Guest Video Blogger: Brooks Gibbs – Shares How to Disarm a Bully.
Brooks Gibbs is here yet again (you are awesome Brooks) to help us know how to disarm a bully. Brooks is a youth crisis counselor, bullying expert, youth speaker, author of Love is Greater Than Hate, and friend of TheHopeLine.
Check out the video here:
Bottom Line: To disarm a bully, you have to understand what bullying is. Bullying is an imbalance of power. It’s one person (the bully) hurting the feelings of another (the victim). End result – bully feels like a winner and the victim feels like a loser. What is the solution? Empower the victim. If you are the victim, you can empower yourself and disarm a bully by: Number One – Don’t get upset! Even if they insult your race, your looks, your mom…don’t get upset. Second Thing – Be friendly to your bully! No matter what, respond with kindness. You can even tell them, “I’m going to be happy today, even if you hate me.”
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Don’t let the haters ruin it for you! If you or someone you know needs help with bullying or how to disarm a bully then download TheHopeLine’s free eBook on bullying!
c at firist he done thgs that shld’nt of been forgivin and now that he doesn’t do half the stuff he did before,i still have resentment and resentment that I stayed instead of left to heal! I havn;t had a chance to heal cause he has made me feel bad bout what I do now! he has jump me and I have got hurt,alittle! why do I feel bad?
hey. im Teresa. im n situation where I think i’m now bully my abuser?
Should warn people, responding with kindness may make the bully want to make the bullying worse in hopes to make the victim crack. Still, it’s important to respond to a bully and not just say nothing. The response should be kind.
I was horrifically bullied by classmates and the teacher wanting to be “in” with them many years ago, way before social media and thoughts of suicide were so prevalent.
I was surprised to find bullying alive and well even among adults a few.years back when I got involved in animal welfare. My tendency at first was to cry and shrink back like years before, but I prayed for the boldness to deal with it. I was able to take a step back and think when attacked, then respond calmly, praising the good work of the bullies while pointing out that we should work together for the greater good. God granted me the boldness, kindness and even love I felt for these attackers, while protecting me from the actual attacks on my self-esteem.