Are You Depressed? Steps toward healing

Depression is a common illness that we often hear about, yet ironically, we usually have difficulty recognizing it, particularly in ourselves. Therefore, oftentimes too many people living with depression don't seek proper treatment. However, by arming ourselves with the facts about the illness, we can learn to distinguish it from a simple case of the blues, understand the symptoms and underlying causes, and therefore seek effective treatment. Remember, depression is common, more than just feeling down and most importantly, depression is treatable!

Depression is common

Depression is a common, yet serious, illness that affects 20 million Americans each year. If you or someone you know is depressed, you are not alone. At least one person in ten will have depression at least once in his or her life. Depression in its various forms (anxiety, stress, insomnia, fatigue, vague aches and pains, etc.) is one of the most common problems seen by doctors.

Women experience depression at a rate that is nearly twice that of men. The reasons may include things like hormonal changes, coping with multiple responsibilities, persistent negative thinking and low self-esteem, genetic reasons, medication side effects or situational reasons. Many women are also particularly vulnerable after the birth of a baby. The hormonal and physical changes, as well as the added responsibility of a new life, can be factors that lead to postpartum depression in some women. While transient "blues" are common in new mothers, a full-blown depressive episode is not a normal occurrence and requires active intervention.

Although men are less likely to suffer from depression than women, 6 million men in the United States are affected by the illness. In fact, the rate of suicide in men is four times that of women (though more women attempt it). Depression may be more difficult to recognize in men, because instead of feeling hopeless and helpless, men will exhibit irritability, anger and discouragement. Men often mask their depression with alcohol, drugs or by the socially acceptable habit of working excessively long hours.

Additionally, men are less likely to admit to depression and doctors are less likely to suspect it. Even if a man realizes that he is depressed, he may be less willing than a woman to seek help. Encouragement and support from concerned family members can make a difference.

Depression is not just feeling down

Depression is a mood disorder that causes you to feel sad or hopeless for an extended period of time. It is important to know the difference in clinical depression and having the blues. Depression is an illness that robs one of the meanings of life.

Depression is not about being weak, and it is not about just feeling low or having a few bad days. A depressive disorder is an illness that involves the body, mood and thoughts. It affects the way a person eats and sleeps, the way one feels about oneself and the way one thinks about things. A depressive disorder is not the same as a passing blue mood. It is not a sign of personal weakness or a condition that can be willed or wished away. People with a depressive illness cannot merely "pull themselves together" and get better. Many people with depression produce a higher-than-normal level of the stress hormone, cortisol. Cortisol suppresses the immune system.

People with poor health may run from doctor to doctor putting out one fire after another when the underlying cause may be depression.

Depression affects the length and quality of life. It is the #1 cause of alcoholism, drug abuse and other addictions. Depression can be an all-pervasive emotional-mental-physical source of misery. It can affect all aspects of a person's life impairing the ability to sleep, eat, work and get along with others. It damages our self-esteem, self-confidence and our ability to accomplish everyday tasks. Depression is not just feeling down; it puts a dark, gloomy cloud over how we see the world, our future and ourselves. The cloud cannot be willed away, nor can we ignore it and have it magically disappeared.

There is also a link between stress and depression. There is a complex relationship among stressful situations, our mind and body's reaction to stress and the onset of clinical depression. It is clear that some people develop depression after a stressful event in their lives, death of a loved one, the loss of a job or the end of a relationship. Stress can also occur as the result of a more positive event such as getting married, moving to a new city or starting a new job. It is not uncommon for either positive or negative events to become a crisis that precedes the development of clinical depression. Depression can be seasonal as well as situational with some finding the dreariness of winter months particularly tough. This is called SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Core signs and symptoms common with depression:

  • Feeling empty, lonely and isolated
  • Feeling hopeless or worthless
  • Lacking an interest in activities
  • Feeling mentally and physically tired
  • Finding it difficult to make decisions
  • Experiencing physical pain that does not respond to treatment

If you experience any of these distressing symptoms for more than two weeks, you should contact your doctor. And you should seek help immediately if you feel overwhelmed by depression and suicidal thoughts.

