Abandonment: Why do I feel abandoned? How do I cope with feelings of abandonment? Find support when you feel abandoned.
Sorry to hear that you are dealing with feelings of abandonment. It can be really tough to face those feelings, especially when they impact our relationships. Know that there is hope. Situations can change and relationships can heal. You show courage by sharing your feelings here, and we want you to know that you are not alone. You are valued and significant to many. If you need someone to talk to about how to navigate your feelings of abandonment so that you’re not overtaken by them, we are here to listen, share resources, and offer support. Read more on Abandonment.
Abandonment is one of the toughest feelings to get through because of the sense of isolation that comes with it. One of the most helpful things you can do is share your feelings with a community or group of people you trust. Simply giving voice to your feelings to someone else can build a bridge that helps curb feelings of abandonment. Journalling may be helpful, too. Focus part of your journaling each day on people you love and are grateful for. These reminders can help you feel more connected. If you’re not sure who to talk to, we offer confidential chat and email mentoring anytime. You are never alone. We are here for you, we’re praying for you, and we will do whatever we can to help. Read more on Abandonment.
When getting to know someone, it may take a while to learn about what “makes them tick”, or what difficult and traumatic events have shaped their past and present. But abandonment issues don’t have to ruin a relationship. Let them know you are there for them. Be sure to express interest in them and about their lives. If they seem overly clingy or anxious when you want some time to yourself, try to reassure them. In those moments, you can say things like, “I notice it’s really hard on you when we have to be apart. If you want to talk about why that’s so tough for you, I am here to listen.” It may take time for them to open up. In the meantime, be sure you are getting the emotional support you need to set healthy boundaries. TheHopeLine offers resources to help people struggling with feelings of abandonment. Read more on Abandonment.
Abuse: How do I know I’m being abused? How do I get out of an abusive relationship? What resources are there for abuse victims? Find support to break free from abuse.
Sorry to hear you are in an abusive relationship with someone you care about. The most important thing to consider is safety, both for you and for any children you may have. You can make a plan to go to a safe and secure place with guidance from a professional counselor and support from people you trust. TheHopeLine offers free abuse recovery resources and online mentoring. Along with our partner organizations, we have a lot of experience helping people from all walks of life break the cycle of abuse. You are not alone and abuse is never your fault. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us anytime. We care about you and we’re here to help. Read more on Abuse.
You can forgive your partner for physical abuse without continuing in a relationship with them and without putting yourself in harm’s way. Forgiveness is not about being OK with someone else’s bad choices. “Forgive and forget” is unhealthy and dangerous, especially when it puts you back in the path of an abusive person. Practice true forgiveness – letting go of the need for revenge or payback – in a way that feels safe and protects your self-worth. If you’re not sure how to handle an abusive relationship, explore our abuse recovery resources or talk to a confidential mentor via chat or email. Remember: you can get out of an abusive relationship and abuse is never your fault. Don’t hesitate to reach out. We can help. Read more on Abuse.
Verbal abuse doesn’t always turn into physical abuse, but there is a chance that it could happen. This depends on the willingness of the abusive person to get help with their behavior, whether or not they abuse substances like drugs or alcohol, and how much (or how quickly) their moods and behavior have changed over time. It’s scary to think that someone you love might become physically abusive. You don’t have to go through this alone. Learn as much as you can about the signs of abuse and how to break the cycle. Reach out to someone you trust to ensure your safety. TheHopeLine offers free resources and online mentoring to help people break free from abuse. We are here for you whenever you need us. Remember: abuse is never your fault, and you can get out an abusive relationship. Don’t hesitate to reach out. We can help. Read more on Abuse.
People with narcissistic personality disorders rarely fully realize how much they’re hurting people. Their narcissism means their focus is on protecting their own feelings rather than showing concern for how their choices impact people close to them. It can be difficult to have compassion for people with narcissism, or you may simply feel exhausted because your needs aren’t being met. When you feel that way, reaching out to someone to talk about those feelings can help. You should seek help right away if their narcissistic behavior becomes cruel, harmful, or abusive. We are here to listen, and we offer confidential mentoring or resources at no cost. We’ll do our best to support you and help you find healing from difficult relationships. Read more on Abuse.
Most abusive behavior is rooted in control. If you notice someone is trying to control who you spend time with, talk to, or associate with, this is a red flag indicating that further abuse could develop. If it seems like they get upset for no reason and are not receptive to efforts to help or communicate, take note. If you feel fearful or unsafe around that person, even if you’re not sure why, it is a good idea to reach out to someone you trust for help. No matter what, remember: their abusive behavior is never your fault! We offer resources and support anytime you need a listening ear. Read more on Abuse.
Addiction: What is addiction? What are the warning signs of addiction? Is there a cure for addiction? Get support for addiction recovery.
Addiction is complex. While we certainly can make choices whether or not to engage in addictive behaviors or use addictive substances, addiction still has many characteristics of mental illness. In fact, many psychologists prefer to think of addiction as substance abuse disorder. Your choices impact your recovery. But some of addiction is about how you’re wired, and it is appropriate to seek mental health treatment if you feel overwhelmed or controlled by a harmful behavior or substance. If you need someone to talk to, we offer confidential mentoring and addiction resources at no cost. You’re not alone. You have our support. Read more on Addiction.
Getting rid of addiction is more of a journey than a one-time decision, and it requires a support network that can encourage you as you decide each day to not use addictive substances or engage in harmful addictive behaviors. It takes courage to admit that you struggle with addiction, but talking about it is an important first step. You can visit a local support group (like AA or Narcotics Anonymous) for in-person support. If you need to talk to someone right away, we offer confidential email and chat mentoring at no cost, along with recovery resources. We have helped many people regain freedom from addiction, and we would be honored to support you on your recovery journey. Read more on Addiction.
Adoption: Should I consider adoption for my baby? Will my baby be adopted into a loving home? Where do I start the adoption process. Get adoption support and resources.
There are countless parents out there who have found untold depths of love within themselves for their adopted child. But there may be times when it is more difficult to be in touch with those feelings. Don’t panic or beat yourself up in those moments. Reach out to someone for support. Not sure where to turn? We offer confidential mentoring and adoption support resources at no cost. We are here for you as you adjust to your growing family. Read more on Adoption.
Knowing when to tell your child they are adopted can be difficult. It can vary based on the age and emotional development of your child. Since no two situations are the same, we recommend asking a trusted therapist or mentor for guidance about how this conversation can best meet your child’s needs. If you’re not sure where to turn, we offer confidential mentoring and adoption resources at no cost. We are here to listen. Read more on Adoption.
Adoption can be stressful and the emotions you deal with can feel unpredictable. If you feel regret after an adoption, you need someone to talk to without fear of judgement. You don’t have to navigate these complicated feelings alone. Reach out to TheHopeLine for confidential, no-cost mentoring if you need help coping after an adoption. We are here for you. Read more on Adoption.
Anger: Why am I so angry? Is anger the same thing as abuse? Is it wrong to be angry? Get help with healthy anger manaqement.
Anger may seem like a “bad” emotion, but there are plenty of good reasons to feel angry, especially when you or someone you care about has been hurt. Healthy relationships are not free from all anger. Rather, feelings of anger are just expressed and managed in productive ways. It’s understandable if you don’t feel comfortable talking to the people closest to you about what makes you angry, but there is hope. We offer confidential mentoring and anger management resources to help you grow in your relationships. We’re here for you anytime you need a listening ear. Read more on Anger.
Dealing with anger in a productive way means expressing it in a way that is not cruel or abusive. In the moments when you are most angry, doing some deep breathing can calm you enough to think more clearly in the moment. Resist the urge to talk to someone at the height of your anger. Give yourself time to cool down. Be honest with yourself about what caused you pain and talk to the person after you’ve had time to process things. If talking to the person who upsets you is not a safe option, or if you’ve tried coping strategies but still feel angry, don’t give up. We are here to help you talk things through with confidential, no-cost mentoring and anger management resources. It is possible to regain control over anger, starting now. Read more on Anger.
Controlling anger can be difficult, especially when we or someone we love has been treated unjustly. Acknowledging your anger and having some healthy coping mechanisms in place can keep things from getting out of hand. You may try things like meditation, deep breathing, or talking a walk. If you don’t know who to talk to about your anger, or are worried your anger may cause you to hurt yourself or someone you love, we are here for you. We offer anger management resources and confidential mentoring to help you manage your anger in a healthy way. Read more on Anger.
Anxiety: Why am I anxious? Can I ever get rid of anxiety? How do I talk about my anxiety with others? Get support to cope with anxiety.
We’ve mentored many people with anxiety and they’ve seen great benefit from activities like quiet time, meditation, and journaling. Others enjoy getting out of the house for some physical activity, or eating a nourishing meal. If you feel unable to deal with anxiety even after trying some coping strategies, it may be time to consult a doctor or counselor about more specialized treatment. We offer anxiety resources to help you find peace. If you need someone to talk to right now, our mentors are available to listen. Read more on Anxiety.
Coping with anxiety can be as simple as doing a hobby you enjoy, taking a walk, calling a friend, having some quiet time, or meditating. If your anxiety seems to persist no matter what you do, it may be time to talk to a doctor or a therapist to discuss more specialized treatment. One of the fastest ways to manage anxiety is by asking for support. We are here to help with confidential, no-cost mentoring and anxiety resources if you’re feeling anxious and need someone to talk to. Hang in there. There is always hope. Read more on Anxiety.
