What Is Bullying & Tips for Breaking Free

Were you bullied as a child? Is someone you’re related to, or in a romantic relationship with, bullying you now? Did something cause you to bully others in the past? Whatever the circumstances, bullying can damage close friendships and relationships— often beyond repair.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t find peace.

Are You Being Bullied?

When people are close to you, it’s sometimes hard to tell if you’re being bullied, or if someone in your life just needs help with anger management. Here are the most common signs of bullying we’ve seen from people who’ve reached out TheHopeLine:

  • Verbal, Physical, or Emotional Abuse
  • Mockery
  • Public Humiliation
  • Isolating and Abandoning Others
  • Damaging Others’ Property or Belongings
  • Online Harassment

Like other types of abuse, bullying can leave physical and emotional scars. You likely feel depressed and anxious, even when the person bullying you isn’t around. Being bullied might make you so fearful of other pain or trauma that you avoid being around people and doing things you’d otherwise love.

Breaking the cycle of bullying starts with reaching out to people who can help you in a place where you feel safe. That could mean live chatting or emailing one of our mentors, talking to your pastor or therapist, or calling a friend or family member you trust. In many cases, people build a network of support from more than one safe relationship.

Have You Been a Bully?

People who have been bullied aren’t the only ones hurt by the unkind actions, thoughts, and words. If you’ve ever been a bully, you’ve likely experienced guilt, shame, and fear the hurtful patterns will repeat themselves in a new relationship or friendship that you want to get right.

It’s likely that the pain you’ve caused others comes from your own unresolved pain or trauma,  Maybe, in your darkest moments, you’ve felt you wanted to punish yourself with self-harm or suicide. You are not your past choices. You can get confidential help without fear of judgement. You can find a way to accept your faults, and forgive yourself  for your mistakes.

Breaking Free From Bullying

Whether you’ve been bullied in the past, or have been unkind to others, your difficult and painful experiences do not define you, and they don’t have to shape your future. You can free yourself from the harmful impact of bullying on your self-worth.

We’ve seen people who have been bullied reclaim their confidence. We’ve helped people who have hurt others understand the roots of their own pain, and work toward greater kindness and compassion. No matter how dark things have seemed in the past, you can heal from the painful scars of bullying, and that healing can start today. Not sure what to do first? Request prayer, or an email from a mentor at TheHopeLine.

We have lots of resources (blogs, ebooks, podcasts, and more) to help you sort through the difficult emotions caused by bullying. Search our library for answers to important questions like:

  • Will someone who is abusive ever change?
  • How does faith help heal a broken heart?
  • How can I learn to love myself again after being bullied?

Most Recent Blogs on Bullying

Depression Is a Bully

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In the mind, we ponder fond memories that can make us smile. In the mind we can problem solve. We can daydream. But in the mind we can also battle thoughts of loneliness, shame or fear of failure. The mind holds what the heart feels. When a person is struggling..Read more

How Cyberbullying Impacts Students

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Just as the use of technology itself has evolved, so has the ability to bully. Bullying, once restricted to the school or neighborhood, has now moved into the online world. Bullying through electronic means is referred to as “cyberbullying.” As adults, thinking back, it was just a generation ago that..Read more

[Video] Bullying Prevention: How to Disarm a Bully

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Brooks Gibbs shares the key to disarming a bully. Brooks Gibbs is a youth crisis counselor, bullying expert, youth speaker, author of Love is Greater Than Hate, and friend of TheHopeLine. Bullying is an Imbalance of Power To understand how to disarm a bully you first have to know what bullying..Read more

How Her Pain Turned Into Something Beautiful

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Cam’s Story Camille Paddock has been through a lot!  She was bullied to the point where she considered taking her own life.  Thankfully, she did not.  She decided to use the challenges she faced for positive change.  She started her own online anti-bullying community through Facebook, called Cam’s Dare to..Read more

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Suicidal Thoughts to Accepting God’s Love

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I finally came to a point in my life where I just couldn’t handle my problems on my own any more, even with the Lord.  There’s been a lot to deal with, including child abuse, severe bullying, and domestic violence. I Couldn’t Handle the Pain or Shame Despite several attempts..Read more

Bullying: They Hated Me So I Hated Myself

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I’m Dewinsar and I’m 19. Everyday after going to school, I just sit in my room doing nothing. I wonder why I’m still going to school. No one wants me there. They hate me and said that I’m not wanted. They push me away like I’m a monster. Sometimes I..Read more

Dealing with Depression: TheHopeLine Saved My Life

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My Life Was Hard Dealing with Depression I have been dealing with depression for eleven years. My sister passed away and my life changed completely. Then my Aunt passed away from suicide. Then on my Aunt’s birthday, my grandmother died, of old age. I was abused by my father. My..Read more

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Free eBook: Understanding a Relationship with God

A guide to understanding the basics of Christianity and a meaningful relationship with God.  Do You Feel Like Life is Meaningless? Are you wondering what your purpose is? Do you have questions about what Christians believe or what it means to be a Christian? At TheHopeLine we believe real and lasting HOPE can only come […]

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