Am I Worthless? How to Feel Love from God

Do You Feel Worthless?

When you hate your life and yourself, you often feel worthless. But you're not alone. The reality is, that every one of us questions our value at some point.

  • Do people like me?
  • What does my life matter to anyone? Does anyone really care?
  • People say such mean things about me, that must be what I’m really like.
  • Why do people hurt me? I must not deserve any better
  • Why am I such a mess up?
  • Why doesn’t anyone notice me?

We Base Our Worth on What People Think

We all base our worth on how others view us. If someone else finds me worthy of their love, I must be worth something, right? But if I don’t feel like I am receiving approval from anyone, if no one else is noticing my worth, then maybe I’m not worth anything.

We base our value on praise from others either for something we’ve done or bought or the way we look...because essentially, if someone else thinks I’m O.K., then I must be O.K.

While I would like to say, don’t worry about what others think, I don’t think that is realistic.

I think all of us are wired this way….we are wired to be loved and accepted.

Base Our Worth on What God Thinks

The problem is people never love perfectly.  Their views and opinions are constantly changing. They can never completely fill us up. And quite honestly, some people love horribly.

Let me just say to the child who has never been unconditionally loved or accepted by a parent, I am truly sorry, but it is NOT your fault, and it does NOT mean you are worthless.

I believe the only way to gain deep-rooted self-worth is to understand how God, your creator, views you. Even if you struggle with something as dark as depression and suicidal thoughts, God can and will help you, because His love is perfect, unconditional, and pure. He thinks you are worthy. Once you understand this in the core of your being, in your soul, you will no longer depend on the fleeting approval of others, but your worth will be built on the solid foundation of an unchanging God.

It is absolutely possible with God's help to stop hating yourself. If you will start looking at yourself the way God sees you, you can change your self-loathing to self-assurance. You can change from hating yourself to knowing you are made in God's image. God says you are: awesome, special, loved, cherished, beautiful, chosen, and so much more.

God talks to us through His Word, the Bible.  It is His love letter to you.  The Bible is full of the truth about how God feels about you.

Do you ever wonder "Am I worthy of God's love?"

Below are some of my favorite verses from the Bible that describe who you are in God's eyes.

Let these words soak in. You can even try inserting your name into any one of these statements from the Bible.

Bible Verses about Feeling Worthless

God designed you and thought of you before you were born

Imagine being dreamed about before you were even born – God dreamed about you!

"You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed." (Psalm 139:13-16)

God Thinks about you

Imagine how it would feel to have someone love you so much they couldn’t stop thinking about you – that’s God!

"How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me!" (Psalm 139:17-18)

God Sings over you

Imagine someone singing a love song just for you- God does!!

"The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness; He will quiet you by His love; He will exult over you with loud singing." (Zephaniah 3:17)

God Will Never Forget You

Imagine someone tattooing your name on their hand – God has!!

“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.” (Psalm 49:15-16)

God will never abandon you

Imagine never having to worry about being alone – God is always there.

"Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; He will neither fail you nor abandon you." (Deuteronomy 31:8)

God Delights in you

Imagine someone who finds joy in knowing you – God does!

"He brought me out into a broad place; He rescued me, because He delighted in me." (Psalm 18:19)

"The LORD’s delight is in those who fear Him, those who put their hope in His unfailing love." (Psalm 147:11)

God Cares for you

Imagine someone who is willing to take on your burdens – God will!

"Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)

God makes you NEW

Imagine someone who doesn’t care about your past, but will accept you and make you new – that’s God.

"This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!" (2 Corinthians 5:17)

God sees you as a Masterpiece

Imagine being thought of as priceless, created with a purpose in mind.

"For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago." (Ephesians 2:10)

God Loves You

Imagine a love so deep that someone would offer their child’s life to save yours and then make you their child – that’s what God did.

"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)

"Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes." (Ephesians 1:4)

"See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are!" (1 John 3:1)

God Saves You

Imagine that despite your past mistakes, someone offers you a do-over for free, that will not be taken away – God offers you this!

"For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Romans 6:23)

"So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death." (Romans 8:1-2)

Did the Words Sink In?

Are you beginning to understand? You are SO precious. Not because of what people think, not because of what you do, not because you look a certain way or have achieved a certain thing. You are worth so much because God loves you. Even if you struggle with something as overwhelming as self-harm, depression, and suicide, prayer and leaning toward God can change your life. If you want to learn more, here are some more resources for finding self-worth and some additional verses of hope.

Dawson McAllister
Dawson McAllister, also known as America's youth pastor, was an author, radio host, speaker, and founder of TheHopeLine. McAllister attended Bethel College in Minnesota for undergraduate work where he graduated in 1968, began graduate studies at Talbot School of Theology in California, and received an honorary doctorate from Biola University.
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17 comments on “Am I Worthless? How to Feel Love from God”

  1. I have a special place for myself and special treatment that no person or creature on this world deserves. It has been this way for so long that it seems to be who I am. You see, I don't need a trigger, a memory or an event to dish out this special treatment for this person. That person is myself, and speech said to no one but me is said there. It is profane and ugly and the violent imagery would make you think a cross was being prepared for me. I am so weary of it all I have no resistance, no reason, and no will to stand against it. Only the Holy Spirit could free me.
    One morning I was reading my devotional and this verse lurched my consciousness. For when I can see no deliverance from my inescapable prison, this admonition thwarts the catch 22 of my dilemma.
    even if our conscience condemns us, that God is greater than our conscience, and He knows all things.
    1 John 3:20 HCSB
    To me it says, that if my emotional worth I feel stays with me to my dying day, and every condemnation Satan puts in my minds, if I carry that to my grave... there God through His Son Jesus Christ delivers me. God is greater than the thoughts of my mind His deliverance is not based on my thoughts but His Son. Preserve! Don't denounce the sacrifice of His Son, God placed worth on you when His Son died in your place.
    Guard your heart above all else, for it is the source of life.
    Proverbs 4:23 HCSB
    Begin kicking Satan out of your mind, invite the Holy Spirit in.
    But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith,
    Galatians 5:22 HCSB
    I have faith that no matter how I feel about myself even to my grave, my salvation is not on what I think I am it is on what God knows I am.

  2. My Christian mother approved of me being sexually abused. My Christian Dad doesn’t have room for me in his life. I have no other family. I try to be friendly and supportive of others, and it doesn’t matter to anyone. I try my best to serve others, and I am ignored, dismissed, and rejected. I used to have hope that I was worthy of healing, and tried to find someone to talk to. My therapist advised me to commit suicide. I viscerally understand the idea of “Base our worth on what God thinks”. I have reached out to God in the most honest and sincere ways I know how, and I end up feeling totally alone. When I ask God for help, the silence is suffocating. The Bible says that God loves me, and I believe that. It also seems like God does not want me. It is difficult to find any peace in the idea that God might love me, when it seems like God doesn’t want me. I feel defective and worthless.

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