Getting rid of anxiety is more about learning to manage it through effective coping strategies. There will always be something to cause us stress in life, but with the right support, anxiety doesn’t have to control us. Depending on how severe or prolonged your symptoms are, you may consider an evaluation by a doctor or therapist to see if treatment or medication would help. In general, physical activity, minimal caffeine, hydration, hobbies, quiet time, and meditation have all benefited people we have mentored. If you need someone to talk to about anxiety, we offer mentorship and anxiety resources. There’s no cost, and we are eager to listen. Read more on Anxiety.
Broken Heart: How can I heal a broken heart? Will things ever get better? Can I recover from heartbreak? Get help healing a broken heart.
Heartbreak, like grief, may last a lot longer than the difficult situation that caused it. It may diminish for a while, only to return unexpectedly later. If you are reeling after a heartbreak, don’t be disappointed when you can’t “cure” it. Take things one day at a time. Don’t overextend yourself. Focus on caring for your mind, body, and spirit. Ask for help when you need it. If you don’t know where to turn after heartbreak, TheHopeLine’s confidential mentors can help. There’s no cost to you and no judgement. We are here to listen. We have support and resources to help you heal from heartbreak. Read more on Broken Heart.
Since our hearts get broken for many reasons, there may not be one right way to deal with heartbreak. In general, it’s good to admit how you feel and to give yourself time and space to explore your feelings. If you feel overwhelmed by heartbreak, you don’t have to struggle alone. TheHopeLine offers confidential mentoring at no cost, and we are available to listen. We have helped many people reclaim their lives after heartbreak and we are here whenever you need support or heart-healing resources. Read more on Broken Heart.
Healing a broken heart is hard because feelings can change so much in a given day. Rather than focusing on a one-time solution or numbing heartbreak through self-soothing behavior, it’s good to have a plan for healing that includes caring for your mind, body, and spirit. A big part of that healing is talking to people to avoid feeling overwhelmed, and asking for help when you need it. We offer resources to help you heal after a broken heart. If you need someone to talk to about heartbreak, our mentors are ready to listen. We are hopeful for your healing and are available for support. Read more on Broken Heart.
Bullying: What do I do if I’m being bullied? Why do I bully others? Who is safe to talk to about bullying? Get help and healing from the pain of bullying.
Dealing with bullies can be tough, especially when they share the same school or work environment with you. It’s understandable that standing up to a bully may not be an option, particularly if your safety and well-being are at risk. You may want to consider responding to the bully with kindness.While it feels totally wrong, it can often disarm them. It’s no fun to pick on someone who doesn’t react. Seeking help from a counselor or mentor can also equip you to face bullies. If you need immediate support, email or chat with a mentor at TheHopeLine today, and be sure to explore our bullying resources. We are here for you. You are not alone. Read more on Bullying.
Bullies often engage in abusive behavior for the same reasons others do: they feel a need to control and dominate someone. That unhealthy need may come from a variety of places, including their own unmet emotional and spiritual needs. Many people who experienced abuse in their own lives have later become stuck in toxic mindsets and behavior patterns that became bullying. If you have bullied others, it doesn’t have to control your life. You can build healthier relationships and learn how to communicate your feelings and needs. Along with bullying resources, we offer judgement-free mentoring and are here to listen anytime. Read more on Bullying.
Bullying, like any childhood trauma, will impact you as an adult. Children who have been bullied most often experience lower self-esteem and may have prolonged anxiety or depression as a result of their traumatic experiences. The shame associated with being bullied is hard to shake, even as years pass. If you have been abused by a bully, you have a safe place to get support. TheHopeLine offers no-cost, confidential mentoring and resources to help people reclaim their self-worth and confidence after being bullied. We are here to listen and support you. You are not alone. Read more on Bullying.
Cheating: Is my boyfriend or girlfriend cheating? Should we get back together if there’s been cheating? How do I stop dating people who cheat? Get help when cheating hurts your relationship.
So sorry to hear this. Do whatever you can to care for your heart or emotions during this time. Acknowledge your feelings and try to put your emotional needs into words. Asking for help and support is one of the most courageous and helpful things you can do, especially when you’re not sure what other actions to take. If you need someone to talk to right away, we offer confidential, no-cost chat or email mentoring and resources to help you recover after cheating. We are here to listen and offer support without judgement, and we want you to know that you are cared for during this difficult time. Read more on Cheating.
Every spouse or intimate partner is different, and it is risky to make assumptions about something as serious as infidelity based on observation alone. If your partner or spouse has been spending a lot of time away with little or no explanation, or if they become increasingly defensive and evasive, it may be time to have a conversation with them. Any conversation that may impact your marriage or relationship is difficult, and you don’t have to do it alone. We offer confidential mentoring and resources to help heal marriages and relationships. Chat with us or email us today. We are here to listen. Read more on Cheating.
Knowing whether your spouse or intimate partner is cheating can be tricky because the behavior is hidden. Before making assumptions, try to have a conversation with your spouse or partner to express your concerns. If they remain evasive or become combative, do not put yourself in a physically or emotionally unsafe situation. Seek support from a therapist, mentor, and others you trust so that you can make a plan together that protects your physical and emotional well-being. If you think your spouse or partner might be cheating and you need someone to talk to, we offer confidential chat and email mentoring at no cost, as well as relationship resources. We are committed to supporting you and helping you find the answers and healing you need. You are not alone. Read more on Cheating.
Cutting: What is self-harm? Why do I keep cutting? How do I stop cutting? Find healing support and break free from self-harm.
Many people first began self-harm as an attempt to control and manage their pain. Often they are burdened by an emotional pain that they don’t know how to deal with and so they cover it up with physcial pain. But self-harm quickly becomes an addictive behavior for many because it provides a false feeling of release without solving the problem or providing any true healing. If you’re considering self-harm or need help breaking free from cutting, contact TheHopeLine now. We offer no-cost, confidential support including mentoring and resources to help you heal from self-harm. Read more on Cutting.
One of the most common reasons for cutting or self-harm is the belief that by inflicting temporary physical pain, the emotional pain or pressure will be released without overwhelming the person or burdening anyone else. If you’ve had these feelings or are struggling with self-harm, confidential help is available at no cost from TheHopeLine, including mentoring and resources for self-harm recovery. Freedom from self-harm is possible, and we are here to help you find it. Read more on Cutting.
Cutting is considered self-harm because when you cut, you are causing pain and injury to your own body. Aside from the pain it causes, cutting can quickly develop into an addictive cycle that is tough to break. But support is available. If you are considering any type of self-harm, reach out for no-cost mentoring right away. We have helped many people find the support and resources they need to heal after self-harm. We will do whatever we can to support you. Read more on Cutting.
Dating: How do I know I’m dating the right person? How do I stop making dating mistakes? Should I break up with my boyfriend or girlfriend? Get answers to tough dating questions.
Women aren’t the only people intimidated by dating and relationships. Men need support, too. If you’re a man who’s not sure how to be successful in dating, we suggest (1.) setting realistic expectations for yourself and your relationship, (2.) putting your faith at the center of dating decisions, (3.) setting clear boundaries to avoid moving too fast in the relationship, and (4.) asking for advice from people in long-lasting, healthy relationships. TheHopeLine offers no-cost, confidential dating resources and mentorship to men and women. You’re not alone. We’re here to help. Read more on Dating.
It may not always be obvious that you’re on a date with the right person, but there are some clear signs that a person is not a good fit. Warning signs of a bad date may include: one-sided conversation, short temper with wait staff, lack of flexibility on plans, and no calls or texts after a date. If you’re struggling with dating and need someone to talk to, mentoring from TheHopeLine is confidential. We also have relationship resources so you don’t have to navigate dating alone. Read more on Dating.
One of the reasons many people feel the euphoria of being in love is a strong physical attraction. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone, but it’s good to be sure that you are setting clear boundaries that give you time to get to know one another and figure out if a long-term relationship is a good fit. Dating can be complicated. If you need someone to talk to about dating and relationship questions, reach out to a mentor at TheHopeLine or explore our dating resources. Read more on Dating.
Most of the people we’ve talked to who have developed healthy relationships say the person they’re with is (1.) dedicated to their beliefs, (2.) committed to healthy boundaries, (3.) a good listener, (4.) practices healthy habits, (5.) gets help when they have a problem, (6.) offers help when there is a problem, (7.) supports their hopes and dreams, (8.) does not rush them when it comes to intimacy, (9.) makes them laugh, and (10.) surprises them with acts of kindness. If you’re not sure what to do when it comes to dating and relationships, reach out to one of our mentors today. It’s confidential and comes at no cost to you. Read more on Dating.
Getting a boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t so much about hunting for the right person. It’s more of a commitment to caring for ourselves and growing emotionally on our own so that when we meet new people, we are ready to be in a healthy relationship. If you’ve struggled with dating and relationships before, you’re not alone. Our mentors are available to listen, and we are happy to help you navigate your dating relationship without judgement. Read more on Dating.
