There is value in being fearless and bold in the pursuit of your dreams. But for some guys, their dream is to date the most amazing girl they know to the point they don’t know when to stop pursuing this dream.
So let’s have an honest look at when it may be time to give up.
Signs it may be Time to Stop Pursuing a Girl
Many girls have a story of a guy who wouldn’t give up in his pursuit of her. In life, persistence often pays off. But when it comes to a guy pursuing a girl, it can be just plain confusing.
Danny wrote: There’s this girl who I really like. But I have no idea whether she likes me or not. Sometimes she acts like she does, but other times she doesn’t. I’m just confused.
Well Danny – here are some obvious signs you should look for that it might be time to move on. But then keep reading for great tips on how to pursue a girl in an appropriate way.
12 Signs to Move On
- When she obviously avoids you
- If you show an interest in her, but she seems to ignore you
- She acts one way around you, and another way around her friends
- No longer responds to your calls/texts/emails/snaps
- She asks you to stop
- Or tells you you’re coming on too strong
- Your friends tell you to move on
- She talks to you about another guy she’s interested in
- If she seems bothered, irritated or angry at you
- Your self-esteem starts to suffer for it
- You start to think you are going crazy about the whole situation
- If you’re wondering if you should stop pursuing her, it’s probably time.
Skye wrote: People need to use the common sense the good Lord gave them. When something in your head tells you not to do something, don’t do it. You’ll thank yourself later.
Roy wrote: Everyone I knew early on told us it would never work out, but I stayed with her to prove them wrong. In the end it left me more broken and confused. Had I listened early on I would have saved myself a great deal of trouble and pain.
Most annoying guys are ones who are convinced they have to be with this one particular girl, even though they might not even really know her. These guys are usually so strongly attracted to something about this girl, that he thinks he’s in love before he even knows her.
Bottom line – if it is taking a lot of effort to get her interested and she is showing no indication she likes you, it is time to back off for both of your sakes.
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Don’t let one girl determine your self-image.
I know you like this girl a lot, but you don’t want a relationship that is this much work. Create healthy boundaries for yourself. Boundaries are emotional markers that clearly define where one person ends and the other person begins. Healthy boundaries allow you to be free to be yourself, and not feel like your happiness is dependent on what another person thinks about you. This makes you confident and allows you to be comfortable around other people and develop healthy relationships going forward.
So how can you pursue a girl in an appropriate way?
Relationships take time to develop. You can’t force your way into someone else’s life.
First, just seek to be friends.
Give yourself time to get to know her. But even more importantly, give her time to get to know you. You deserve someone who is interested in you, as well.
Second, don’t act like your entire happiness depends on her realizing how wonderful you are.
That’s a lot of pressure on a girl. She wants someone who is happy and confident in their own right.
Third, show her respect.
Most girls love to be pursued by a guy, or viewed as someone special. Most of the time they appreciate a guy’s persistence and confidence. But more than anything, a girl wants to be respected and valued. The more respect you can show as you pursue her, the better.
Give the Chase a Rest
If you stop pursuing her, and give the chase a rest, you might find out the answer you’re looking for. If she’s interested in you, she may try to find out where you’ve been. She might actually become more interested in you, because you’re not trying so hard. But you might also find that she doesn’t care that you’ve stopped pursuing her. That’s a good sign that you were pursuing the wrong girl. It’s probably time to take a break, and hope that you can get to know each other as friends over time.
Be yourself and be relaxed.
Be yourself, and be relaxed in your pursuit of your dream girl. Don’t act like your entire happiness depends on her realizing how wonderful you are. Keep in mind there are plenty of girls in the world, some of whom will find you attractive and well worth their time.
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fell in love with a co worker. been pursuing her for 3mos now. but in that short period of time i already cried a lot. she has a lot of personal problems. shes even restricted by her family to date. so i keep distance when were going out or if were just walking in the streets. she still talks about her ex when were together. im 22 and shes my first love. even if she rejected me many times before but i still keep on going. sometimes i cant help but feel that shes just accustomed to me being there for her. calls me if she needs something. but after that itll take time for her to reply to my messages. ive done so many decisions that harmed my work and myself. everything for her sake. not blaming her though. but a little appreciation would be nice. she shows affection sometimes. and hold i on to that. i am sane right now and i know that i need to stop. but if i see her again i know that ill think otherwise. shes like a drug thats killing me and im aware of it. i just cant stop
I fell in love with a client, she has MS which only manifests as fatigue. I was taking out and about in the community. We became friends and I started doing a few private jobs for her. I felt I could fix all her problems. I bottled the feelings and eventually it surfaced and I email a mushy email. She took offense and felt uncomfortable with me. She said that her previous relationship has masses her head up and she still healing from it. I haven’t texted since and I lost her as a client. I have been sending her the odd gift probably once a month. I will send her some flowers near her birthday just stating friendship. I regret loosing her completely. I may visit in a few months, with some flowers and ask her how she is.
