Dawson’s Blog

Don’t Confuse Love and Lust

I find so many people who call my radio show confused between lust and love. Love is the most abused word in the human language often being used instead of what it really is lust. Lust can cause deep confusion and destruction. So often I will hear a caller say, “I am in love.”When in reality, it is not love at all. Sometimes love vs lustit’s infatuation. Other times it’s nothing more than raw lust. There are times I want to yell into the microphone at my studio and say to the caller, “Don’t call it love because it’s not!”

As you read this blog, I want you to really think with me on what I’m about to say. It may challenge your thinking and feelings, but in the end it could clear up a lot of confusion and save you from a lot of pain.

So what is lust? Lust literally means to over desire. It is when you take something that is good, twist it, and add cravings to it until you are consumed with what you want to have. When we speak of lust as it relates to relationships with the opposite sex, it can be defined this way – “when a person’s body is far more important than their soul.”

I received some awesome definitions of lust from some in my radio audience:

  • Lust is selfishly dwelling on and fantasizing about sexual activities or entertaining sexually arousing thoughts with no thoughts of the other person’s feelings. Love doesn’t lust.(Jonathan)
  • Lust is when you look at someone with passion for their body. And don’t really see who they truly are or who they want to be other than your trophy and toy.(Megan)
  • Love lasts forever, but lust only lasts for awhile.(Deanna)

Love lasts forever, but lust only lasts for awhile. #chooselove Click To Tweet

As I researched this topic of lust, I have found many definitions. I have listed some below.

Lust…

  • Causes the brain to produce the same reaction as if on cocaine or speed. Lust really is like a drug, it leaves you wanting more. (Dr. Jon Marsden – Director of the National Addiction Center)
  • Comes quickly and leaves quickly. 
  • Only wants to get into bed with you. 
  • Is a craving for self gratification, usually sexual. 
  • Focuses only on the outward appearance. 
  • Is impatient.  
  • Is rude and manipulates. 
  • Seeks to get and never give. 
  • Self-centered. 
  • Doesn’t care about others. 
  • Is jealous and insecure. 
  • Seeks revenge and doesn’t forgive. 
  • Covers up and lies about wrongdoings
  • Will do whatever it wants to get its way. 
  • Leaves when it’s no longer getting.

Lust seeks to get and never give. Click To Tweet

Girl by fence contemplating lifeEvery person who has ever dated or lived has struggled with lust. If you haven’t yet, you will.  But you can resist entering into a relationship built on lust. With an understanding of what lust is and it’s selfish motivations, you can say no to a lust-driven relationship and  choose love instead. You deserve love.

Have you ever liked someone a lot and found out they only wanted you for your body? Have you ever thought you loved someone but realized it was only lust? Share your thoughts below. I want to hear from you.

Your Friend,
Dawson


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Dawson McAllister Dawson McAllister (born in New Kensington, Pennsylvania) is an American speaker, radio host, and author. He is the founder of Dawson McAllister Association and TheHopeLine and host of the national radio program Dawson McAllister Live, which is aired on Sunday nights. Dawson has been speaking to and in support of teenagers and young adults for over 40 years.
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