Everyone wants to be with someone who cares about them, but it can be hard to know what to do when it comes to dating or finding the right person to date. Finding and developing a healthy dating relationship starts with each one of us. The more confident and content you are, the better prepared you will feel for a relationship when the right person comes along. Don’t feel pressured to find someone or to be with someone if you’re not ready. Be sure your emotional and spiritual needs are taken care of. This self-care will sustain and guide you through the ins and outs of relationships. We offer dating resources to answer your questions. If you need someone to talk to about dating, our mentors are available to listen anytime. Read more on Dating.
Depression: Am I just sad, or am I depressed? How do I handle my depression? Who can I talk to when I’m depressed? Find resources and help coping with depression.
If you’ve been through a difficult time, it is normal to feel sad. After all, you may not be able to avoid every instance of depression, even when you have healthy coping strategies. But you may be able to avoid triggering the worsening of depressive symptoms by (1.) taking any meds prescribed as directed, (2.) staying physically active, (3.) having a plan to avoid substance abuse or addictive behavior, and (4.) understanding what events, people, or places set off intense depressive symptoms in the past and avoiding them in the future. If you feel like you’ve tried everything and still need help, TheHopeLine mentors are here. We offer depression resources, too. You’re not alone. Email us or send us a chat today. Read more on Depression.
If you have a diagnosis of depression, it may fluctuate depending on your circumstances. And while you may not be able to eliminate depression symptoms completely, they can be managed in a healthy way through (1.) a diagnosis and treatment plan from a counselor and/or physician, (2.) regular expression of your feelings through talking or writing, and (3.) calming activities like quiet time, meditation, and deep breathing. These things can go a long way toward decreasing depression symptoms. If you’re not sure who to talk to about depression, reach out to a mentor at TheHopeLine anytime, or check out our depression resources. We are here to listen. Read more on Depression.
Fighting depression can be tough, especially when it seems to take away your motivation. But there is always hope. We have seen great results when people develop daily habits that include (1.) remembering what and who they are grateful for, (2.) prayer and meditation, (3.) physical activity they enjoy, and (4.) talking to someone they trust. If you don’t know who to talk to, TheHopeLine is here to listen. Request a chat or email mentor anytime you need depression support, or explore our depression resources. Read more on Depression.
Digital Addiction: What is digital addiction? Am I addicted to digital devices? How do I reduce screentime? Get help overcoming digital addiction.
The internet can be a great resource, but it can also quickly open the door to a variety of temptations. We recommend talking to your child about their faith and why it is important to them. Practically, what you do depends on your child’s age. In general, it’s a good idea to define ground rules for screen usage and limits, and to use site blockers for known explicit websites. Encouraging screen-free family time – like “unplugged” meals or outdoor time instead of video games – can also go a long way toward reducing your child’s dependance on screens. Of course, there is also plenty of safe content online that encourages kids and young adults in their faith, so it might be fun to explore and discuss those together. If you need someone to talk to about how digital devices are impacting your family, TheHopeLine offers confidential mentoring at no cost. We are here to help you and your family however we can. Read more on Digital Addiction.
Divorce: How do I cope with my parents’ divorce? Why are my parents divorcing? Is my parents’ divorce my fault? Get support to heal from the pain of divorce.
Going through a divorce feels different for everyone impacted by it, much like grief after the death of a loved one. Everyone in the family has been affected by this loss of relationship and intimacy. Your feelings may vary widely depending on what your marriage was like and the reasons for the divorce. If you need to make sense of your feelings after divorce, reach out to a mentor at TheHopeLine today or explore our divorce support resources. We are here for you and you don’t have to face this alone. Read more on Divorce.
Some people get divorced because abuse makes them feel unsafe. Others feel trapped by their partner’s addiction. Perhaps there has been infidelity in the relationship. Whatever the reason, divorce can be devastating for everyone in a family. Make sure you have the support you need. If you don’t know where to turn, start with TheHopeLine. Our mentoring is confidential and we will do whatever we can to support you through marriage challenges or after divorce. Have questions? Explore our divorce support resources. We’re here for you. You’re not alone in this. Read more on Divorce.
We have helped many people work through marriage problems at TheHopeLine, but there may be rare cases when divorce is the only remaining option. These cases include (1.) if you have tried counseling with your partner to no effect in the short or long term, (2.) if you or your partner have committed infidelity, or (3.) if abuse in the relationship means you and/or your children are unsafe. If you are struggling in your marriage or after your divorce, TheHopeLine mentors are here to listen and offer support and divorce resources. You don’t have to face this alone. Read more on Divorce.
Eating Disorders: Do I have an eating disorder? Do I have to be thin to be healthy? How do I stop binging and purging? Get support and help overcoming an eating disorder.
Because eating disorders are an attempt to control your body and your relationship with food, they can easily become addictive behaviors that make you feel trapped in a cycle of overeating, starvation, binging, and purging. But you’re not trapped – and there is always hope. If you feel trapped, or if you’re worried you may have an eating disorder, you can break free. TheHopeLine offers confidential eating disorder resources and mentoring, and we’re here whenever you need us. Read more on Eating Disorders.
Eating disorder treatment varies from person to person. In general, you need lots of support. We recommend staying in touch with your doctor, your mental health professional, and people you trust to help you in your recovery. If you’re not sure who to talk to, TheHopeLine offers confidential mentoring and recovery resources for eating disorders. We are here whenever you need support, and there is always hope. Read more on Eating Disorders.
Eating disorders take many forms including food addiction, binging and purging, or starving oneself. Eating disorders are different depending on how the person is trying to control their body or their relationship with food, so the symptoms may look different from person to person. In general, if someone refuses food or continually makes excuses not to eat, has rapid/excessive weight gain or loss, hides their purging or overeating, or appears to be weakening physically over time, they may need help for an eating disorder. Eating disorders may also be present if someone is constantly weighing themselves, and seems fixated on changing their weight and appearance. If you think you may have an eating disorder, see a doctor and a mental health professional as soon as possible to get the help you need. If you need additional support to heal and recover from eating disorders, TheHopeLine offers eating disorder resources and confidential mentoring at no cost. Read more on Eating Disorders.
Emotional Abuse: Why are people cruel to me? Is my relationship emotionally abusive? How do I leave an emotional abuser? Get answers and support to break free from emotional abuse.
People are sometimes deliberate in their cruelty, including emotionally abusive behavior. But depending on the relationship and that person’s own challenges, they may not always realize they’ve slipped into emotionally abusive behavior. For the sake of your own well-being or safety, be careful about confronting someone you feel is emotionally abusive. If you feel safe with the person and believe it to be a misunderstanding or oversight, it may be possible to talk to them. However, it’s a good idea to get some direction from a counselor or mentor first. If you’re feeling confused about a tough conversation, TheHopeLine offers emotional abuse recovery and mentoring at no cost. Reach out to us today. We’re here to help. Read more on Emotional Abuse.
Always be careful when confronting an abusive person, particularly if you’re in a close relationship with them. After all, they are skilled at manipulating your emotions. Not to mention you need to keep yourself mentally and emotionally safe. We recommend reaching out to a counselor, therapist, or mentor for guidance on how to do this in a safe way. If you’re not sure where to start, TheHopeLine offers confidential mentoring and abuse recovery resources. You are not trapped, no abuse is your fault, and there is always hope. Read more on Emotional Abuse.
Emotional abuse occurs when someone uses emotions to control or hurt you. Some of the most common “tools” used by emotionally abusive people are manipulation, shaming, and deceit. If you’re with someone who constantly twists your words to make everything seem like your fault, or who shames you or speaks cruelly to you, it’s time to get help. We offer confidential, no-cost mentoring and support via chat or email. We are available anytime and are ready to listen and help. Please know: emotional abuse is never your fault, and you can break free! We are here for you and ready to help with resources and support as soon as you reach out. Read more on Emotional Abuse.
Faith: How do I have faith when things go wrong? What if I don’t believe in God? What if someone I love loses their faith? Get encouragement and support in your faith journey.
It’s OK to teach about consequences for our choices, and we don’t want to ignore the spiritual reality of separation from God. But that should be balanced with a thorough understanding of God’s grace, love, forgiveness, and mercy. If you have questions about your faith journey or need someone to talk to about it, TheHopeLine is here to help with faith resources and mentorship. We are praying for God’s peace for you throughout your spiritual journey. Read more on Faith.
The Gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John are full of amazing stories about Jesus’ life and teachings. They are clear and engaging, and a great place for a new believer to start reading the Bible. There are also lots of commentaries, devotionals, and study Bibles that can help you grow in your understanding of these books. If you need a safe place to ask questions or talk things through in your faith journey, TheHopeLine offers faith resources and mentorship. We are here for you and praying for you on this journey. Read more on Faith.
Different versions of the Bible can help you in different ways. There are simplified translations, study Bibles, or Bibles with devotionals included. Browsing a few versions in a bookstore or looking up product reviews online might help. You can also ask friends or someone you trust in your faith community for their advice. TheHopeLine has resources and mentorship to support you on your faith journey. We are here to listen and we are praying for you. Read more on Faith.
It can feel so discouraging to lose one’s sense of faith in God. You may lose faith for a variety of reasons: trauma, pain, loss, or a disappointing experience with church. Whatever the situation, we are a judgement-free place to talk about faith, even if you feel like it’s all gone. Reach out to us for encouraging resources or mentorship today. Read more on Faith.