Depression is treatable

If you're wondering "Can you control depression, or does it just take over your life?", there's good news: depression is treatable! Many people with depression lead happy, full lives. Sadly, most people do not recognize this, and the symptoms of depression can keep someone from seeking treatment. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of: it is an illness that, without treatment, can last for weeks, months or years. Appropriate treatment, however, can help most people who suffer from depression.

Psychotherapy is a common type of counseling that mostly involves taking a natural process. There is no brainwashing.

Prescription antidepressant medications simply restore the brain's natural levels of certain naturally produced neurotransmitters. You don't feel antidepressant medications in the way you feel other mood-altering drugs such as alcohol, tranquilizers or amphetamines. The improvements experienced with antidepressants seem to come from re-establishing natural levels of certain neurotransmitters produced by the brain.

Support groups are an excellent place to share experiences, suggestions, information, and, obviously, support. Perhaps the most important knowledge to be gained from support groups is that you are not alone. People often benefit by gathering with others going through similar experiences. Those who are healing from depression are no exception. There are also specialized support groups for people dealing with bipolar depression, depression related to PTSD, and more. No matter what you're going through, there are plenty of ways to find community and support.

Four ways you can begin the healing process:

  1. Talk to your doctor
  2. Learn more about depression
  3. Be gentle with yourself, be patient with yourself, give yourself time to heal
  4. Take small steps such as walking - the fresh air and exercise will be super!

This Guest Blog is written by Susan Gillpatrick, MEd, LPC, CTS with Centerstone (a not-for-profit organization with a wide range of mental health and addiction services for people of all ages.)

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22 comments on “Are You Depressed? Steps toward healing”

  1. I'm 21 years old iv been in a emotionally abusive relationship for three years now. He was my first everything which makes it even harder. The other day I ended the relationship because I can't take it anymore. I feel low as anything and want some help and advice

    1. You are doing the right thing!!!! It will only get worse as you are learning. He will not get better apart from intervention from
      The Lord.
      Spend some times with girlfriends or do something for yourself.
      Stay strong you have done the first difficult step. Remember God loves you and he wants a good man for his daughter.

    1. Love your wife. Give your attention to your wife alone. Remember you are not heading to hurt yourself. You started it, so end it before you lose you wife. Be a real man for your wife. Quit the b.s.... cheating.

    2. Don't play with fire. You opened the devils den when you started going online end it before it goes any further. And stay committed to your wife as you promised!

  2. I'm a 37 year old woman and about 8 yrs ago give or take a couple... I tried to kill myself by taking an overdose of a family members insulin which put me in a diabetic coma for a while (I don't even remember being in the hospital) my blood sugar got so low it ended up giving me a head injury because the lack of oxygen to my brain. ( which makes me now have a legal guardian who chooses what i can do or not do etc. )B4 i tried to kill myself I had a job as a cna/cma. But once they found out I have a head injury with short term memory loss (I describe myself to some -I'm like the girl (drew Barrymore character) from 50 first dates but not quite as bad therefore I was unable to go back to work so now when I meet new people and they tell me what they do or ask me what I do I'll tell them I don't work w/o telling them about my head injury until I get 2 know them of course but then I get the usual answer something like it must be nice. I've always had this question in the back of my head since this has happened my question is why did God save me was it 2 punish me with loneliness for the suicide attempt and I'm never going to have a family (husband/kids) of my own because once a guy finds out i have a head injury they step back and nobody wants 2 get to know me so should I just give up on wanting to have a relationship or kids cuz I feel like I'm running out of time and I'm on disability and can't afford dating sites or to even go out all the time I spend a lot of my time with my dad but I'm lonely and don't know how to talk to guys without scaring them off by telling them about my head injury...

    1. God is not punishing you and he is not unable to forgive you but there are consequences to our actions that we have here on earth.
      God can use this for good. Have you asked for forgiveness? It is then you can truly heal.
      I pray you lonileness will flee.
      Hugs to you

    1. You can let go of that person, but takes time.
      Set a standard for yourself. if one cheats means let go of person.
      Sooner or later, you will be hurt.

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