Hope For Your Broken Heart
Some people tell me that after their heart has been broken, they can’t eat, they can’t sleep, and their grades start dropping. It’s not an easy journey to move from a broken heart to healing, but it is possible, and it is necessary. You will need to take some hard steps of putting the hurt behind you so you can get on with the rest of your life. I hate to see you suffer, so here are a few tips for moving forward after a broken heart.
5 Ways to Move Ahead
1. Let go of mementos. If you’ve been dating someone a while, you no doubt have collected items that remind you of the one who left you behind. When you were still dating that person, these mementos meant the world to you and had a powerful impact on your emotions. But now, these same mementos only work to break your heart.
These include things like pictures, rings, pillows, music, clothes, etc. Hanging on to reminders of the relationship will get in the way of moving on. Get rid of them. This can be hard to do because there is something very final about throwing them away. You are finally admitting to yourself, “It’s over. It’s truly over.” This is an important step to take.
2. Keep yourself busy by giving to others. When you were dating, you spent hours and hours with your special someone who has broken your heart. Now you have all this time on your hands. People who get over broken hearts find ways to fill that time with something positive. For example, you might want to get to know your friends again. Hanging out with them will help remind you of the good old days before your ex. Or you can get involved in helping organizations like Big Brothers/Big Sisters or volunteer somewhere else. Filling your time with positive activities will both help distract you and help you feel good again
3. Take care of yourself physically. It is very difficult to overcome a broken heart when you don’t feel good physically. Not feeling well only adds to your depression. When people have their hearts broken, people either tend to quit eating or begin overeating. Sometimes they try to self-medicate through drugs or alcohol. None of this works and usually makes matters far worse.
When we eat right, we have more energy, more endurance, and less mood swings. Getting good exercise actually triggers chemicals in our brain helping to lift our mood. Have a friend to encourage you to exercise and eat right. Soon you will be feeling better, even if you’re not sure why.
4. Realize it’s mostly about you, not your ex. Any event in our lives is just that an event. The issue comes down to how we interpret that event. Two people going through the same type of break-up can interpret it and respond to it very differently. So, in the end, it comes down to whether you are going to allow this break-up to make you stronger or stay a victim. It’s no longer about the ex and how horrible they were or what they did. At some point it becomes mostly about you and whether or not you decide to move on.
5. Move on. Finally, that moment comes. Sometimes it creeps up on you. Other times, it’s like a light bulb goes on in your heart and you say to yourself, “It’s time for me to move on. I’m not going to die. The sun will come up tomorrow and I feel myself learning to live without the other person. In fact, I can go a whole day without thinking of him/her.” When that happens, it’s an awesome thing. There’s nothing quite like the realization you have decided to move on.
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Hello, I had been talking to a guy for about 6 months and we were on the verge of making it official and then he told me that he was wasn't ready. Come to find out he was seeing someone else and his reason behind it was I was the one that wasn't ready when I really was. I loved this man so much and I still do. I wanted to build with him have a future with him ya know . but I just found out he proposed to her after 3 months of dating. I'm so hurt and heartbroken right now. I just talk to God and tell him to heal my broken heart .I really need him right now .
I am so sorry that this happened to you!!! It happened to me too. I am an empath, so I feel things very deeply. I am also clairvoyant so i knew he was lying to me. He broke thongs off with me in a text and has stonewalled me since. It's been 2+ months and it stiil hurts just as much as it did at first!!!!] I sincerely hope you get over this quicker than i am. Oh, he did this to me 13 yrs ago too. At the time we were both married. His wife has since passed away and i am in the process of a divorce. This truly sucks be ause i completely believed he was " the one".
hmmm. serious matter!
It’s been five years. From when I was 13 to 18 in a month. I’ve wasted my whole teenage hold hurting and I can’t get over it as much as I try. You can’t just “move on” whenever you want. Nothing helps if it truly mattered.
oh sorry yea, you need to speak words of peace to your emotions. you cnat force someone to be with you. you just have to get something strong enough to block the person off. for me I pray and pray and pray until, I get my breakthroyugh. I am currently on a fast because old feelings are trying to creep o me agai, I don't want it to.
It's going on three years. I still hurt, I still suffer. And I feel like the ugliest thing alive
I am very heartbroken. Last August, I found fb messages between my cop husband and his informant (a 19 yr old girl ) saying i love you and i love you too to each other. When I confronted him, he just said it wasnt him but the girl's bf who borowed his phone. I asked for proof that there's nothing between them but he would not even allow me to read the older messages they had, just to make me see that the previous or older messages before that were different than the romantic exchange I was complaining about.
A month after, I learned from his officemate that he lied to me last December about a girl's bag that he bought when we were together last Xmas. My husband told me the bag was for that officemate's gf and that the guy didnt have time to buy a gift for his girl and so he did him a favor.
But his officemate, his friend, denied having a gf and swearing that even if he has one he would never ask somebody else to buy gifts for him. My husband said that his officemate may just have forgotten about it since it was several mos. ago already. I begged him to call that guy to clear thngs but he wouldnt. One time, I tried to call that guy on my fone and put him on loudspeaker so the 3 of us could talk but my husband quickly went out of the house.
We had arguments and he would say I was always nagging. And then he started not going home for a long time. He just drops by to see the kids.
He even told me he only shows up because he loves the kids. He said he doesnt want me, he doesnt want to be with me anymore, he doesnt want to share a bed with me and he doesnt love me at all.
I already asked for my pastor's advice. He said I just stay where I am and do my duties as wife and mother. And that I should stop asking my husband to come home or ask him when he'll come home. I have tried and am still trying to do this, but this is really so hard. I am in the brink of depression. Im always crying, and just sleeping. When Im out, I look fine. When Im home, Im a wreck. I miss him so much but I am really angry, more so with myself for still longing for him despite what he has done to me.
When will I wake up feeling nothing for him? I dont like this pain. I dont want to feel this way everyday and hopefully soon because I dont think I can take it anymore.
im going through the same thing. they get caught and they suddenly don't love you, then they blame you. i can't even type anymore. it just hurts so much
I was crushed also...
it will take time but you will get there loads of prayer lady, loads o prayer will help
I have a kid with a guy but he tells me he doesn't love me at all and he don't wanna be with me. he only love his kid.. it hurts me so much..
I'm tired of crying everyday. l don't know if l will ever get heal. .
he sees girls in front of me..
I can't cope with the pain of my break up. Can't eat or sleep, I feel depressed. Can't sleep without the sleeping pills. And to make things worse I think I’m getting addicted to them. How can I make myself feel better and sleep better?
emotions take time to heal but with time you will feel better, with time, dotn put your life on hold because of this person