5 Ways You Can Move Forward After A Broken Heart

Hope For Your Broken Heart

Some people tell me that after their heart has been broken, they can’t eat, they can’t sleep, and their grades start dropping. It’s not an easy journey to move from a broken heart to healing, but it is possible, and it is necessary. You will need to take some hard steps of putting the hurt behind you so you can get on with the rest of your life. I hate to see you suffer, so here are a few tips for moving forward after a broken heart.

5 Ways to Move Ahead

1. Let go of mementos. If you’ve been dating someone a while, you no doubt have collected items that remind you of the one who left you behind. When you were still dating that person, these mementos meant the world to you and had a powerful impact on your emotions. But now, these same mementos only work to break your heart.

These include things like pictures, rings, pillows, music, clothes, etc. Hanging on to reminders of the relationship will get in the way of moving on. Get rid of them. This can be hard to do because there is something very final about throwing them away. You are finally admitting to yourself, “It’s over. It’s truly over.” This is an important step to take.

2. Keep yourself busy by giving to others. When you were dating, you spent hours and hours with your special someone who has broken your heart. Now you have all this time on your hands. People who get over broken hearts find ways to fill that time with something positive. For example, you might want to get to know your friends again. Hanging out with them will help remind you of the good old days before your ex. Or you can get involved in helping organizations like Big Brothers/Big Sisters or volunteer somewhere else. Filling your time with positive activities will both help distract you and help you feel good again

3. Take care of yourself physically. It is very difficult to overcome a broken heart when you don’t feel good physically. Not feeling well only adds to your depression. When people have their hearts broken, people either tend to quit eating or begin overeating. Sometimes they try to self-medicate through drugs or alcohol. None of this works and usually makes matters far worse.

When we eat right, we have more energy, more endurance, and less mood swings. Getting good exercise actually triggers chemicals in our brain helping to lift our mood. Have a friend to encourage you to exercise and eat right. Soon you will be feeling better, even if you’re not sure why.

4. Realize it’s mostly about you, not your ex. Any event in our lives is just that an event. The issue comes down to how we interpret that event. Two people going through the same type of break-up can interpret it and respond to it very differently. So, in the end, it comes down to whether you are going to allow this break-up to make you stronger or stay a victim. It’s no longer about the ex and how horrible they were or what they did. At some point it becomes mostly about you and whether or not you decide to move on.

5. Move on. Finally, that moment comes. Sometimes it creeps up on you. Other times, it’s like a light bulb goes on in your heart and you say to yourself, “It’s time for me to move on. I’m not going to die. The sun will come up tomorrow and I feel myself learning to live without the other person. In fact, I can go a whole day without thinking of him/her.” When that happens, it’s an awesome thing. There’s nothing quite like the realization you have decided to move on.

For more help and answers to your questions on breaking up and heartbreak, check out this page full of blogs, podcasts, stories, and more! 

Dawson McAllister
Dawson McAllister, also known as America's youth pastor, was an author, radio host, speaker, and founder of TheHopeLine. McAllister attended Bethel College in Minnesota for undergraduate work where he graduated in 1968, began graduate studies at Talbot School of Theology in California, and received an honorary doctorate from Biola University.
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40 comments on “5 Ways You Can Move Forward After A Broken Heart”

  1. I'm just wondering how long - if ever - will I get over my heartbreak. I foolishly fell for a woman I worked with. I knew the odds were slim - she was gorgeous, smart, friendly, and had every other man pining for her - but something about her made me attracted to her, and I didn't stop my heart from falling; we'd talk and hangout during work, and we'd make time to spend to talk to each other. Alas, I got put into in emergency quarantine for close contact (I didn't even contract COVID), and she already had a boyfriend anyway (which scared me off from asking for contact information). When I returned, she was gone, and without contact, I have no idea where she is now. Seeing as I've never had a girlfriend or been in a relationship, this is probably the closest thing I've experienced in relation to a breakup. This all occurred in April; it's now almost August, and I feel worse now than I did then. I'm not gonna lie, sometimes it feels like God's torturing me: if he loves me so much, then why did this happen? Why did he bring her into my life for me to fall headfirst, only to take her away? There's no answer, no closure, no recourse, and I'm left to pick up the pieces where no one's at fault. I feel like I'm emotionally dying daily and there's nothing I can do to prevent it.

  2. It was really true, this blog "TheHopeLine" really enlighten me and makes me realize that I am not the only person who is currently gone through this broken hearted feeling, feeing betrayed and was being lied by someone, all the words and thoughts has been shared into this blog really helps me understand things that my mind are burning to pain and a lot of destructive dreams that will not to happen anymore after being betrayed. Thanks to all the comment also I have feel that even at this very point of my life that I struggle to get up and move on, there's always like someone like you guys also inspire me to move on. We don't deserve to be treated like that by those boys or man, we as woman or girls deserve to be love and deserve to be treated well by them. I believed that "Karma" is real, but let's lift up to God and let's continue our life.

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