I have been talking about anger for the last couple of weeks and have received a huge response to it. That’s because all of us at one time or another come up against anger. Anger is a very powerful emotion-it can take over your life if you let ityou don’t have to let it control you. Most people who feel angry don’t have any idea how to deal with it.
McKaela commented: When I finally snap, I just scream and throw things around. It may sound childish but it’s my only way to vent without hurting the ones I love.
Sara wrote: When I get angry I tend to lash out and drink at home.
Drizz wrote: I get angry at almost everything, to the point where I want to hurt someone badly (mainly the person that brought my anger out). In fact, anger is the only real emotion that I feel.
Identify what makes you
Drizz, McKaela and Sara have each come to the point where anger has become the controlling force in their lives. In the midst of rage, it’s hard to believe you have any choice in the matter.
This is how Monica feels. She said: I get angry very often. And quite frankly I don’t know how to deal with my anger. I bottle it up inside and every so often it all comes outusually on a family member. I yell and hit. I try not to, I honestly do, but rage just beats the fact that I love them. So I lash out.
Lashing out might seem like the only option. The truth isyou do have the option to not let anger take over. So what is a better way to deal with your anger? How can you stay calm when you feel like blowing up, raging, or acting out?
– Identify what makes you angry and be aware of it, before it takes over.
Kyle wrote: I know how easily I get angry and so I can usually tell when things are going to get too bad, so I usually just get out of the situation beforehand.
Kyle’s on to something here. Here is aware of his own emotions and can turn away before his anger hurts him and those around him.
Talk it out.
Call up a friend and see how they’re doing. Don’t neglect your own feelings. Make sure you communicate to your best friends your encounter with anger. Talking things out with a friend who cares will really help.
Anna wrote: When I’m angry it helps when I have a conversation with
others and they tell me about their problems and issues, so it calms me down and lets me realize everyone makes mistakes and they too deal with anger everyday.
– Do something productive.
Don’t just sit around and think about how angry you feel. That usually makes matters worse. Change your environment. Come up with something productive you can do when you feel angry.
I received some awesome ideas of what you do to help control
your anger. This list is amazing.
Haley wrote: When I get mad I clean, sing, or write.
Logan wrote: The best thing in my opinion is working outit’s a good way to channel your anger into something productive.
Kaley wrote: I go running, with really loud music.
Linda wrote: Riding my horse and caring for my horses keeps me centered and balanced. I am a much better person because of them.
Sarah wrote: I take a walk in the woods with my dogs and take pics with my camhelps me every time.
Brenda wrote: I read, listen to music, and journal my feelings out, I trust God’s help to get me thru things and handle my emotions better.
Emily wrote: I breathe and count to five and use my words instead of my fists. Superior intelligence beats superior strength any day.
Kaitie wrote: I write music with lyrics on how I’m feeling at that moment. I also talk to friends or meditate.
Hanani wrote: First, I pray about it. Second, I dance. Being a dancer, that’s one of the ways I best express myself. Third, I don’t dwell on the issue. I do things to help myself calm down so that when I have to think about the issue, I don’t blow up anymore.
Cory wrote: I love to dance when I’m mad, or listen to music, and most the time when I am mad, I love to write about it, in poems or in a journal.
These are awesome suggestions.