You shouldn’t be ashamed or afraid to talk about sex. It’s a normal part of human life, and it can be a beautiful experience. But if you’ve been a victim of sexual abuse, trafficking, sexual assault, or have addictions to unhealthy sexual behaviors, sex becomes shameful, frightening, and isolating.

You may feel worthless, like you’ve let yourself or your partner down. You may feel like you can’t stop your addictive sexual behavior. Maybe you’re afraid that your future romantic relationships will become sexually abusive or unhealthy because of past trauma.

Those feelings may be powerful, but they don’t have to be true. It doesn’t have to be that way.

We’ve helped people addicted to sex and pornography break free from their feelings of desperation. We’ve supported people who’ve been sexually assaulted, sexually abused, and trafficked in their journey toward healing and wholeness. We’ve offered prayer for people who felt completely closed off, and helped them to open up about their experiences with sex.

Wherever you are in your understanding of sex and how it shapes your life and relationships, we can help you gain clarity, find peace of mind, and let go of guilt, despair, and other emotions that leave you feeling trapped.

What We Know About Sex

Many people have unhealthy relationships with sex, and many have been victimized by sexual assault, abuse, or misuse. You are not alone. There are people who feel your pain and know your struggle.

You are a human, not an object. Your body is still a temple (1 Corinthians 16:9) and still sacred. What you have been through does not change or tarnish who you are. You are no less valuable and are just as worthy of love as you were before your sexual struggles began.

A healthy understanding of oneself and healthy boundaries in relationships are integral to a healthier understanding of (and relationship to) sexual relationships and behaviors. That clarity comes from talking about sex with someone you can trust: a mentor, a therapist, a physician, or someone in your faith community.

Let’s Talk About It

Were you raised in a home or church where talking about sex was taboo? The irony is, these “protective” rules and expectations of perfect sexual purity can be overwhelming. Without someone to talk to, you may feel that such pressures are what pushed you toward a warped view of sex or unhealthy sexual behaviors.

The truth is, asking questions (even when they feel uncomfortable) is healthy and normal. And it’s often the first step toward the answers you’ve been longing for.

  • What should I do if I am being pressured to have sex?
  • How do I break my addiction to pornography?
  • How do I cope with the sexual abuse in my past?
  • How do I protect myself from sexual assault?

Judgement-Free Help and Support

It can feel impossible to open up about intimate areas of our lives, especially if we’ve heard things like:

  • “I can’t believe you would do something like that.”
  • “What were you doing or wearing that caused that to happen?”
  • “Why did you let that happen?”
  • “That’s a major sin. The damage has been done and you can’t take it back.”

You are not damaged goods. You are still “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). And you can find freedom and healing from past sexual hurts and mistakes.

Not sure where to start? Find guidance on sex and relationships in our resource library, or on our podcast. Need support after sexual addiction or assault? Reach out to our mentors or request prayer.

Sex doesn’t have to be a cause for fear, shame, or self-hate. Our resources (podcasts, ebooks, and more) can help you answer sensitive questions:

  • What do I do if my boyfriend or girlfriend wants to have sex, but I’m not ready?
  • What are some of the signs of sexual addiction?
  • How does sex affect my relationship?

Most Recent Blogs on Sex

Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places


If you’ve read my blog, My Boyfriend Hurt Me, you may be troubled just like I am. So, I’ve decided to write another post about what I feel may be the biggest reason why girls give in to guys. Desire to Feel Loved I believe some girls give in to guys..Read more

Dating and Sex: What to Do if There’s a Strong Attraction, But You Want to Wait


If you’re dating someone, it’s normal to have a strong attraction. It’s part of the joy, after all. But it can be hard to stay committed to waiting until marriage when you are drawn to someone you care about. I’ve been in that situation and I know how difficult it..Read more

Four Slippery Steps to Adultery


Progressive choices that lead to destruction. At work and church, in our neighborhoods and during our daily activities, we all encounter people of the opposite sex who are attractive. That’s not the problem. Our selfish choices after the attraction create the problem. Adultery has a progression and most people (even Christians)..Read more

3 Checks to Determine If You’re Lusting


As summer approaches, (if you are a man especially) so do the visual distractions. Bikinis, short shorts, and miniskirts, the list goes on. Consequently, when you have all these things around you begging for your attention, it’s hard not to notice. And when you do (inevitably), the questions start to..Read more

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Pornography Addiction: Being a Muslim to Christianity


Before I Became a Christian and Pornography Addiction My life before Jesus Christ is an interesting story. I was not brought up as a Christian. I used to be a Muslim.  When I was 9 years old, my family moved from Iran where I was born and raised and came..Read more

I Can’t Let a Broken Heart Break My Life


My name is Megan. I broke up with my boyfriend.  We had a long distance relationship for a year and a half. During that time, he would say how much he loved me and that he couldn’t live a life without me and everything will be perfect when we are..Read more

Sexual Assault


I was raped while taking the garbage out, right outside of my own house. I never saw who, but I’m hoping he will be caught soon.  I came to TheHopeLine because I was feeling alone and overwhelmed with everything.  Despite the support from my family and friends, I felt like..Read more

God Forgives


I had a struggle for a long time but at the very moment I’m typing this I know I’m free in Jesus Name. Before, I always thought that God was getting tired of forgiving me because I always fail him and I would always do that sin over and over again...Read more

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Free eBook: Understanding a Relationship with God

A guide to understanding the basics of Christianity and a meaningful relationship with God.  Do You Feel Like Life is Meaningless? Are you wondering what your purpose is? Do you have questions about what Christians believe or what it means to be a Christian? At TheHopeLine we believe real and lasting HOPE can only come […]

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