Painful experiences can often cause people to struggle with their faith in God. That’s understandable. Sometimes it’s hard to understand why bad things happen to us or to people we care about. If you’ve been struggling with faith and doubt, there’s a safe place to talk about your emotions. TheHopeLine offers resources, support, and mentorship to help you through tough times with your faith. Read more on Faith.
Faith is a sureness or certainty in what you believe, even if you can’t see every outcome or prove everything with evidence. If you have questions about faith or if you’ve been struggling with big questions, TheHopeLine is a safe place to talk about doubt and find encouragement. Explore our faith resources or reach out to a mentor anytime. We’re here to listen and offer support. Read more on Faith.
Father Hunger: What is an absent father? How does having an absent father affect me? How do I heal from father hunger? Get support and find healing from the pain of father hunger.
You may always miss your dad or father figure, but there are ways to keep father hunger from controlling your emotions or causing you to engage in harmful behaviors (such as self-harm, addictive behavior, substance abuse, or risky sexual behavior). It starts with getting to the heart of the matter. It’s important to talk to someone who can help you get to the root of your father hunger and develop healthy coping strategies. TheHopeLine is here for you with confidential mentoring and resources to help you better understand how father hunger impacts your life and relationships. We are here to listen. You don’t have to go through this alone. Read more on Father Hunger.
When fathers are absent, it often leads to a sense of “father hunger” in their children. According to the Kentucky School of Alcohol and Drug Studies, father hunger is “a lack of sufficient fathering due to death, emotional unavailability or desertion and the child’s yearning for this fathering, often throughout their lifespan.” Like other types of grieving from loss, father hunger can hit you at any time. It differs based on the circumstances of your father’s absence, but generally causes feelings of abandonment, sadness, depression, loneliness, and anger. TheHopeLine offers free resources and confidential email or chat mentoring whenever you need to talk to someone about the absence of a father (or father figure) from your life. We are here for you, and you are not alone. Read more on Father Hunger.
Forgiveness: Do I have to forgive others no matter what? How do I forgive? How do I ask for forgiveness. Get support to find healing and practice forgiveness.
Learning and practicing forgiveness doesn’t happen overnight. You have to start with a solid understanding of what forgiveness is and what it isn’t. Then, you need to develop a forgiveness practice that is appropriate for you. Your forgiveness journey is unique to your pain, your trauma, and your level of safety in the relationship with the person who has hurt you. It is important to work with a counselor, therapist, or mentor who knows you and knows about the circumstances you are trying to forgive. They will likely help you understand why it is healthy to let go of resentment. They can also help you come up with practical ways to forgive when those resentful feelings resurface. If you want to learn more about forgiveness, TheHopeLine offers forgiveness resources and mentoring to help you talk things through. We are here to help and listen anytime. Read more on Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is hard because it involves letting go of the need for payback against someone who hurt you or someone you care about. We don’t always want to let go, partly because it seems unjust, and partly because we don’t want to risk getting hurt again. But there are healthy ways to practice forgiveness. You don’t have to pretend everything is OK and you don’t have to go back to an unsafe relationship. You can set healthy boundaries and free yourself from the burden of resentment. If you want to learn more about healthy forgiveness, TheHopeLine offers free forgiveness resources, along with confidential online mentoring. We are here to listen anytime. Read more on Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not forgetting about a painful experience. It’s about letting go of the need for payback from or against the person who hurt you. You can forgive someone without having warm, fuzzy feelings toward them, and without re-engaging in unsafe relationships. But forgiveness is a challenging process that often requires emotional support. If you need help, TheHopeLine offers forgiveness resources and confidential mentoring to help you find peace and healing. We are here to listen anytime. Read more on Forgiveness.
Friendship: What makes a good friend? What if my friend and I are fighting? How can I strengthen friendships? Get help and support for stronger friendships.
Love is certainly important to friendship. We should all be patient, kind, caring, and giving toward our friends, and we often have warm feelings and strong attachments toward friends we have known for a long time. While some friendships may develop into a romantic relationship, not every friendship is meant to shift into romantic love. If you’re unsure how to navigate feelings about a friendship, TheHopeLine offers friendship resources and confidential mentoring at no cost. We are here to support you as you build strong, fulfilling friendships. Read more on Friendship.
Friendship is about mutual support and caring for people close to us. It is about listening to one another and developing healthy communication skills. To be a good friend is to practice a “give and take” balance so that no one in the relationship feels taken advantage of or under appreciated. If you are wondering how to build stronger friendships, TheHopeLine is here to help with friendship resources and confidential mentoring. We believe in you and your friendships, and we’re always here to help. Read more on Friendship.
Friendship is the enjoyment of a close relationship with someone you know. You may form friendships with people who share your worldview. Maybe you have interests in common. Maybe you work or go to school together, or frequent the same online communities. However you connect, friendship can be a great blessing. TheHopeline offers free resources for building stronger friendships and online mentoring to answer your questions about friendship. We are here to listen and help anytime. Read more on Friendship.
Grief: How do I heal from grief? Does grief ever go away? What does healthy grief look like? Get support for grief after loss.
We’ve talked to a lot of people about grief and many of them say that simply having someone there to sit with them and listen to them share their feelings helps counter the isolation they often feel. Others say it helps to have daily time to remember the loved one they lost. And some have found solace in physical activity, spiritual communities, or exploring a hobby or interest. Everyone’s grief is different and you can find peace on your grief journey. Explore our grief resources or reach out to a confidential mentor who can help you talk through your grief. We are here for you. You are not on this journey alone. Read more on Grief.
The steps (or stages) of grief include (1.) denial and isolation, (2.) anger, (3.) bargaining, (4.) depression, and (5.) acceptance. While these steps are usually mentioned in a list, they don’t happen in the same order for everyone, and some people may not ever experience all of them. The stages are a good tool for understanding feelings of grief, but everyone’s grief is different. If you need help understanding your grief, TheHopeLine offers no-cost grief resources and mentoring to help you through it. You are not alone. We are here to help. Read more on Grief.
Handling grief can be difficult. Grief can seem to come out of nowhere and it can feel overwhelming. In those moments, it may help to take some deep breaths. Think of what you love about the person you lost, and about the other things and people in life you are grateful for. Do your best to rest, hydrate, and eat nourishing meals during times of grief. If you have tried everything and still feel overwhelmed with sadness or despair, don’t give up. TheHopeLine offers grief resources and mentoring at no cost. We are here to listen and support you as you journey through grief and find healing. Read more on Grief.
Hating Yourself: Why do I hate myself? How can I stop hating myself? Do I deserve to hate myself? Get help to stop hating yourself and learn your worth.
It is certainly possible to break free from unhealthy patterns of self-hate and move toward self-acceptance. That healing journey starts with understanding the true source of your feelings and developing healthy coping strategies that encourage your peace of mind and emotional safety. If you’re not sure where to start, TheHopeLine has a free library of resources to help you stop hating yourself, and confidential chat or email mentoring to help you better understand your feelings. We are here for you and we believe you are worthy of kindness, love, and acceptance. Read more on Hating Yourself.
Hating yourself can seem normal if you feel a lot of guilt or shame about your life choices. But hating yourself is not a healthy emotion and it can lead to more harmful or risky behaviors. When you hate yourself, it’s important to reach out for support. TheHopeLine offers free resources and mentoring to help you rebuild your confidence and self-acceptance. We are here for you. Know that you are loved and valued. Read more on Hating Yourself.
Feelings of hating yourself can seem like they go so deep or back so far that they’ve always been there. But there is a root to feelings of self-hate and you can find healing from them. TheHopeLine has helped many people work through their toughest feelings and start on a journey to self-acceptance and forgiveness. We offer a free resource library and confidential mentoring to help you stop hating yourself. And we are here anytime you need support. You are loved and we believe in you. Read more on Hating Yourself.
Learn More About God: Who is God? How do I get close to God? How do I know God loves me. Learn more about God and His plans for you.
God’s love is unconditional. It stretches farther, goes deeper, and lasts longer than any of us can fully comprehend. But it can be tough to feel connected to or aware of God’s love when you’re going through a tough time. TheHopeLine is a safe place to learn more about God and to talk through your feelings about Him. We are here to listen and offer support anytime. Read more on Learn More About God.
There are certainly times when people feel God’s love. Maybe they’re in a beautiful natural setting, their place of worship, or with someone they care about and they feel a sense of peace and calm that reminds them they are loved by God. Those moments are special blessings and we should certainly be thankful for them. But you don’t have to feel God’s love for God to love you and be close to you. He is always there and always loves you no matter how challenging your emotions or your circumstances. TheHopeLine is a safe place to learn more about God and talk through your feelings about Him. We are here to listen and offer support anytime. Read more on Learn More About God.
God loves everyone and He certainly loves you unconditionally. God is more loving and forgiving than we can imagine. If you are struggling to feel God’s love, we are here for you. No matter where you are in your faith journey or how you feel about your relationship with God, TheHopeLine offers confidential mentoring and encouraging resources. There is always hope. Read more on Learn More About God.
This has never been an easy question to tackle. There may never be a perfect answer, simply because we may never fully comprehend God or how people’s choices impact the world. Struggling in faith is a normal and healthy part of strengthening it. God cares about you and wants to know how you feel when tough things happen so that He can heal and comfort you. If you need a safe place to talk about your struggles with faith or your questions about God, we are here for you. Read more on Learn More About God.
