You shouldn’t be ashamed or afraid to talk about sex. It’s a normal part of human life, and it can be a beautiful experience. But if you’ve been a victim of sexual abuse, trafficking, sexual assault, or have addictions to unhealthy sexual behaviors, sex becomes shameful, frightening, and isolating.

You may feel worthless, like you’ve let yourself or your partner down. You may feel like you can’t stop your addictive sexual behavior. Maybe you’re afraid that your future romantic relationships will become sexually abusive or unhealthy because of past trauma.

Those feelings may be powerful, but they don’t have to be true. It doesn’t have to be that way.

We’ve helped people addicted to sex and pornography break free from their feelings of desperation. We’ve supported people who’ve been sexually assaulted, sexually abused, and trafficked in their journey toward healing and wholeness. We’ve offered prayer for people who felt completely closed off, and helped them to open up about their experiences with sex.

Wherever you are in your understanding of sex and how it shapes your life and relationships, we can help you gain clarity, find peace of mind, and let go of guilt, despair, and other emotions that leave you feeling trapped.

What We Know About Sex

Many people have unhealthy relationships with sex, and many have been victimized by sexual assault, abuse, or misuse. You are not alone. There are people who feel your pain and know your struggle.

You are a human, not an object. Your body is still a temple (1 Corinthians 16:9) and still sacred. What you have been through does not change or tarnish who you are. You are no less valuable and are just as worthy of love as you were before your sexual struggles began.

A healthy understanding of oneself and healthy boundaries in relationships are integral to a healthier understanding of (and relationship to) sexual relationships and behaviors. That clarity comes from talking about sex with someone you can trust: a mentor, a therapist, a physician, or someone in your faith community.

Let’s Talk About It

Were you raised in a home or church where talking about sex was taboo? The irony is, these “protective” rules and expectations of perfect sexual purity can be overwhelming. Without someone to talk to, you may feel that such pressures are what pushed you toward a warped view of sex or unhealthy sexual behaviors.

The truth is, asking questions (even when they feel uncomfortable) is healthy and normal. And it’s often the first step toward the answers you’ve been longing for.

  • What should I do if I am being pressured to have sex?
  • How do I break my addiction to pornography?
  • How do I cope with the sexual abuse in my past?
  • How do I protect myself from sexual assault?

Judgement-Free Help and Support

It can feel impossible to open up about intimate areas of our lives, especially if we’ve heard things like:

  • “I can’t believe you would do something like that.”
  • “What were you doing or wearing that caused that to happen?”
  • “Why did you let that happen?”
  • “That’s a major sin. The damage has been done and you can’t take it back.”

You are not damaged goods. You are still “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). And you can find freedom and healing from past sexual hurts and mistakes.

Not sure where to start? Find guidance on sex and relationships in our resource library, or on our podcast. Need support after sexual addiction or assault? Reach out to our mentors or request prayer.

Sex doesn’t have to be a cause for fear, shame, or self-hate. Our resources (podcasts, ebooks, and more) can help you answer sensitive questions:

  • What do I do if my boyfriend or girlfriend wants to have sex, but I’m not ready?
  • What are some of the signs of sexual addiction?
  • How does sex affect my relationship?

Most Recent Blogs on Sex

A Condom For The Heart

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I remember many years ago, reading an article about condoms. There was a big debate at the time as to whether condoms would slow down the sexual revolution and really make sex safer. There was a quote from a Catholic priest which I’ll never forget. He said, “I’ll believe in condoms..Read more

Rage At God

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This post was originally published on Heart Support, it has been reused with permission by: The Heart Support Team. Jake Luhrs, lead singer of Grammy-nominated metal band, August Burns Red, created Heart Support as a place where every music fan can heal and grow stronger. “My rage at God had..Read more

A Rape Survivor’s Story

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The journey toward healing begins with the truth. Sarah Kate shares her story of rape, alcoholism, and depression with Unveiled Campaign. This downward spiral that she found herself on was the result of a secret she was keeping…she had been abused and sexually assaulted. She is now on a journey toward..Read more

Grateful for Fifty Shades of Grey

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Did You Say Grateful for Fifty Shades of Grey? Guest Blog is written by: Melody Bergman, blogger for National Center on Sexual Exploitation (the leading national organization addressing the public health crisis of pornography and exposing the links between all forms of sexual exploitation). It’s midnight on New Year’s Eve, and my..Read more

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Sexual Assault

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I was raped while taking the garbage out, right outside of my own house. I never saw who, but I’m hoping he will be caught soon.  I came to TheHopeLine because I was feeling alone and overwhelmed with everything.  Despite the support from my family and friends, I felt like..Read more

God Forgives

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I had a struggle for a long time but at the very moment I’m typing this I know I’m free in Jesus Name. Before, I always thought that God was getting tired of forgiving me because I always fail him and I would always do that sin over and over again...Read more

Suicide

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All my life, I’ve never good enough for anyone. My half-brother raped me and made me sleep with him. When everything is going wrong, I can talk to someone HERE at TheHopeLine and I don’t feel alone. I’ve tried to kill myself three times in the past six months but TheHopeLine has helped me...Read more

Abbie’s Story – Coping with Sexual Abuse

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I grew up in a home where I was sexually abused by my father on a daily basis until the age of 19. I was also abused by my step grandfather from the age of 6-17. I always blamed myself and would tell myself that I deserved this.  I was..Read more

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Free eBook: Understanding a Relationship with God

A guide to understanding the basics of Christianity and a meaningful relationship with God.  Do You Feel Like Life is Meaningless? Are you wondering what your purpose is? Do you have questions about what Christians believe or what it means to be a Christian? At TheHopeLine we believe real and lasting HOPE can only come […]

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