Gretchen Lawson: It is normal to have feelings of guilt and shame. It’s normal to have thoughts that it is your fault, and to think, “Could I have done something to prevent this from happening?” It is really important to seek out support as you’re processing through abuse, to talk about what has happened, the painful feelings that go with what happened. It is really helpful to have someone or more than someone. It can be helpful in processing abuse to even seek out a support group. To be in a room with other people who know what this experience is like. It can make you feel less alone. It is not your fault. You did not cause the abuse.