At TheHopeLine, we believe in God because we have seen time and time again how He helps people heal from trauma and strengthens them in their time of need. It is not always possible to understand “why” or “how” when it comes to God and His working. But we know the power of peace and forgiveness that can only come from God, and we pray that everyone we support will find freedom through His grace and love. Read more on Learn More About God.
We believe that God is one – Father, Son, and Holy Spirit – and that He knows our hearts and can help us through our struggles. We believe that God is unconditional love. He showed that love to us through Jesus, and also reveals that love through those He puts in our lives. It can be hard to believe in God during difficult times, but we are here to offer resources and prayer for anyone who wants to learn more or strengthen their faith. May God bless your efforts to know and draw close to Him. Read more on Learn More About God.
Loneliness: Why am I so lonely? How can I stop feeling lonely? Will I always be alone? Get help and support when you feel lonely.
Overcoming loneliness is a process, not a one-time decision. Each day, it’s important to remind yourself of your worth. You are lovable and worthy of love, and you have people in your life who are ready and willing to affirm that. Reaching out to people for support helps a lot, too. Start with friends and family you trust. Let them know how you’re feeling. If you want to spend time with them, ask. People care and will do what they can to help. If you need someone to talk to now, reach out to one of our mentors. We are here to listen anytime. Read more on Loneliness.
Loneliness may come and go at different times in your life, depending on the circumstances. If you’re feeling lonely, sharing your feelings in a safe place will help. This could mean meeting with a therapist, a counselor, a doctor, or even in an online community of like-minded people. If you’re struggling to know where to start, make a list of the people you’re most thankful for and choose one of them to call or text. If nothing you’ve tried is working, don’t hesitate to reach out to TheHopeLine. We offer confidential mentoring and resources to help you find peace and community when you’re feeling lonely. There is always hope and we are here for you. Read more on Loneliness.
Loneliness is often described as “feeling alone, even in a crowded room”. It is a sense of isolation and a feeling that no one truly understands you. You can feel lonely even if you have many friends and a strong support system. Loneliness can happen for a variety of reasons, but it is often part of grieving, healing from heartbreak, or recovering after a painful or traumatic experience. If you have a mental health diagnosis like depression and anxiety, loneliness can creep into your day-to-day life. Connection is a great way to counter loneliness. TheHopeLine has a free library of resources to help you learn more about how to cope with loneliness. Our mentors are available to offer confidential support when you feel lonely. We are here for you and ready to listen. Read more on Loneliness.
Love Addiction: What is love addiction? Why is love addiction harmful? How can I fix love addiction? Get support overcominng love addiction.
Like other addictions, love addiction is considered a mental illness. The good news? Love addiction can be understood, managed, and treated. It is totally possible to live a happy life and have healthy relationships, even when you struggle with love addiction. It starts with reaching out for support when you know you need help. Finding a recovery group near you is a great first step, along with talking to loved ones you trust. If you need help right away, browse our love addiction resources or reach out to a mentor. We are here to listen anytime, and we believe in you. Read more on Love Addiction.
Like any other addiction, love addiction is connected with mental health. It isn’t something you can “cure” like a cough or a sore throat. But you can still find true freedom and healing by admitting that you need help, and reaching out for support when you need it. Recovery groups can be a great resource to help you feel less isolated. Therapy is also an effective way to manage love addiction. If you need someone to talk to right away, TheHopeLine offers resources and mentoring that have helped many people overcome the daily struggles of love addiction. We are here for you. Read more on Love Addiction.
Love addiction can be hard to break free from, but plenty of people have done so. One of the first steps is admitting you need help and that your compulsion to feel love is a problem for you. Then it’s time to get help. You can find support in a recovery group, with a faith community, or from a therapist. If you feel comfortable doing so, talk to your partner about your efforts to change. If you’re not sure where to turn, TheHopeLine offers resources and mentoring to help you recover from love addiction. Read more on Love Addiction.
Lust: What is lust? Is lust the same as love? Why is lust harmful? Get help overcoming feelings of lust.
People who we’ve helped through feelings of lust talk about how their lust was driven by a strong desire to feel pleasure that was even greater than any warm feelings they had for their partner. Attraction is normal, but if you feel like it is controlling you or pushing you to do things you and your partner aren’t ready for, it may be time to talk to someone about lust. TheHopeLine is a judgement-free place to talk about love, sex, and lust. If you need help, browse our resources or talk to a mentor anytime. We are here for you. Read more on Lust.
Lust affects us both spiritually and physically. It’s physical, of course, because it involves a strong desire to be with someone sexually, a desire which you feel in your body. But if lust feels like you “need” to be with someone to the point that those desires seem to take over your decisions and your relationships, it may be time to think about what spiritual needs you have that are going unmet. TheHopeLine is a judgment-free place to read and talk about lust, love, and spirituality. We are here to listen and help, no matter what you’re going through. Read more on Lust.
Lustful thoughts are more than attraction. They are based in a strong desire to have sex with someone and they feel more like a craving than a sense of love or admiration. One of the key ways to tell lust from love is that lust is about satisfying your desires. It has little to do with making the other person happy. If you need help understanding and breaking free from lustful thoughts, TheHopeLine offers judgement-free mentoring and resources. We are here to listen anytime. Read more on Lust.
Lying: Why do I keep lying? Are all lies really bad? What if someone I love is lying to me? Get help breaking free from lying.
People lie for a variety of reasons, but most of them are rooted in fear. We don’t want people to find out the truth. We don’t want our loved one to be hurt by what we say. Or, we don’t want to face the consequences of speaking and acting honestly. Whatever the case, you don’t have to lie. You can get the help you need to navigate relationship challenges and have difficult conversations. Check out our resources or request a mentor to get help breaking free from lying. We’re here for you. Read more on Lying.
Lying is knowing what the truth is and deliberately telling someone the opposite. Sometimes people lie because they feel it will protect them. Other times, people tell lies because they feel it will protect the feelings of the people they lie to. But lying only complicates relationships. Lying makes it harder to maintain trust, which is essential to a loving, giving relationship. If you’re not sure how to tell someone a difficult truth, ask for help with that conversation. TheHopeLine offers mentorship and support for a variety of relationship challenges so that you can build greater understanding and trust. If you need help, reach out. We are here for you. Read more on Lying.
Lying is bad because it harms our relationships. It makes it hard for people to trust us. After all, if someone has lied to us before, how do we know they won’t do it again? Lying is also hard to maintain. It can be a source of stress and anxiety for the person telling lies. If you struggle with lying, it’s hard to feel like you can break free from the cycle of lying. But there’s always hope. TheHopeLine offers mentoring and resources to help you break free from lying and sort through difficult relationship issues. Reach out to us anytime. We are here to help. Read more on Lying.
Marriage: Am I ready for marriage? Will I ever get married? Is my marriage in trouble? Get help with marriage challenges and questions.
The purpose of marriage is companionship and connection, and it happens on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level. Marriage gives you a way to grow, learn, and experience life with someone in new and exciting ways. If you have questions about love, marriage, and relationships, TheHopeLine is a safe place to learn more and ask questions. Browse our library or reach out to a mentor to help. We are here for you, and we wish the best to you and your partner. Read more on Marriage.
While not everyone gets married, marriage is important if you are looking for someone to share your life and your faith journey with, or if you want to raise a family with someone. But it’s important not to rush into decisions regarding marriage and intimacy. If you need help sorting things through, TheHopeLine offers resources and mentoring. We are here to help and we wish you the best in your relationship. Read more on Marriage.
People get married because they are looking for connection, intimacy, and companionship. Marriage is much more than a legal arrangement. There is a spiritual and emotional connection in marriage, and couples express that connection through physical intimacy. If you are considering marriage, it is important to seek counseling with your boyfriend or girlfriend to ensure you both understand the commitment and work necessary to make a marriage work. TheHopeLine offers marriage resources and mentorship to help you talk things through. We are here for you both anytime. Read more on Marriage.
Masturbation: What is masturbation? Is masturbation wrong? Does masturbation affect romantic relationships? Get answers to questions about masturbation.
There are articles and resources out there that outline health benefits of masturbation, including better sleep, greater relaxation, and more satisfaction in relationships. It’s important to remember, though, that masturbation often becomes an addictive behavior, and it can lead to diminished satisfaction for married couples. If you don’t want to risk that, or if your faith dictates that you should avoid masturbation, there are other ways to derive those benefits. And there is a safe place you can talk about it without being judged. TheHopeLine offers resources and confidential mentoring to talk about masturbation and sex. We’re here to listen anytime. Read more on Masturbation.
If you don’t masturbate, you won’t get caught up in the habitual and addictive cycle it can often create. But if you’re not sure how to manage the urges that make you want to masturbate, you could be at risk for other harmful behaviors, like having sex before you’re ready or using pornography. Don’t get overwhelmed. Reach out for help if you need someone to talk to. TheHopeLine offers resources and confidential mentorship without judgement. We are here for you. Read more on Masturbation.
