Question 1

Is it Ever a Good Idea to Get Back with Your Ex?

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Whether it’s possible to get back with your ex depends on where you are in life and what your relationship was like before it ended. It’s best to ask yourself some tough questions, and be honest about the answers. Questions like, has enough time passed to gain perspective, how have things changed, and why did you break up?

Question 2

Facing Abuse: Can an Abuser Ever Really Change?

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Perhaps an abuser can change and heal if they take ownership of their issue and are willing to work really hard to break the cycle. However, the only healing you can take charge of is your own. Making your safety and well-being a priority is key. The abuser will have to engage in their own "recovery Journey" to correct the harmful thought and behavior patterns that lead to abuse and control. Read more to discover what a life in recovery looks like for an abusive person.

Question 3

Can You Save Your Relationship After Cheating?

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There’s not a one-size-fits-all approach on whether you can make a relationship work after cheating, and how well reconciliation works depends on several factors, such as, what exactly happened? Were you safe? How much time has past? What advice are you getting?

Question 4

This May Be Why You Bully Others (Here’s What to Do)

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Bullies often engage in abusive behavior for the same reasons others do: they feel a need to control and dominate someone. That unhealthy need may come from a variety of places, including their own unmet emotional and spiritual needs. Many people who experienced abuse in their own lives have later become stuck in toxic mindsets and behavior patterns that became bullying. If you have bullied others, it doesn’t have to control your life. You can build healthier relationships and learn how to communicate your feelings and needs.

Question 5

Toxic Relationships: What Is Gaslighting?

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Emotional abuse occurs when someone uses emotions to control or hurt you. Some of the most common “tools” used by emotionally abusive people are manipulation, shaming, and deceit. If you’re with someone who constantly twists your words to make everything seem like your fault, or who shames you or speaks cruelly to you, it’s time to get help.  "Gas-lighting" is a term that describes an emotionally abusive relationship. If you are questioning your situation, learn more about the warning signs.  Please know: emotional abuse is never your fault, and you can break free!

Question 6

Red Flags, but Married Him Anyway

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Some people get divorced because abuse makes them feel unsafe. Others feel trapped by their partner’s addiction. Perhaps there has been infidelity in the relationship. Whatever the reason, divorce can be devastating for everyone in a family. Make sure you have the support you need. If you don’t know where to turn, start with TheHopeLine.  Jewel did. Here's her story.

Question 7

Sexual Assault: A Rape Survivor&#8217;s Story

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It is normal to feel sad, but there is hope. With emotional support, and appropriate medical and psychological treatment, people recovering from sexual assault can regain feelings of joy and can lead happy and healthy lives. It is possible to unveil the lies you're telling yourself and you can walk in truth and freedom to fulfill your dreams and destiny.

Question 8

Why Do You Hate Yourself?

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Deep down, many people hate themselves. Most people say the reason is their appearance, not feeling loved, or a failed relationship. It's important to learn where your self-hate comes from. If you have long-term, deep-rooted feelings of hate toward yourself, it didn’t happen overnight. Thinking through the parts of your life that affect how you see yourself can be useful in making things better.

Question 9

What are warning signs that someone may be abusive?

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Most abusive behavior is rooted in control. If you notice someone is trying to control who you spend time with, talk to, or associate with, this is a red flag indicating that further abuse could develop. If it seems like they get upset for no reason and are not receptive to efforts to help or communicate, take note. If you feel fearful or unsafe around that person, even if you’re not sure why, it is a good idea to reach out to someone you trust for help. No matter what, remember: their abusive behavior is never your fault!

Question 10

Why do Bad Things Happen?

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This has never been an easy question to tackle. There may never be a perfect answer, simply because we may never fully comprehend God or how people’s choices impact the world. Struggling in faith is a normal and healthy part of strengthening it. God cares about you and wants to know how you feel when tough things happen so that He can heal and comfort you.

Question 11

How Do You Deal with Being Abandoned?

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Abandonment is one of the toughest feelings to get through because of the sense of isolation that comes with it. One of the most helpful things you can do is share your feelings with a community or group of people you trust. Simply giving voice to your feelings to someone else can build a bridge that helps curb feelings of abandonment. Journaling may be helpful, too. Focus part of your journaling each day on people you love and are grateful for. These reminders can help you feel more connected.

Question 12

Coping with Sexual Abuse

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Sexual abuse is any inappropriate and forceful physical, visual or verbal interaction for sexual stimulation or satisfaction. A key characteristic of any abuse is the dominant person forcing someone into sexual activity. This abuse is intentional, not accidental, and is often committed by someone the victim knows or has regular contact with, such as a family member, friend, teacher, or even a spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend.

Question 13

PTSD: What Is It and Do I Have It?

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Symptoms of PTSD can include sudden increase in heart rate, rapid breathing or difficulty catching your breath, fear, panic, despair, and anxiety, with changes in mood happening suddenly after a stress trigger. The most common and pronounced symptom of PTSD is flashbacks, which make you feel like you’re reliving a harmful or traumatic experience. The good news is that there are plenty of effective treatments for PTSD that your doctor and therapist can recommend.

Question 14

Should I Forgive My Abuser?

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You can forgive your partner for abuse without continuing in a relationship with them and without putting yourself in harm’s way. Forgiveness is not about being OK with someone else’s bad choices. “Forgive and forget” is unhealthy and dangerous, especially when it puts you back in the path of an abusive person. Practice true forgiveness – letting go of the need for revenge or payback – in a way that feels safe and protects your self-worth.

Question 15

What is Emotional Abuse?

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Verbal abuse doesn’t always turn into physical abuse, but there is a chance that it could happen. This depends on the willingness of the abusive person to get help with their behavior, whether or not they abuse substances like drugs or alcohol, and how much (or how quickly) their moods and behavior have changed over time. It’s scary to think that someone you love might become physically abusive. You don’t have to go through this alone. Learn as much as you can about the signs of abuse and how to break the cycle. Reach out to someone you trust to ensure your safety.

Question 16

Parent Relationships: Am I Being Abused?

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Abusive relationships are difficult and draining for everyone, but especially for children who have been physically, verbally, or emotionally abused by their parents. Your parents may say they love you, but their actions may show you the opposite. If you do not feel loved by your parent, you need a safe place to talk about those feelings. You also need to know this for sure: abuse is never, ever your fault!

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