7 Sure-Fire Ways To Get Over Your Ex

We’ve all been there. It starts off with a, “Hey! We really need to talk.” Then a few minutes pass and you’re confronted with this awkward pseudo-question, “But I hope we can still be friends…?”
Ugh!
This isn’t another post about, why things didn’t work out. You’ve probably had enough of that already. No one plans on getting dumped. No one even expects it! But if you’re scrolling through Facebook broken-hearted, and trying to cope, we want you to know… we feel you. Here are 7 Sure-Fire Ways to Get Over Your Ex:

1. LET IT ALL OUT

It’s okay to cry. Some of us are afraid to let it all out because we want to believe we are still in control. Like there’s an unsaid competition to see who takes the breakup the hardest.
Listen: no one wins.
Breakups are messy inside and out.
[bctt tweet="Crying isn’t admitting defeat; it’s allowing your heart to process."]
Think about it this way: someone who was once a part of your life has just decided not to be. Yikes! That’s a pretty heavy blow for anyone, and that’s something that is out of our control. If I was hit by a car on Thursday, I wouldn’t be at work on Friday pretending like nothing happened. So why is it, that culturally, we are forced to get up and walk off our heartbreak?

2. BURN IT ALL

Okay, okay. We’re not telling you to commit a felony (especially if your ex went to law school). However, we have to recognize that burning is a metaphor for something deeper. It’s a way of reinforcing the fact that it’s really over. Nothing is worse than being stuck in a relationship with the ghost of your ex.

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3. FIND OUT WHO YOU WERE BEFORE

Being in a relationship shouldn’t change you, right? I mean if someone really loves you they should love you for who you are; the good, the bad, and the ugly… Right? So then why do we change? Where do we go wrong?
The truth is, relationships are not about change but exchange.
When we decide to be with someone we undoubtedly invite them to influence us. That doesn’t mean they control us, but instead we allow ourselves to be re-positioned when the need arises. We all want love to flow through our relationships, however, sometimes we can become the hindrance to that goal.
So then, are you still functioning like you’re in a relationship? If so, remember who you were before you got into a relationship and simply readjust.

4. AVOID TALKING TO THEIR FRIENDS

We all get tempted to talk to our ex’s friends. Sometimes it’s because we legitimately have a lot more in common with them. Other times, it’s simply because they’re cuter. Whatever the case: Just don't do it!
This isn’t Nike, and Kevin Durant is not your friend…
Nothing is more tempting than talking about your ex when you’ve just broken up. Talking to your ex’s friends can easily become a way of accessing their lives when your ex has already decided not be a part of yours. It’s low! Even if you’re not trying to get information and you legitimately want to get to know an ex’s friend, give it a few weeks. Intentionally seeking out an ex’s friend after a breakup can be misinterpreted easily, and nothing can be a bigger put-off.

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5. DON’T REBOUND. RETHINK.

Believe it or not, rebounding isn’t going to get rid of the pain and disappointment you may be feeling. Instead, reconsider your relationship.
Take the good things and celebrate them. Take the bad things, reassess them, and take responsibility for your part. That doesn’t mean you have to send a massive text-apology to your ex, or you need to call them up.

6. HAVE FUN!

Take some time to not think about your breakup. Go have fun! Enjoy your friends, family, and the outdoors. Try taking a new class, going to a concert, or starting a new project. Whatever the case, give yourself permission to be happy again.

7. STOP

Stop reflecting. Stop reassessing. Stop wondering what your life would have been like if you were both still together. You deserve to be happy.
If you can’t stop thinking about your ex then talk to a close friend or mentor Chat with a HopeCoach about it. You are the deciding factor when it comes to the kind of man or woman you want to be, and no past relationship has the right to control your future.
Originally published at Moral Revolution
Moral Revolution promotes a culture of love, honor, and respect by imparting vision, restoring wholeness, and empowering choice!

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One comment on “7 Sure-Fire Ways To Get Over Your Ex”

  1. I was dumped by my ex fiancé whilst I was sick after 5 years being together. I was devastated. It's been almost a year and I still find myself out of no where crying for days because the pain hurts too much. I still keep in contact with him hoping the pain will subside it only makes it worst. He doesn't give me the time and treats me like absolute dirt. He dumped me and is with my bridesmaids best friend of whom I don't keep in contact with anymore. I'm not mad, not angry but just wish it didn't hurt as much however it does get better it's been over a week since I've had contact. I want to move on and hope that filling my life with positive activities, dedicating myself to a higher power God and being kind hearted and giving eventually it would just go away and get better.

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