Masturbation seems harmless, especially if you’ve only done it a few times. But it can develop into an addictive behavior, especially if it becomes a daily habit. It can also make it harder to be satisfied with affection from your partner. If you need a safe place to ask questions about masturbation or need someone to talk to, TheHopeLine offers resources and confidential mentorship. We are here to help without judgement. Read more on Masturbation.
Mental Health: Do I have a mental illness? Can mental illness be cured? How do I improve my mental health? Learn about mental illness and find support.
Practicing is a great way to think of it. Doing small things to improve your mental health every day is a great idea. We suggest 1) Listing what you’re grateful for 2) Monitoring your nutrition and physical activity 3) Sharing your feelings with someone you trust, or expressing them in a journal. 4) Resting when you feel tired or overwhelmed. It’s also important to reach out for help whenever you need it. If you need someone to talk to, TheHopeLine offers confidential mentoring and resources to help you manage and improve your mental health. We’re here to listen anytime. Read more on Mental Health.
The dictionary defines mental health as a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being. Mental illness, then, can look like a variety of conditions and diagnoses that negatively impact your mind, emotions, and behavior. If you’ve been feeling troubled for long stretches of time and aren’t sure what to do, TheHopeLine can help. Browse our mental health resources and reach out to a mentor today. We’re here to listen and help anytime. Read more on Mental Health.
We suggest these 10 things to improve your mental health: 1) Acknowledge your feelings 2) Allow yourself to feel emotions that seem negative, like sadness or anger 3) Avoid numbing your feelings with substances or behavior 4) Always remind yourself who loves you and what you’re grateful for in life 5) Express that gratitude to people you care about 6) Spend regular time outdoors 7) Go to places that make you feel spiritually and emotionally recharged 8) Meditate and/or pray regularly 9) Take care of yourself physically 10) Ask for help whenever you feel overwhelmed. TheHopeLine offers resources and confidential mentoring to help whenever you need someone to talk to. We are here for you and ready to listen. Read more on Mental Health.
Military: Do military relationships work out? How do I make a relationship work during deployment? What resources are there for military families? Get encouragement to strengthen military relationships.
We are happy to help couples dealing with military service and the necessary separation that comes with it. We know it’s hard, but we also know that you can make it work. Not sure where to start? Browse our free military relationship resources, or reach out to a mentor for confidential support. We are here to listen and we believe in your relationship. Read more on Military.
According to Military.com, the rate of divorce among couples where at least one person was in the military was only around 3%. While no amount of divorce is good or okay, this shows that the overwhelming majority of military couples make things work long-term. If you need help, TheHopeLine is here with resources and confidential relationship help for people with partners in the military, no matter what the stage of your relationship. We are here to listen and we believe in you. Read more on Military.
Parent Relationships: Do my parents really love me? What if my parents are abusive? Do I have to forgive my parents? Get help and support for parent relationships.
If your parents have a tough time communicating, if they fight frequently, if they ask you to keep secrets for them, or if they speak negatively to you about your other parent, they may be going through a rough patch in their relationship. Strong relationships are built on clear communication, patience, respect, and (of course) love for one another. If it seems like your parents are struggling in their relationship with one another and you’re worried about how that might affect their closeness to you, you can get answers. TheHopeLine offers free resources and online mentoring to help you sort through parent relationships. We’re here to listen anytime. Read more on Parent Relationships.
When parents have more children, their kids may feel distant, neglected, or abandoned by their mom and dad since everything seems to revolve around the new baby. But a new addition doesn’t change their love for you and it doesn’t have to have a negative impact on your relationship. Do your best to be patient with your parents during this time of stress and change. Ask how you can help and let them know that you want to spend time with them. This will likely help ease your anxiety about things. But if you still feel confused, frustrated, or lonely, TheHopeLine offers free resources and online mentoring to help you better understand parent relationships. We are here to listen and support you as you figure things out during this time of transition. Read more on Parent Relationships.
If you had a poor relationship with your parents, it will impact you in a number of ways as you grow and mature. The clearest effects are often seen in your mental health and in your relationships with others. You may feel fearful of closeness to others, or you may form relationships too quickly before you really get to know someone. You may experience symptoms of depression and anxiety, such as isolation, loneliness, or panic. Whatever it is you’re facing, remember that your difficult parent relationships are just one part of your life, and you can find freedom from the negative effects. It starts with being honest about how this has shaped your life and reaching out for help. TheHopeLine offers resources and mentoring to help you explore the effects of tough parent relationships on your life. We are always here to listen, and you can find hope and fulfillment no matter how hard things seem right now. Read more on Parent Relationships.
Helping your child through trauma can feel impossible, especially if the trauma impacts you directly, too. Your question reminds me of flying on airplanes. In the safety instructions at the beginning of the flight, they tell us to put on our own oxygen mask before helping others. The same goes for helping anyone we love through a traumatic time. The more support you’re able to get, the more readily you will be able to support your child. Reaching out to a trauma-informed counselor, a faith leader, or a mentor is a great step to take. TheHopeLine also offers support resources geared toward helping youth and young adults navigate trauma. Read more on Parent Relationships.
Mistakes are part of life for all of us, and it’s understandable that you want to protect your children from them as a parent. You can’t prevent them from making mistakes. Their choices are their own. But opening the lines of communication and striving to avoid making snap judgements could help your child feel more open to talking through things with you. And that conversation could lead to a mindset shift. If any of your children are youth or young adults, our support resources can offer them guidance in a judgement-free zone. Read more on Parent Relationships.
Abusive relationships are difficult and draining for everyone, but especially for children who have been physically, verbally, or emotionally abused by their parents. Your parents may say they love you, but their actions may show you the opposite. If you do not feel loved by your parent, you need a safe place to talk about those feelings. You also need to know this for sure: abuse is never, ever your fault! We are here to help any time you need resources or support. Read more on Parent Relationships.
If you are part of a big family or have had challenges with your parents, it can feel like your parents don’t love you and your siblings equally. If you are able, letting your parents know how you feel could open the door to better communication and help you feel closer to them. If your relationship with your parents feels unsafe because of an addiction, abusive behavior, or other conflict, this is not your fault and you are not alone. If you need someone to talk to, we are here to listen. We believe you are worthy of love and acceptance, and we are here to help however we can. Read more on Parent Relationships.
So sorry you are struggling in your relationship with your parent. Some parents have a harder time showing love than others. There are many parents who struggle with addiction or mental illness that affects how they show love to their children. Some parents choose abusive behavior, leaving their children feeling unsafe and unloved. None of this is ever your fault! You are lovable and worthy of love! If you feel unloved by or unsafe around your parents, we are here to help you find hope and healing. Read more on Parent Relationships.
Pornography: What is pornography? Why is pornography harmful? How does pornography impact relationships? Get help to stop using pornography.
While pornography certainly damages our understanding of sex, relationships, and intimacy, it’s important not to be too “doom and gloom” about pornography use. Freedom from the cycle of pornography use is possible. Relationships can heal after someone uses porn. And there is always hope for healthier and stronger relationships. The most important thing is being honest about how it’s impacting you and getting help if you’re struggling with it. If you want to stop using porn, we offer confidential resources and mentoring in a judgement-free zone. We’re here to listen anytime. Read more on Pornography.
Pornography use can cause young people to develop unrealistic, unhealthy, or harmful perspectives about sex and relationships. It can be very isolating and young people who use porn can struggle with deep feelings of shame. Repeated porn use can also develop into a harmful habit, since it often becomes a cycle of addictive behavior. If you’re worried about porn use or have questions about how it affects you, we offer free resources and confidential online mentoring. We are here to listen anytime without judgement. Read more on Pornography.
You don’t need to be religious to understand the negative impact of pornography. Plenty of therapists and psychologists agree that it is isolating, can cause intense shame, and can make an honest and fulfilling relationship with your partner more difficult. If you’re concerned about how pornography use is affecting you or your relationship, TheHopeLine can help. We have free resources for people who want to stop using porn and we offer confidential mentoring if you need someone to talk to. We are here to listen anytime without judgement. Read more on Pornography.
Pregnancy: How do I know if I’m pregnant? What do I do if I get pregnant before I’m ready? Should I keep my baby? Get pregnancy resources and support.
Diet plans should only be prescribed by a doctor or nutritionist. Taking on a fad diet anytime is risky and could affect your health, especially during pregnancy. In general, you should avoid alcohol, hydrate well, and eat healthful, nutrient-rich foods to nourish yourself and your baby. Ask your doctor any questions you might have about your weight or your diet. If you need support during and after pregnancy, TheHopeLine offers confidential resources and online mentoring. We’re here to listen anytime. Read more on Pregnancy.
It is always important to eat healthily and be active. It improves your mood and keeps you in good physical health after pregnancy. But be careful about being overly concerned with weight loss or dieting. Your body needs to heal, your baby needs to be fed, and both of these things take energy. Talk to your doctor about your concerns before significantly changing your diet. Nourish yourself and give yourself time to heal. Enjoy every moment with your new baby. If you need pregnancy resources or confidential mentoring, TheHopeLine is here to listen and offer support anytime. Read more on Pregnancy.
Early signs of pregnancy may include fatigue, nausea or vomiting, feeling faint, and having sudden changes in mood (like feeling weepy or irritable out of nowhere). The most common sign of pregnancy is missed periods. If you think you may be pregnant, schedule an appointment with your doctor or a crisis pregnancy center as soon as possible. If you want to learn more, we offer pregnancy resources and confidential mentoring. You are not alone during your pregnancy. We are here to listen whenever you reach out. Read more on Pregnancy.
