unknown, but the price of growth is a sacrifice of certainty.

Six Steps to Making Any Needed Change in Your Life

1. Be Honest
  - Identify excuses
    You may be unhappy in a number of areas of your life but complaining about it does not change affect change. Are you just skillfully playing the victim role? If you have chosen to stay stuck due to fear, then the change you need is not going to appear on its own. Be honest with yourself. Identify the excuses and rationale that have been keeping you in your life as is.
  - Take responsibility
    Only you can change you. Motivation must come from within. Take responsibility and closely look at what part of your life has kept you imprisoned from your own potential. Don’t blame your own refusal to make changes based on external things. When you do this you give over all responsibility to things you cannot control. For example, I would have realized more of my potential, but no one was ever interested in mentoring me.
2. Accept Risks
  - Understand everything is risky
    Change is a fact of life and participating in change means stepping into the unknown. It means taking a risk. Wouldn’t life be boring if we always knew outcomes before actions? The riskiest step is always the first. But with every step in the right direction, your courage muscles get stronger.
  - Realize risk leads to growth
    Growth always involves risk, and risk always involves fear. Unfortunately, some people wait for an ironclad guarantee that everything will work out exactly right, until all risk is removed and they stagnate where they are. Don’t wait on the sidelines while the world passes you by.
3. Focus Priorities
  - Value your needs
    Many busy women (and men) spend all their time, effort and energy meeting the needs of other people. Remember to place value on your own needs too. Without a focused priority, you may become molded by your environment, and that will foster a stagnate life.
  - Value your time
    Do not play the when-then game. Don’t tell yourself, When the children are grown, I’ll take some time for myself. Or, When I feel like I can make a difference, I will look for a new job. Sometimes we wait our whole lives for a whenthat never comes. Value time and do not assume you have until foreverto take a risk and make a change that can excel your life in new directions.
4. Renew
  - Evolve rather than age
    Worrying about growing older is a waste of time. Celebrate the knowledge that aging brings an insight and personal growth that is only intensified through life experience. Instead of aging, evolve. Evolving changes your focus from fearing loss to celebrating accomplishment. What you have learned throughout your life can enlighten current and future generations. Having an evolvingattitude inspires authority to renew yourself and make whatever changes will lead you to that renewal.
  - Connect rather than wait
    Connect with others and connect to a larger perspective. Aging can bring worries about health and fears of loneliness and isolation. Connection brings strength when we feel we are weak. Positive relationships encourage and bring courage to make new and better decisions throughout any life transition.
5. Face Your Fears
  - Act before crisis
    At its simplest and most benign, fear is an internal warning cry that danger is nearby and we had better do something about it. Many times it takes a warning cry like a marriage failure or a worrisome medical diagnosis to realize we need to make changes. Do not wait for a crisis to occur to have an awakening about the quality and value of your life. Begin making changes now, and you will be more prepared once any crisis has occurred.
  - Do not let comfort control
    Move past the comfort of fears. Fears are familiar and therefore mislead us into thinking they are just a part of who you are. We ruminate over them, fearing they will control us and causing us to live our lives in a state of self-preservation. While life cannot be a 24-hour thrill ride, you deserve more than just contentment. Expand your comfort zone and allow yourself the opportunity for awareness and inspiration.
6. Imagine
  - Imagine the worst
    What, specifically are you fearful about? Name it. Say it out loud. Then ask yourself, What is the worst thing that could happen if I take this risk? Even if you run smack into a wall on your way to making a life change, then at least you will have gained some insight and knowledge. You may even find this knowledge gives you courage to tackle more risks. No matter what the scenario, you will have gained the power and influence to decide your own response.
  - Imagine the best
    Imagine how your life will be different and better once you initiate change in your life. Anticipate the joy, the excitement, and the empowerment that comes from being a leader in your own life. Begin with small steps, but take action. There are no microwave miraclesin successful life changes. It may take some time to see results. The only instant change is in attitude. You’ll finally be in charge of the direction and outcome of your life. Imagine the best, then live it!

If you or someone you love needs help, contact Centerstone at 1-888-291-HELP (4357) or visit www.centerstone.org.

If you are in crisis, call Centerstone’s 24-Hour Crisis Intervention Hotline at 1-800-681-7444.

Susan Gillpatrick is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Trauma Specialist, Certified Workplace Conflict Mediator, and Mental Health Service Provider in the state of Tennessee and a National Certified Counselor. She is Centerstone’s Crisis Management Specialist, she primarily works in the field with clients in critical incident response situations, and in Centerstone’s wellness trainings and presentations.

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Dear Self…you are worthy of happiness, you are beautiful and awesome, you are a light to those around you.

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Depression and the Fear of Pregnancy

My life has always had its ups and downs. I’ve had loses, I’ve had gains and I’ve made some mistakes along the way. I’m so hard on myself and I don’t have much confidence. Recently, I made the mistake of having unprotected sex with a friend.

