Finding Patience in Losing Control
In life, there are problems, challenges, and consequences that can happen as a result of my own unwise choices or poor judgments. But there are also many situations, big and small, that are beyond my control. That can feel overwhelming and frustrating, because I want to change what’s happening, and I may even feel like I know how to fix it, but there’s still nothing I can do.
With all the sweeping changes happening in the world, you’re probably feeling a lot of emotions. If anger is one of them, you are not alone. It is natural to feel angry when any situation you want to change is outside of your control, and I imagine it is even more frustrating when the problem you can’t control is so widespread, and the consequences so far-reaching.
In an effort to encourage you, I’d like to share some practical tips for anger management during circumstances beyond your control. I hope you find them helpful, and that you’re able to experience greater peace amidst all this uncertainty.
Understand the Source of Anger
Paying attention to when or why we get angry is key to anger management. Does it happen after you watch the news? Do you get angrier as you scroll through social media? Or do you feel angrier when you think about how your life has changed thanks to COVID-19 or other challenges you may be facing? Take a moment to think about when you get angry, and what makes you angriest. Then you can make an effective plan to manage this emotion.
Distance and Unplugging
Putting as much distance as you’re able between yourself and what triggers your anger is a good next step. This could mean getting your news from a different source, or only checking news updates once a day. For many, “unplugging” from technology and stepping away from our devices has many benefits, including improved anger management and reduced risk of digital addiction.
Everyone is probably using their devices more while in quarantine or sheltered in place. But setting them down to read a book, watch a movie, or get some extra rest is a great way to feel calmer without completely disconnecting.
Paying extra attention to your spiritual practice during this time of uncertainty is important for both self-care and anger management. It always helps me to know that God loves me no matter how I feel, including when I am angry. It is okay to express your anger to God. He is always there to listen, and you may find you experience his comfort in unexpected ways when you leave time in your day for stillness.
Reach Out for Help
Even with the best anger management tools and ideas available, we can’t always manage our anger as well as we’d like. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by anger and frustration, you don’t have to face those feelings alone. TheHopeLine is here to help. Talk to a HopeCoach today about why you’re feeling angry. We’ll do whatever we can to listen, encourage you, and help you more in control of your emotions.
Are you mad at God, right now? Read about what to do when you're mad at God to find out why.
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