PTSD: What is PTSD? Are veterans the only ones with PTSD? What are the signs of PTSD? Get help while healing from PTSD.
Symptoms of PTSD can include sudden increase in heart rate, rapid breathing or difficulty catching your breath, fear, panic, despair, and anxiety, with changes in mood happening suddenly after a stress trigger. The most common and pronounced symptom of PTSD is flashbacks, which make you feel like you’re reliving a harmful or traumatic experience. The good news is that there are plenty of effective treatments for PTSD that your doctor and therapist can recommend. TheHopeLine offers encouraging resources and confidential mentoring to help you work through PTSD. You can do this. We are here to listen and offer support anytime. Read more on PTSD.
Relieving PTSD is challenging, but not impossible. When your stress responses or flashbacks are triggered, do your best to get to a quiet place where you feel calm and safe. Try to breathe deeply for a few moments — in through your nose, out through your mouth. Helping your heart rate and breathing slow down will help you feel physically calmer while the emotional responses pass. Your doctor and your therapist can give you more ideas about what to do when post-traumatic stress interrupts your day-to-day life. We have encouraging resources to help people living with PTSD and we offer confidential mentoring if you need someone to talk to right away. Don’t hesitate to reach out. We are here to listen and help. Read more on PTSD.
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can be difficult and exhausting. You may experience mood swings, feelings of heightened anxiety or panic, or flashbacks to traumatic events that make you feel like you’re reliving them. As a result of these difficult and often unexpected symptoms, you may feel isolated or lonely. But there is hope. You can talk to your doctor or therapist about which of many available treatments is best for you. If you want to learn more, TheHopeLine offers free resources and confidential mentoring to support people with PTSD. We are here to listen and you are not alone in how you feel. Read more on PTSD.
Reputation: Why is reputation important? How do I build a good reputation? How do I fix a bad reputation?
Building a good reputation comes down to acting honorably. When you make the right choices for the right reasons, your reputation will improve. But it doesn’t happen overnight. Building a solid reputation means deciding to make good choices day in and day out, and doing the best you can to bounce back after a setback. It’s hard work, and there’s nothing wrong with seeking support. TheHopeline offers resources to help you understand your reputation, and confidential mentoring so you can talk things through. We’re here for you, and we’re honored to support you on this journey. Read more on Reputation.
Our reputation can be harmed when we make poor choices at work or school, or when we hurt others in our relationships. Perhaps you struggle with the same relationship problems over and over, or you keep falling back into harmful or addictive behaviors. All that has an impact on your repuation. But the good news is, your reputation can recover. TheHopeLine has resources to help you explore your reputation, and we offer confidential mentoring if you need someone to talk to about it. We believe in you, and we’ll do whatever we can to support you. Read more on Reputation.
Caring about your reputation doesn’t have to be shallow. It is important to consider how others perceive you so that you can stay on track to become the person you want to be. And if your reputation has suffered, exploring why could give you some meaningful insights into how you can grow as a person. Talking things through with someone you trust can help. TheHopeLine offers resources to help you consider your reputation, and confidential mentoring to help you sort through things. We are here for you, and it’s great you’re doing this important work. Read more on Reputation.
Respect: Why don’t people respect me? How do I get respect? Why is it important to be respected by others? Find support and resources to be more respected.
I think it’s natural to want to be both liked and respected. But I’ve noticed that when I’m making an effort to act respectably, people tend to like being around me. Whereas, if I’m just trying to imitate others to get them to like me, I won’t be able to keep that up, and others will probably lose respect for me in the process. Building respect is a good first step., TheHopeLine offers resources about respect, and confidential mentoring if you want to talk about how respect impacts your relationships. We respect you, and we are here to help. Read more on Respect.
I respect people who are kind, honest, and keep their word. When people treat others the way they want to be treated, respecting them is natural. And people don’t have to be perfect to be respectable. If you want to build mutual respect in your relationships, you can start right now. TheHopeLine offers resources help you understand respect, and confidential mentoring if you want to talk things through. We respect you, and we’re happy to help. Read more on Respect.
People respect you when you act with kindness, integrity, and honesty. But it’s a process, and it can take time. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming, especially when we are grappling with past choices we’re not proud of. I understand. But you have support. TheHopeLine offers resources for understanding respect, and confidential mentorship to help you talk it through. We have respect for you, and we are here to listen. Read more on Respect.
School Pressure: Why do I feel overwhelmed by school? How do I deal with school pressure? Who do I talk to about school stress. Get help and support overcoming school pressure.
Preventing school pressure often comes down to knowing what to expect, and making a plan to manage workload, stressors, and social time,. Of course, even with the best laid plans, school is still stressful. TheHopeLine offers resources to help you cope with school pressure, and confidential mentoring if you need someone to talk to about it. We are here for you, and we want to help make this school year a great one. Read more on School Pressure.
School pressure can be hard. Multiple classes, multiple assignments, and, of course, the social pressure: everyone wants to feel like they are valued, and that they belong. When I’ve struggled under lots of pressure, getting to the bottom of why always helps. And talking things through takes a lot of weight off my shoulders. TheHopeLine offers resources for understanding school pressure, and confidential mentoring if you need to talk about it. We are here for you, and we want to help you thrive throughout the school year. Read more on School Pressure.
Self-Care: What is self-care? Is self-care the same as treating yourself? How do I practice healthy self-care? Get support building better self-care habits.
Self-care isn’t self-indulgence, self-medicating, or self-soothing. It’s practicing healthy habits that nourish your mind, body, and spirit. That could mean nutrition, exercise, spiritual practice, emotional support, or spending quality time with people who make you feel safe and loved. If you need help practicing better self care, explore our resources. TheHopeLine also offers confidential mentoring if you need help understanding or discussing your self-care needs. We are here for you, and we’ll do whatever we can to help. Read more on Self-Care.
Yes. I believe self-care is crucial, not only for my well-being, but to be able to help others. I practice self-care through setting healthy boundaries in my relationships, doing my best to eat well and exercise, and grounding myself in my faith. But self-care isn’t always easy. We all need support to stay on track from time to time. TheHopeLine offers resources to help you build nurturing habits, and confidential mentoring when you need support to practice greater self care. We are here for you, and eager to help you do this important work. Read more on Self-Care.
Practicing self-care is about nurturing your well-being. Eating well, getting enough rest, and drinking plenty of water are great ways to take care of your body. You also want to be sure you are caring for your emotional and spiritual needs, too. That could mean meeting with a faith community, meditating, or talking with a counselor. No matter what your self-care routine, nurturing yourself is a great choice. TheHopeLine has lots of resources for healthy self-care, and confidential mentoring if you need to talk things through. We are here for you and happy to support your path to greater self-care. Read more on Self-Care.
Self-Esteem: What is self-esteem? Why is my self-esteem low? How do I improve my self-esteem? Get support and resources for better self-esteem.
Dealing with low self-esteem is never easy, but it helps to understand why we’re feeling down, so we can make a plan to turn things around. Once you’ve had some time to explore it and think things through, it can be really helpful to reach out to someone for support. TheHopeLine offers resources to help you understand how self-esteem is connected to your circumstances, your relationships, and your mental health. We also provide confidential mentorship to help you talk things through. We’re here to listen, and we believe in you. Read more on Self-Esteem.
Low self-esteem can happen for a variety of reasons. Usually, if I’ve been through a painful experience, my self-esteem suffers. Sometimes it can be a single conversation that really makes me feel down in the dumps. Other times, traumatic experiences in my childhood or younger years have negative effects on my self-esteem that don’t seem to go away. When I feel this way, getting to the bottom of why, and finding support, is important. TheHopeLine offers resources to understand and build self-esteem, and confidential mentoring if you need to talk. We’re here for you, and we believe in you. Read more on Self-Esteem.
It’s frustrating to struggle with low self-esteem, but you can build it back up. Think of people and places that make you feel nourished and cared for, spend time with those people and in those places when you can. Remember that feelings, while strong and powerful, aren’t always true. Learning why you feel the way you feel and talking to people about it can be a big help. TheHopeLine offers resources to build self-esteem, and confidential mentoring when you need extra support. We are here for you, and we believe in you. Read more on Self-Esteem.
Sex: Should I wait to have sex? What if my partner wants to have sex before I’m ready? How do I deal with strong sexual attraction? Get ansvwers to questions about sex without judgement.
It is a sin for Christians to have sex outside of marriage. But like other sins, God’s forgiveness, mercy, and love are abundant. Shame can be a big part of how Christians are impacted by sexual sin, but you’re not alone. TheHopeLine offers a judgement-free place to learn about sex, no matter where you are on your faith journey. We also offer confidential mentoring if you need someone to talk to. We are here for you, and we are glad to listen. Read more on Sex.
If you are a Christian who struggles feeling comfortable in your body, or who feels like your body and your biological sex don’t “match up”, don’t be afraid. As the book of Psalms says, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. God loves you, and you can love a meaningful, hopeful life to the fullest. TheHopeLine is a safe place to learn about faith and sexuality, and we offer confidential mentoring when you need extra support. You don’t have to go through this alone,. and you don’t have to feel ashamed of who you are. We are here for you. Read more on Sex.
