I understand that being content with being single can be really hard. After all, every movie, TV show, and commercial seems to be focused on finding someone.
I've talked to many people who feel frustrated and lonely. I try to help them see that being alone doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
With the right outlook, your time as a single person can be one of the most valuable and enjoyable times of your life. Here are some ideas for finding contentment without a romantic relationship.
Get to Know Yourself
Being single is not always easy, but there’s plenty to be thankful for about that season of life. It’s a great time to get to know yourself.
Use the time alone to explore your likes, your dislikes, and your interests. Have you wanted to travel? Plan a trip. Thinking of learning a new skill? Sign up for an evening class. Because you’re the decision-maker, the single years are a great time to develop your creativity and build greater independence.
Be Kind to Yourself
You won’t always be in a great mood about being single. It’s normal to have ups and downs. It’s important not to ignore your emotions. Be kind to yourself. Try these healthy self-care habits when you need to feel more centered.
- When you feel alone, remember the friends and family who love you.
- When you feel overwhelmed, take yourself for a walk, or get some rest.
- In the quiet moments, resist the temptation to plug in. Use the silence to clear your head and think things through.
- When you aren’t sure what to do about your feelings, try spending time in meditation, or say a prayer. God is always with us, even when we feel like no one else will understand.
- When plans fall through with a friend, do something special for yourself: curl up with your favorite book, go to a movie, or have a meal at your favorite restaurant.
Cherish All Relationships
I understand it’s challenging being single in a society that places so much emphasis on romance. But the truth is, there are many fulfilling relationships that can bring great joy to your life.
Make it a habit to schedule time with loved ones and make every effort to be present during those interactions. Notice the kindness of family and friends and look for kindness and love. When that’s your focus, you’ll find great fulfillment from the meaningful relationships in your life.
If your family and friends live far away, try making a friend at places you frequent. School, the gym, or your place of worship may be good places to start.
Volunteering for a cause you believe in is also a great way to meet people, find a sense of purpose, and keep yourself occupied. Connection happens everywhere. I’m hopeful you’ll form many relationships during your single years that you’ll treasure for years to come.
There may still be days when being content outside of a romantic relationship is tough. TheHopeLine is here for you. Talk to a HopeCoach whenever you need support. We are here to listen as you grow in your self-knowledge and self-worth.
Want more information on being single? Read my blog, It's Perfectly OK to Be Single and Not Dating.