How To Understand & Overcome Grief and Loss
Grief is often overwhelming. It’s a complex combination of physical, emotional, behavioral, and cognitive symptoms that result from a significant or traumatic loss in our lives:
- After the death of a friend, parent, spouse, or loved one
- Before the loss of a loved one suffering from a long-term or chronic illness
- After a sudden loss of employment
- At the end of a close friendship or romantic relationship
When we are grieving after a loss or trauma, we rarely feel ready to face it or equipped to handle it. We often wonder “Why now?” and “Why me?”.
If we believe in God, He seems distant. At times the pain may come so fast and so strong that we no longer believe at all.
The Truth About Grief
Grief has no time limit. It can hit us weeks, months, or years later, seemingly out of nowhere, and leave us feeling like we’re starting all over.
Without the right support, grief becomes unhealthy and all-consuming. It saps all of our joy, affects our performance at school or work, and harms the good, loving relationships that remain in our lives. Sometimes it can even tempt us toward destructive and addictive behaviors, self-harm, or suicide. This does not have to happen with your grief.
There is Good News
Grief can be so intense that it leaves you feeling like no one has ever hurt as deeply as you’re hurting. You may even feel guilty for how troubled and upset you are. But grieving is normal. If we love someone, it is good and natural for us to mourn their absence.
Healthy grieving allows us to understand the roots and sources of our pain. It moves us toward healing.
You can better understand your grief. You don’t have to be immobilized by pain.
Your feelings are painful and powerful, but you are stronger than your feelings – and God is stronger and greater than all your pain and sorrow.
You are not alone in your grief. Everyone experiences agonizing loss. Connecting with others who have survived a time of darkness is one of the best ways to get to the other side of grief.
God is faithful. There are no easy answers – and sometimes no answers at all – to the difficult questions we have when we grieve. But we do know that our faith will comfort us and that God is close to us when we are grieving. The psalmist tells us that “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). And Jesus reminds us again in the Sermon on the Mount, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” (Matthew 5:4).
We Are Here to Help
TheHopeLine has a team of expert mentors, and a growing library of blogs, podcasts, and ebooks to help you navigate, communicate, and cope with your grief. We offer resources, one-on-one support, and prayer in the immediate aftermath of a loss, or anytime your grief seems to control you. We are here: all you have to do is reach out.