The fear of being pregnant was the only thing running through my mind and I didn’t have anyone to talk to. I went online and stumbled upon TheHopeLine and I chatted with a woman named Nicole. It helped me a lot to hear her say that I didn’t need to be so hard on myself. I felt dirty, worthless and irresponsible which added to my depression.

As we talked, I began to tell her how I really felt inside. I felt lost and I didn’t know who I was anymore. She said that I needed to be the person I wanted to be and to not make decisions based on the happiness of OTHERS. It made me realize that life is short and my life is for me. I am not here to make others happy. I am here to make my life worth living. I’m not religious, but she helped me change my view on myself. Your life is YOURS, you can make it whatever you want, and if you feel lost, TheHopeLine will be there for you no matter who you are and no matter what you believe in. These people are here for you.

Thank you so much for helping me. I’ve found the way to my happiness. If I make others happy in the process that’s just a bonus!

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Motivation to Keep Your Resolutions

by Dawson McAllister

Define the Reason for Your Resolution

Have you set a New Year’s Resolution but aren’t sure how to motivate yourself to keep it? Here’s an important question to ask yourself, “What is the key reason I have set this resolution?”

Your key reason should be a concrete outcome you are working toward as the result of your resolution. The key reason is what will provide you with the motivation you need to keep your resolution.

Having a clear and concrete reason for why you want to change something in your life will help you be successful.

Let’s take weight loss as an example of a resolution that a lot of people set for themselves and examine possible key reasons behind this resolution. Here are two comments I received:

Jamie wrote: my resolution is for me to join the marines and im gonna lose this weight and then im going to take the entrance exam…then im going to swear in….the only thing standing in my way is the weight i have to lose…One thing that I noticed in some of the comments was that losing weight was only a means to an end.In other words, the real goal was something else, and losing weight was what they need to do to get there.

Kendra wrote: My goal is to lose 50 pounds, I have been struggling with my weight for a very LONG TIME. And im sick of being different from everybody else. So this year I wanna lose my weight and feel better about myself inside and out. But i think its going to be hard because all the other times if i wasnt seeing results I would give up. I hope I can finally do it.

So, joining the Marines and feeling better about one’s self those are the real reasons why Jamie and Kendra want to lose weight.
Having a clear and concrete reason for why you want to change something in your life will help you be successful. Jamie very clearly wants to become a Marine. If we were to press Jamie further, we would find lots of feelings about why losing weight is good. But the clear and concrete goal of becoming a Marine is what will motivate Jamie to work at it.

What Jamie has done, and what Kendra can do as well, is to lock onto a reason for wanting to lose weight that is more concrete than feelings alone.In Kendra’s case, improving the way she feels about herself is her main motivation. All of us want to feel better about ourselves for one reason or another. And no doubt, some people have lost weight with that motivation alone, but is chasing those good feelings alone enough to keep her losing weight when some unexpected stress comes?

Without knowing the kind of things that motivate Kendra, it’s hard to suggest a specific concrete reason that will help her focus on accomplishing her weight loss goal, but if she searches, I’m sure she can find one.

Clear and concrete reasons why to change something in your life will help with success. #Goals Click To Tweet

Here are a couple of additional things you can do to help keep you motivated to accomplish your resolution goals.

1. Don’t do it alone. – As I wrote in a previous blog, You’ve got to enlist someone to believe in you, be honest with you, and encourage you, and ideally pursue the goal with you. Accountability is a very motivating thing. Even professional athletes pair up to work out together in the off season. They need friends to hold them accountable and so do you and I.

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2. Do it for yourself, not for what others think. Being motivated by what others think or by trying to prove something to others (family, friends, enemies, anyone) can be a very powerful but addictive motivator. It just keeps you hooked on other people’s approval.

If you want to change an old habit or accomplish a new goal find a clear and concrete reason to succeed, find someone who will join you in the effort, do it for yourself, and don’t become a slave to other people’s approval.

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10 Tips for Keeping New Year’s Resolutions

by Dawson McAllister

Why even bother to make New Year’s Resolutions?

I love January. It’s all about getting a fresh start. It’s also a great time to look at your life and decide what you’d like to change. In other words, it’s a time for New Year’s Resolutions.

Have you ever made a New Year’s Resolution? Lots of people do. However, I find that New Year’s Resolutions can get a bad rap because many people anticipate giving up on their goals before they even start. They quit making resolutions because they failed so often in the past. Are you one of them? Do you feel like it is a pointless activity to set goals at the beginning of the year? Do you wonder why you should even bother?

My answer is this, because YOU are worth it. People who have quit reflecting on their bad habits, mistakes and dreams have often given up the hope of bettering themselves or bettering the world around them. I care for you too much to let you do that without at least having this conversation. It is possible for you to change a bad habit, learn not to make the same mistakes again or begin to accomplish a big dream. Sometimes we just need motivation and direction.

