I received this comment from a girl, and it broke my heart, I am 14 years and I listen to your show as much as I can. I had a hard time last year because one boy I like was at the bowling alley and made me do nasty stuff that I really didn't want to do.
I've heard a similar story many, many times before and it never gets easier to hear.
She met this boy she really liked. But by the time their relationship ended, she felt used and ashamed. Why? Because "[he] made me do nasty stuff that I really didn't want to do."
It makes me wonder what her ex-boyfriend was thinking. Why did he push her to do things sexually that violated and hurt her? Maybe he felt like he was in love with her and wanted his sexual passion to become even more intense. But the truth is, he did not really love her.
You see, love never demands someone to do something that would violate another. Love does not trash someone else's deeply held values. The term love is one of the most misunderstood and abused words in the dictionary. Sometimes, when a guy says to a girl, I love you, he is really saying, I don't love you. I love me and what sexual favors you do for me.
When a guy really loves a girl, he will do everything he can to protect her. Someone once said, "Love can always wait to give. Lust can't wait to get." I don't really know what Alicia's ex-boyfriend was saying to her. My guess is he told her he loved her and if she loved him, she would do things he wanted her to do. He was lying to her, or he was terribly confused.
I often say on my radio show, Dawson McAllister Live, something very simple: "Don't listen to what a guy says. Watch what he does." Whatever Alicia's ex-boyfriend said to her, his actions proved him wrong. I believe in guys (I happen to be one myself), but I'm tired of some guys using girls just for their own cheap thrills.
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I received a comment from a girl named Taylor who said something very nice about my show. She said, Wow! When I listen to your show, I feel like it's the only time I'm sane! Lol! Thanks for all that you do!
I got to thinking about her humorous comment, I feel like it's the only time I'm sane!
Taylor is right. Most of us at one time or another feel we are going insane or living in an insane world. I looked up the word insane, and it said, not of sound mind; utterly senseless. It's so easy to feel like we're losing it because the world around us appears to be utterly senseless. So, how do we stay sane in an insane world?
1. Find a good friend and have a meaningful talk in a quiet place. Everybody needs a quiet place to talk with someone you know will understand. So, turn off the phone, iPod, tv, or any other noisemaker that clutters our lives and just sit and talk. You and your friend will feel better, and the world will seem a bit saner.
2. Realize it can seem noisy and crazy even at a quiet time. For example, some of the craziest, wild, and scary times are in our own minds in the middle of the night. At times like that, we need to find sanity by reminding ourselves that things will be better in the morning. That's why I tell my radio listeners, never make heavy, big-time decisions or commitments in the middle of the night. In the morning, your mind and emotions will be much clearer.
3. Find a quiet place and think spiritual thoughts. Make a list of all the good things that have happened to you from the small to the great. For example, your health, good friends, freedom, a place to live, etc. After you've compiled this list, thank God for all the sane and good things He has done for you. A thankful attitude will help quiet you and make you feel better about yourself and your world.
Yes, we live in a crazy and insane world, but I'm glad sanity can be found.
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