Having a broken heart can bring up a lot of difficult feelings. Through my radio show, I have talked to many young adults that are heartbroken and feel overwhelmed by how painful the circumstances are.
If you’re going through heartbreak, I’m sorry you’re hurting so much. I hope it encourages you to know that healing from heartbreak is possible, and that you can start taking those steps right now.
Why Does Heartbreak Feel So Overwhelming?
Heartbreak can put a real strain on our mental health, especially if we’re already living with depression or other diagnoses of mental illness.
Heartbreak might feel overwhelming if:
- You’re heartbroken after losing a loved one and having trouble dealing with grief.
- You dealt with numerous upsets either right before or right after the heartbreak, and you’re feeling especially vulnerable.
- You’re heartbroken because someone you love, and trust has hurt you deeply and unexpectedly.
- You’ve just broken up with someone you thought you would always be with.
The important thing to remember is that you don’t need to feel ashamed or guilty about these feelings. It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed by the feelings of shock, loss, and betrayal that are so often connected with heartbreak.
Can I Stop Hurting Like This?
I want you to know that, as intense as your feelings are, and as valid as your pain is, it doesn’t have to last forever. And it doesn’t have to dominate your life.
One of the most effective ways I’ve found for healing after heartbreak is to think about how many people experience it. Virtually everyone past a certain age has had their heart broken. And while the situation that broke someone’s heart may always cause them pain, they’ve found a way to get through it.
Even the people you know that appear the happiest, the strongest, and the toughest have been through some intense loss and heartbreak. But they’ve found their way to the other side of the most overwhelming part. And you can, too.
Can I Heal Heartbreak Myself?
Doing anything completely by yourself may cause you to feel more overwhelmed than you were to begin with. But there are small steps you can take on your own that go a long way toward greater recovery after heartbreak:
- Committing to getting support: Even though getting support from someone who can help you does involve another person, the decision to get help is your own. Deciding to reach out for the support you need is one of the surest ways to make progress.
- Keeping the faith: It’s hard to believe that our faith can comfort us during a heartbreaking time. But the truth of the matter is, God is close to us in our heartbreak, and His power is greater than any situation or person that could overwhelm us.
- Enjoying little things: There are still things to enjoy about life, even during a painful time. Try to spend a little time every day doing something you enjoy or thinking of things you’re grateful for. It may be just the shift in perspective you need to give you the strength to keep moving forward.
Where Can I Start?
The first step toward healing is often the hardest, especially when we’re still reeling after a recent heartbreak. But you’re in the right place.
At TheHopeLine, we have ebooks, podcasts, and blogs to encourage people to stay hopeful. Or you can talk to one of our HopeCoaches if you need a listening ear. We’re so sorry you’re heartbroken, but we believe you can get through this. And we’re here to help, starting now.
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