What is Anger?

There’s no escaping the reality of anger. It affects everybody at one time or another. Over the many years I’ve been in talk radio, I’ve become convinced at least half of those who have called me are in some way angry, or have suffered as a result of someone else’s rage. There are literally millions of people whose lives have all but been destroyed because of the monster within, anger.

And yet, there are so many people who don’t recognize how
angry they really are, or even how they are expressing it. Much less, how it is affecting every aspect of their lives, including all their relationships.

It’s a deep feeling of displeasure, hostility or antagonism towards someone or something we think has hurt us.

So what is anger?
Anger is an emotion that can be very powerful and all consuming. It’s a deep feeling of displeasure, hostility or antagonism towards someone or something we think has hurt us. Anger usually has with it a desire to get even, or hurt back.

 Anger can be so powerful that it can even affect us physically. For example, anger increases heart rate, blood pressure, and levels
of adrenaline. Its affect on the body’s nervous system can lead to a weakened heart and stiffer arteries. There’s also potential for liver and kidney damage, as well as high cholesterol. Anger may bring along other issues like depressions or anxiety. Some scientists think that chronic anger may be more dangerous than smoking and obesity as a factor that will contribute to an early death.

Ultimately, anger is a reaction to feeling hurt, weak, vulnerable, or belittled in some way by someone or something. We use anger to
help us feel strong and in control, and to help mask our feelings of hurt and weakness. When you see an
angry person, you see a hurt person using anger to try and make up for all the pain.

Jenny wrote: One of the things that makes me angry a lot is not knowing a single thing about my birth father. And how much
not having him in my life affected my life growing up and how I am with guys since I have never had a father figure to show me how it is to be loved by a man the right way.

 

When you see an angry
person, you see a hurt person using
anger to try and make up for all the pain.

Jenny is obviously hurt. She feels abandoned by her birth father who she has never met. Not only that, but she has never had a father figure in her life. Jenny’s anger helps her make up the difference between her desire to feel loved and accepted, and her feeling so weak and neglected.

 I would like to know what makes you angry the most. And what you do when you get angry. Please tell me by commenting below. You making the list will help you understand more of the deeper reasons you may be angry. When it comes to anger there’s so much to talk about. So let’s talk more about it in my next blog.

Dawson McAllister Dawson McAllister (born in New Kensington, Pennsylvania) is an American speaker, radio host, and author. He is the founder of Dawson McAllister Association and TheHopeLine and host of the national radio program Dawson McAllister Live, which is aired on Sunday nights. Dawson has been speaking to and in support of teenagers and young adults for over 40 years.
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