Our relationships are among life’s greatest gifts, but sometimes they feel strained, sometimes they break, and sometimes we end up wondering if it’s time to walk away for good.
If relationship challenges have left you feeling isolated and frustrated, you’ve found a community of support and answers for some of life’s toughest questions.
Is Your Relationship Toxic?
To know where to start, you have to evaluate your closest relationships honestly. Sure, tough circumstances may put a strain on an otherwise great relationship. This discomfort will typically pass with time and effort.
But if the negativity seems to go deeper – and last longer – than a tough week, this could be a sign of a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships most often occur when there are poor boundaries or when expectations are unclear.
Because toxic relationships run the risk of becoming abusive, it’s important to be aware of your relationship dynamics and how healthy (or how poorly) your relationships make you feel.
If someone close to you is constantly critical, rarely supportive, and always demanding of your time, energy, and attention (without giving anything in return), that toxicity could be harming you emotionally, not to mention having negative effects on your mental and physical health.
It’s important to know that If there’s verbal, physical, mental, or emotional abuse—or if being with someone leads to addictive behavior—you are definitely in a toxic relationship and we can help you right away.
Does a Relationship Have to Stay Broken?
When going through a tough season in a relationship or dealing with a toxic dynamic, it often feels like things are broken beyond repair. But is that true?
It depends. Relationships are a two-way street. There are certainly things you can do to make a relationship healthier:
- Communicate boundaries and expectations
- Be kind and supportive
- Forgive and be patient
Toxic relationships aren’t always deliberate – sometimes they become unhealthy over time. If both you and your friend or loved one are making an effort, there’s plenty of room to grow toward a stronger, healthier relationship. But if all the effort is one-sided, the relationship is going to leave you feeling exhausted.
What if I’ve Tried Everything?
Maybe you’ve tried everything you can think of to heal a relationship, but nothing seems to be working. This can be painful, but there’s still hope. Why?
You have other people in your corner. Take ten minutes to think of the people who bring the most joy and peace in your life. Even when you’ve dealt with difficult people, there will always be someone rooting for you. If you’re not sure where to turn first, TheHopeLine offers relationship help through podcasts, mentorship, and prayer.
You can build new relationships. Every day and every place you go is another opportunity to make a new connection and meet a new friend. You are surrounded by people who could benefit from your kindness, your strengths, and your gifts.
You are worthy of loving relationships. One of the biggest motivations to distance yourself from a toxic relationship comes when you fully realize and believe that you are worthy of healthy, loving relationships with people who know how to balance give and take.
God knows what you’re going through. God cares for you and can take on the anxiety in your life and relationships (1 Peter 5:7). He has put people in your life to pray for the bad relationships that have you discouraged. He is leading you toward peace and healing – and He will not abandon you.
Need help immediately? TheHopeLine mentors are here to help you break free from toxic, abusive and codependent relationships today.