How To Heal After a Broken Heart

If you have the capacity to love, then you also have the capacity to be hurt. In fact, anytime you open yourself up to love, you risk getting a broken heart. Heartbreak can hit suddenly and with a lot of force. It is possible to experience heartbreak and then find healing afterward.

The Emotional Toll of Heartbreak

It can be hard to put into words what a broken heart feels like. Entity explains it well:

“Heartbreak is the overwhelming distress you feel after a [romantic relationship or friendship] ends. . .It can make someone feel depressed or like they don’t have the energy for their normal routine. And in serious cases, it can even make someone feel like they don’t want to live anymore at all.”

The emotional intensity of your heartbreak can vary from day to day. But some days and seasons are more overwhelming than others. If you experience any of the following, you should get support and help to lessen the strain of your heartbreak:

  • Depression, anxiety, or signs of other mental illness
  • Feeling such pain that you harm yourself (or think about doing so)
  • Thoughts or plans of suicide
  • Isolation from friends, family, or activities you once loved

This list of feelings is by no means exhaustive. The way you experience a broken heart depends on the type of pain you’re feeling. If a breakup has left you feeling despair, you may have different emotional struggles from someone who is brokenhearted from grieving after a loss.

Heartbreak and the Body

Your body also feels the effects of heartbreak. Because it thinks you’re in physical pain, your body releases lots of stress hormones. Sometimes you feel tired without reason. Maybe you gain weight, or perhaps you lose your appetite.

You may feel excessive tension or numbness. Crying is normal. But be on the lookout for crying spells out of nowhere. If your heartbreak makes you feel ill, or causes you physical pain, it’s another sign you need to get help.

Help for Your Heartbreak

There’s no need to be embarrassed or ashamed of your heartbreak. The painful situations that caused it were real and legitimate, and so are the emotions you do battle with. But you’re not alone – and healing your heart is possible.

It begins with knowing the source of your pain. Then you can make a practical plan with people you trust to care for the needs that have been unmet since your heartbreak. This spiritual, physical, and emotional self-care will be instrumental in helping you move forward and heal.

TheHopeLine is here to help you sort through it. Our Hope Coaches can talk you through your broken heart so that you can get to the root of the problem. If you need spiritual support, there are people who can pray for your heart to strengthen and heal.

We have a growing library of resources – podcasts, ebooks, testimonials, and more – to help you along the way. Search for answers to important questions like:

  • How Do I Heal After a Breakup?
  • How Long Should I Grieve?
  • Can God Help Me with My Emotional Pain?
  • How Can I Move On After a Heartbreak?

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What Do You Do When You Go to School with Your Ex?

Going back to school when dealing with heartbreak after a breakup is tough. Here are some ways to manage those difficult emotions: Distance yourself from your ex and their friends when possible. Focus your energy on new activities or groups at school. Avoid dwelling on heartbreak or anger in conversations with friends. Make friends with a new person. Give yourself time to heal. You don’t have to rush back into dating or relationships. If you feel stuck, mentoring or a guidance counselor can help.

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