How to Deal with Your Parents’ Divorce

Divorce affects everyone in the family and is one of the toughest challenges one will face. More than a breakup, the life-altering changes divorce brings is deeply painful for everyone involved.

Whether your parents’ divorce has come as a complete shock or you’ve seen the signs for many years, it’s extremely hard to see your parents turn away from each other with such finality. The fact is you are an innocent bystander, experiencing a tragedy to those closest to you. You will not experience this without it having a profound effect on you. Know that you don’t have to face it alone. We’re here to support you through it. We listen to how you are feeling, and offer guidance, prayer, coping strategies, and want you to know – you can get through this and make it to the other side.

Emotional Pain

Hurt. Pain. Rejection. Anger. Abandonment…all emotions that can come into play when your family is going through a divorce.

Whatever you are feeling, it can be so hard to talk about it. But it’s so important to talk about how you are feeling. You don’t want to bottle up your emotions because at some point they have to come out. It’s best to talk about them so you can face them. You can face these emotions and not just survive but also overcome!

Betrayal and Love

If one parent cheated on the other or has started seeing someone else before the divorce is even final, it can feel like an outright betrayal to you. But your parent is not purposefully doing it to hurt you. Yes, they might be being selfish. Yes, they might not be thinking about the consequences of their actions. Yes, they may be outright trying to hurt your other parent… but they love you and want the best for you, despite all that’s going on.

Guilt Versus Responsibility

No matter the circumstances surrounding your parent’s divorce…IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. Even if you’ve taken sides in the past, or been favorable to one parent over the other, it’s not your fault….it never was and it never will be. You are not responsible for any of your parents’ choices, and especially not for their divorce. They are adults who chose to get married and now have chosen to separate and divorce.

You Can Feel Whole Again After Divorce

The journey to wholeness after a divorce is long and hard, but it can happen. You can face painful emotions and circumstances while still leading a full life. Because you don’t have to go it alone.

Help during, in the middle of the craziness, and after your parents’ divorce is available through TheHopeLine. You can chat live, email one of our mentors, request prayer for yourself and your family, or find encouragement from our resource library. However, you choose to reach out, we’ll be there for support.

Search our library for resources (blogs, ebooks, podcasts and more) to help you cope during divorce. Find answers to questions like:

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  • Why Do I Feel Angry About My Parents’ Divorce?

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Will my marriage work if we come from divorced families?

People who get married after growing up with divorced parents are not doomed to fail. Of course, there’s no guarantee that any marriage will be successful. But making efforts to confront your fears, and work through your ups and downs, together, will help bolster you and prepare you both for your future together.

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