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I hope this list of 10 tips for keeping your New Year’s resolutions will help you as you attempt to remain committed to your New Year’s promises.

Don’t make too many resolutions.To begin with focus on just one or two goals for the year. It’s hard enough to follow through on one, why overwhelm yourself with four or five? Pick the one or two you feel are the most important and focus on that.
Don’t be discouraged if you aren’t perfect from the start. When you say that you’re going to do something or change something, that you’ve either never had the habit of doing before (like exercising) OR have been in the habit of doing for a LONG time (like smoking) don’t expect perfection. Pat yourself on the back for each success, and if you feel like you have failed, forgive yourself, get back up and start again. You haven’t failed, unless you give up.
Take one bite at a time. Do something small today, something small tomorrow, and the next day and the next and the next. It is amazing what you and I can do if we are persistent. The problem, habit or dream you are tackling may be big, but you can make it manageable by dealing with it one day at a time.
Decide ahead of time how you’re going to deal with the temptation. Temptation to give up is going to come up. Have a plan for dealing with this temptation. Maybe it’s calling a friend or some other planned activity to keep you on track. Also make a list of the benefits of sticking with your plan, and the disadvantages of giving up.
Out of sight; out of mind; out of gas. Resolutions are no good if you don’t keep the idea in front of you. Develop a way of keeping your goal in front of you every day. Put it on your fridge, write it on your hand, send yourself a text whatever it takes. The point is that if you don’t keep your resolution in front of you, the pursuit of it will never become a habit. Without habits, dreams never become realities. So find a way to remind yourself every day of where you have determined to go, but also the next step you have to take to get there.
Make it simple, clear and compelling. Your Resolution may be small or big, easy or challenging. Both are fine, but the important thing is to make it achievable. Make sure you set realistic and attainable goals. If you don’t, you’ll be easily discouraged when you discover you can’t achieve them. If you have a really big goal you’d like to achieve, break it up into smaller, more manageable mini-goals. That way you can track your progress and more clearly see the results.
Write it Down. I suggest you write it down into one clear statement that fires you up and is easy to remember. When we write down our New Year’s resolutions it forces us to be more clear with what we’re hoping to accomplish. Be as specific as possible about what it’s going to take, as well as what the results will look like.
Track your progress and reward yourself. Keep track of each small success you make along the way toward your larger goal. This will help keep you motivated. When you reach you goal, or accomplish something you set out to achieve, make sure you congratulate yourself in some special way. This promise of reward will help you to keep moving forward when things get difficult along the way.
Two are Better than One. If you’re really serious about making (or breaking) a habit, or about achieving a
special dream, you need to get someone to team up with you. Someone who will help you stick with it, encourage you, challenge you, believe in you. It can be a friend, a parent, a coach, a counselor, a pastor. And more than one is even better. The point is, people who are really serious about change, never go it alone. They find that key person or persons to help them.
Change Goes Inside Out. A guy named Stephen Covey once wrote a book about habits. The idea behind the book was that most successful people get what they want…not by luck, not by who they know, not by where or to whom they were born, and not by being in the right place at the right time. They do it by developing a few key habits, and those habits, if maintained, all but guarantee a high degree of success.

You won’t accomplish your dreams or change the world overnight, but you can make some progress toward it every day. I’m proud of you! Stick with it!

What Do You Want On Your Tombstone?

by Dawson McAllister

The shootings at Virginia Tech really got my attention. It reminded me once more how short life is and how quickly we can slip away into eternity. At least once a month on my radio show Dawson McAllister Live, I receive a call from a friend of someone who has passed away in the last 48 hours. If you are dealing with the death of a loved one right now, I have written another blog just for you.

Those are always difficult calls, but worth taking because it forces my audience and me to think about what really matters. This all brings me to my point. I asked myself the other day, Dawson, what would you want written on your tombstone? That’s a powerful question because it forces me to think about what my life is all about.

Think about what really matters

There have been some very interesting epitaphs written on tombstones over the years. Some of the more humorous ones come out of the Old West. One from Silver City, Nevada says, Here lies a man named Zeke, second fastest draw in Cripple Creek.Another from Colorado goes like this: He got a fishbone in his throat and then he sang an angel note.Still another from Culver City reads, He called Bill Smith a liar.Another famous, humorous quote on a tombstone goes like this: I told you I was sick.There was another quote from a famous movie star from the past. Her name was Betty Davis. She is buried in Forrest Lawn in Hollywood Hills, California. Her tombstone simply says, She did it the hard way.

Her tombstone simply says, She did it the hard way.

So what do I want written on my tombstone? I’ve thought about it a lot. I want to be known as a man who had a deep relationship with God and did his best to help those he loved the most. So here goes:

He loved God and served teenagers.

And so now I ask you, “What do you want on your tombstone?” Let me hear from you.

Have a great week,
Dawson