I guess I fear meeting her and her being angry.
I am trying to hard
Maybe a stupid question/reply but I recently reached out to a girl I used to go to school with on messenger. She opened up somewhat and we had a pretty good rapport going. I felt good, couple days later I send her another funny video. No response from her. Idk if she’s afraid, uninterested etc. Part of me wants to reach out again as I don’t know enough about her and/or if she’s waiting for me to continue communicating 🤔 Another part just wants to say whatever and forget her. Wish people would just be upfront to eliminate the guesswork in dating.
I badly want to stop yet I still badly want to talk to her.
My feelings for her is like a disease disrupting my whole system.
I just adore this girl so much.
But she wont respond to my chats and even when I am talking to her I cant keep the conversation going cause I becoming conscious of everything so I forget all of the the things that I want to tell her and the things that I was planning to tell her and I just look at her face when she talks, look at her eyes, lips, nose, her imperfections. I know from the start that I will crash and burn and a lot have tried but they all failed but still I am hoping that someday, somehow my feelings will reach her.
They said that she was kind of weird.
But my God for me she’s just perfect.
Tony will surely die.
Ciao.
First of all she is not perfect. I can sympathize however because that was like me several years ago. I thought the same way about a girl until she betrayed me in the worst way by seeing another guy. I began to look for her flaws and when I found there were many I moved on and found someone so much better and we are now married. You can do better. I speak from experience.
I’m in a pickle, met a girl we got on really well, tells me she crazy about me and i her, couple weeks later shes on tinder and forgets about me, uses me for attention etc until ultimately we fall out. She made contact again apologizing for everything etc we become friends, i still have feeling for her, she meets a new guy and keeps him secret from me for a while, breaks up with him then gets back with her long term ex she has kids with, i came on abit strong as i really like this girl and ruined my chances, she still considers me one of her best friends and she is mine to but i cant shake this hurting feelings that i want to be with her and she doesnt want me, im doing my best to suppress it but it hurts alot…. i dont want to lose her as a friend as we get on really well and i love her company but this constant feeling of needing her is getting in the way.
One of my friends told me about a guy with me at work. He added me on fb, he is very shy. He wanted to start as friends to get to know each other better, then a bad event happened which stopped him to talk or even take any step. Its been almost 9 months since this issue. I dont see him talking any step, he told my friend that he has big issues with his family, he wants to finish this headache first and then go into a serious discussion about the relationship. The idea is that I get attached, I dont know him, he is not even start any conversation on fb or anything. He sometimes like some of my posts and sometimes no. My friend asked him if he is interested or not. He said yes but a lot of issues is taking place and I dont want to get into something serious with half head.
Is this true? Or Im trying to convenience myself? Is he really interested or he lost interest? Im really hurt and upset.
I stop as soon as there is a restraining order.
Immediately, if not sooner.
If he knows what’s good for him.
Thank you
Recently I stated my feelings to my female friend. To my surprise she said she thinks about me every day. She said we have become very close. She said she cares about me and was falling in love with me. I held her in my arms kissed her on the lips and afterwards she said “we probably shouldn’t be doing this.”
I’m like huh? She just got done telling me she thought about me every day, said we’ve become close, was falling in love with me but we shouldn’t kiss? I don’t know if she is just stringing me along or what?
A few weeks ago I spent time with her as friends and the next morning she calls to talk and said “I shouldn’t put this out there but last night I wanted to push you down on the couch, lay on top of you and cuddle.”
We’ve been long time friends but have started hanging out more one on one the past month. She initiates phone contact 80% of the time but I’m wondering if this is only happening because she doesn’t have any female friends, is bored and I’m just a convenience to her?
I don’t want to play games but do I start ignoring her phone calls and return them a day or two later? We only see each other every other weekend so I really can’t make her miss me other than cutting back on our daily phone conversations. This is so confusing. I don’t want to walk away from a friendship, but I also do not like this uncertainty or find out one day she is seeing another guy.
It sounds like you have a really good friendship and that you are both having romantic feelings for each other. The best thing in any relationship is to communicate with each other. Great relationships are built on trust and honesty. You can’t read each others’ minds, so you have to talk it out and listen to each other. We have a free eBook about dating – two important sections you might want to read are “Take it slow” and “Show respect.” http://info.thehopeline.com/relationships-dating
How did this play out? I hope u talked to her about your concerns and she was able to calm your fears.