Both during the process and after your divorce has become final, it is important to stay focused on the future rather than dwelling in the past. It's easy to get stuck in a vicious cycle of either blaming yourself or your ex-spouse for the situation. This cycle will create either shame (when blaming yourself) or bitterness (when blaming your ex). Shame and bitterness can destroy hope and leave you believing your life will remain a disaster. Please know that God still has good things planned for you. As it says in the Bible, “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11. Look to God and His plans.