Christianity does seem to have lots of teachings about sex. Sex is meant to be a physical expression of the marriage bond, and it is considered to be a sacred part of the relationship. There are a lot of conflicting messages about sex out there in the world, so many Christians feel compelled to be very strong and clear about their message, and their beliefs. But sometimes that can make people feel confused and ashamed. If you’re struggling with shame or confused about sex, TheHopeLine is a judgement-free place to learn more about sex, and we offer confidential mentoring if you need someone to talk to. We are here to listen, and we care about you. Read more on Sex.
Sex Addiction: What is sex addiction? What are the warning signs of sex addiction? How do I stop my sex addiction? Get help breaking free from sex addiction.
Constant craving for sexual intimacy is a common indicator of risk for sex addiction. Feeling like you can never satisfy your sexual desires, no matter how many times you have sex, is another red flag. Think of how your partner feels: have they expressed their own needs, feelings, or boundaries being ignored so you can satisfy your desires? If any of this is true for you, it’s time to consider getting help. TheHopeLine has resources to help you better understand sex addiction, and confidential mentorship when you need someone to talk to. We are here for you, and we will do whatever we can to support your recovery journey. Read more on Sex Addiction.
There is some overlap between narcissistic mental health disorders and sex-addicted behavior, but they aren’t one and the same. Not all people with sex addiction are narcissistic, and not all people who struggle with narcissism are also addicted to sex. But if you struggle to have a healthy awareness of the needs and feelings of others, it can lead to problems in intimate relationships. Explore our resources to learn risk factors for sex addiction, and reach out to a mentor at TheHopeLine anytime you need support. We are here for you, and we want to support your recovery journey. Read more on Sex Addiction.
Sexual addiction happens when sexual intimacy is craved, like some people crave drugs or alcohol. Sex addiction is not about meaningful connection, it is about satisfying a desire. But that desire never seems to be fulfilled. Sexual addiction can also harm relationships, especially if it leads to pressuring others into sex, hiding addictive sexual behavior, or cruel words or actions. If you think you might be addicted to sex, explore our support resources. TheHopeLine also offers confidential mentoring from people who are trained to help you on the road to addiction recovery. Asking for help is a crucial first step. You can do this, and we are here for you. Read more on Sex Addiction.
Sex Trafficking: What is sex trafficking? Who is at risk for sex trafficking? How can we help sex trafficking victims? Get confidential help breaking free from sex trafficking.
Traditional, patriarchal societies and cultures may be at risk of trafficking because of power dynamics within those communities. But it is important to remember that trafficking can happen in any culture. The best way to help, no matter your background, is to learn the signs of human trafficking, and to stay vigilant. TheHopeLine offers resources to equip you in the fight against trafficking, and confidential mentoring if you need support or have questions. If you suspect trafficking is happening in your community, call National Human Trafficking Hotline toll-free at 1-888-373-7888. We are here to help, and you are not alone. Read more on Sex Trafficking.
Someone who is rescued from sex trafficking often feels like they have to rebuild their life “from scratch”. Most of their time has been spent away from meaningful relationships, with daily abuse and sexual exploitation, and no opportunity for meaningful connection. If you want to help end human trafficking, explore our resources at TheHopeLine, or talk to one of our mentors about how you can help. If you suspect trafficking is happening in your community, call National Human Trafficking Hotline toll-free at 1-888-373-7888. We are here to help, and you are not alone. Read more on Sex Trafficking.
If you want to help someone who is a victim of sex trafficking, it is important not to put yourself in harm’s way. TheHopeLine offers resources to support survivors of human trafficking, and we offer confidential mentoring to anyone who needs support as they work to heal from sexual abuse and exploitation. If you suspect trafficking is happening in your community, call National Human Trafficking Hotline toll-free at 1-888-373-7888. We are here to help, and you are not alone. Read more on Sex Trafficking.
In both the legal and illegal sex industries, people charge money for sex and sexual acts. Because it is highly lucrative, and many people in both the legal and illegal sex industries are highly vulnerable, there is a very high risk of sex trafficking. If you or someone you know are considering legal or illegal sex work, explore our resources to learn the ugly truth about exploitation and human trafficking. If you have been sexually exploited, reach out for confidential mentoring today. We are here for you, and we can help you find freedom. Read more on Sex Trafficking.
We don’t know the exact size of the online sex industry, but the internet offers plenty of opportunities for trafficking to happen in ways that are difficult to trace, But it can be done. Backpage, a popular front for online trafficking, was recently shut down by the US Department of Justice. 7 people were charged with 93 different counts of trafficking. And that’s just one website. If you want to learn more about the warning signs of sex trafficking, check out our library of resources at TheHopeLine. If you’re worried you or someone you know may be a trafficking victim, we offer confidential mentoring and are here to help. Reach out to us anytime. Read more on Sex Trafficking.
One of the ugliest things I’ve learned about the sex industry is its high potential for sex trafficking. Sex trafficking is a modern form of slavery where people are trapped in a cycle of manipulation and abuse. They’re forced to perform sexual acts. and are kept under tight control of the person, people, or business who benefts from exploiting them. TheHopeLine offers resources to help you learn more about sex trafficking. If you worry you are being exploited, or have met someone you think may be a victim of sex trafficking, we can help. Talking to a mentor via chat or email is safe and confidential. We are here for victims of sex trafficking and people who feel trapped in the sex industry. No one has to go through this alone. Read more on Sex Trafficking.
Sexual Assault: What is sexual assault? How do I report sexual assault? Have I been sexually assaulted? Get confidential help after sexual assault.
It may seem like men are accused of sexual assault more often than women. but it is important to remember that millions of men and boys have been victims of sexual assault. If you are a man who’s been assaulted, reach out. TheHopeLine offers encouraging resources for recovery after sexual assault, and confidential mentoring for one-on-one support. We are here to help, and you can find hope and healing, even after dark times. Read more on Sexual Assault.
I’m so sorry that you have been the victim of sexual assault. It is normal and natural to feel sad, but please know there is hope. With emotional support, and appropriate medical and psychological treatment, people recovering from sexual assault can regain feelings of joy, and can lead happy and healthy lives. If you need support, TheHopeLine offers encouraging resources to help you in your recovery. We also offer confidential mentoring. We’re here anytime you need to talk, and we will do our best to help you find hope and healing. Read more on Sexual Assault.
Substance Abuse: What is substance abuse? Is substance abuse addiction? Can I stop substance abuse? Get help recovering from substance abuse/
Substance abuse is characterized by an inability to stop using drugs, alcohol, or other harmful substances. You may hide your using from others, and you may find yourself becoming very angry when others express concern. If you think you have substance abuse issues, TheHopeLine offers resources to encourage you in your recovery. We also provide confidential mentoring if you need someone to talk to . You are not alone, and we will do whatever we can to support you. Read more on Substance Abuse.
Substance abuse is usually treated with a combination of doctor visits, mental health counseling, and support groups (like AA or NA). Many people also rely on their faith community for recovery support. Some people go to in-patient rehab. Treatment for substance abuse is unique to each individual. If you are worried you have substance abuse issues, TheHopeLine offers resources to encourage you in your recovery. We also provide confidential mentoring if you need someone to talk to . You are not alone, and we will do whatever we can to support you. Read more on Substance Abuse.
Isolation, abandonment, and being the victim of previous abuse can all contribute to substance abuse. But substance abuse can affect anyone, even if they don’t “seem like” the type to struggle with an addiction. If you feel like you can’t control your use of drugs and alcohol, TheHopeLine can help. We offer substance abuse recovery resources, and confidential mentoring to get you the help you need. You are not alone, and we will do whatever we can to support you. Read more on Substance Abuse.
Suicide: How do I help someone who’s suicidal? What if I’m suicidal? How do I stop suicidal thoughts?
There are no comprehensive statistics about suicide hotlines, partly because their work is confidential. But talking to someone who is trained to listen and de-escalate definitely has an impact. Knowing we are loved and cared for when we are struggling makes all the difference. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide or find yourself making plans, U.S. residents can call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text “START” to 741741. If you love outside of the United States, contact the International Crisis Center in your home country. You can also explore suicide prevention resources at TheHopeLine, or talk to one of our confidential mentors anytime. We are here for you. Read more on Suicide.
I’ve talked to many people, of all ages, and from all backgrounds, who have recovered from suicidal thoughts. And I’ve reconnected with my own sense of purpose after struggling through dark times. What helps most? Remembering people who love you, and things about your life you enjoy. Remembering there’s only one you, and that just your being you brings happiness to others. Sometimes, even with this encouragement, it’s still hard. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide or find yourself making plans, U.S. residents can call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text “START” to 741741. If you love outside of the United States, contact the International Crisis Center in your home country. You can also explore suicide prevention resources at TheHopeLine, or talk to one of our confidential mentors anytime. We are here for you. Read more on Suicide.
If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide or find yourself making plans, U.S. residents can call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text “START” to 741741. If you love outside of the United States, contact the International Crisis Center in your home country. TheHopeLine offers resources to restore your sense of hope after feeling suicidal. And we provide confidential email and chat mentoring anytime. Your love is valuable, and are here to help when you need us. You don’t have to go through this alone. Read more on Suicide.