The deeper we have gone into the subject of lying, 
the more we see how much pain and stress it causes everyone involved. Sadly, all of us have been affected by lying, whether our own or someone else’s. I’ve been encouraged by those who have been helped by these blogs and want to live an honest life.
Honesty Brings Peace
Lying is extremely stressful. It causes you to be constantly looking over your shoulder and wondering who might be finding you out. You’re always running through the lies you’ve told in your head, trying to keep track of what you’ve told to which person, and what’s the next lie you need to tell. When you’re honest, you don’t have those worries, or the negative consequences of your lies. Sarah added:When you’re honest, you don’t feel so lost all the time.
Roiselyn commented: I can say that not lying is a very relaxing way of life. The fact you don’t have to worry about remembering old lies or getting in trouble later on for lying puts a lot more relief in your life. Even when it’s hard, telling the truth always has the better outcome than a bunch of lies.
People are constantly looking to see who they can trust and who they can’t. People are actually much more perceptive and aware of who tells the truth and who doesn’t. Over time, honesty shows itself as a trait that is beautiful and deeply respected. As you begin to live lie-free, you will begin to see people will trust and respect you more and more.
If you resist the temptation to lie, you increase your capacity to build lasting relationships of trust. This is true in all our relationships whether it’s dating, family, friends, or at work. Macey put it so well: The truth always comes around. It’s always best to be honest it makes any and every relationship strong and healthy.
Being honest and open has actually gotten me further than lying.
Honesty Builds Integrity
If you are a person of integrity, it means your walk matches your talk. Click To TweetIntegrity is a word few use, and less understand. Yet if you have it, it is priceless. If you are a person of integrity, it means your walk matches your talk…you do what you say you’re going to do, and when you say something, people know you mean what you say. It means you can be trusted. The opposite of integrity is hypocrisy…saying one thing and doing another.
Someone commented about the value of being honest: I used to lie a lot. I would lie only because it was easier than explaining the truth. And I have finally grown to realize that it’s easier to [be honest]. Being honest and open has actually gotten me further than lying. My parents trust me, and I feel good about myself. And when you feel good about yourself then you know that everything is okay. This person has come to realize the pain of hypocrisy and the joy of integrity. When we tell the truth and live it, we become emotionally and spiritually stronger everyday.
I want to offer up a challenge to all of us. Would you be willing to commit to a life of honesty and integrity? If you’re up for this life-changing challenge, please write me a comment below, and tell a friend about your commitment, too.
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I am on the path of honesty and integrity. I have learned that to survive in the world I need to manipulate everyone around me. Sadly that includes myself. I am very scared and very alone. I’m confused a lot of the time and live in a sort of fog. I try every day to live authentically. I don’t know what else to say.
I just hit rock bottom after a full life of lies and fear of being catch in my own traps. I lied to my wife several times (some “small” and some “big” lies) and right now came to a very fragile situation on our relationship (potentially divorce). This made me finally realise that lies bring consequences and that’s exactly what i never felt before. This time I understand I have a problem and I need to focus and give my complete best to get over this as a better man, one that people can trust and admire. It’s the only way for me to live a better life and maybe have a chance on my wife again.
Thank you for this help.
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I do the hardest thing ever. Well telling the truth about something after you hide it for years will surely hurt your partner but I took the way to be honest. And now I live in a difficult moment. It feels like honesty destroy everything that I have and I build. But still I didn’t want to lie. I do not want to lie today, or tomorrow or next week or next year. I got a good leason from all of this. And thank you so much for writing this article. It makes me feel better. Alot much better.
I am up for the challenge. I am going to pay attention to what I say and do to be more aware of being honest 100% of the time
I’m up for the challenge. Please help
Don’t want to lose everything I have.
I’m up for the challenge. Please help.
I’m up for the challenge. Please help me.