Angry or Mad at God? Here's What To Do

Are You Mad At God?

I've got to believe at some point in your life, you've raised your fist and shouted out in anger at God. Most of us have done it.

Maybe your parent died, or you had a friend get seriously sick, or even killed. Maybe you have cancer, or some kind of handicap. These and other serious issues enter our lives, making it easy to target God for our pain.

Someone described anger this way: Anger is a human emotional response to situations that are either out of our control or out of our ability to understand, or both.

Have you ever wondered why we get so angry at God? That's what I want to talk about, because I can assure you that while God allows us to cry out to Him, He doesn't want us stuck in rage towards Him.

What are some of the reasons why we get mad at God?

The main reason we get so upset with God is that we think He owes us something. This usually happens in two ways:

1. We don't get something we want.

Have you ever really wanted a relationship with that perfect girl or guy? Or you really wanted that job you knew for certain would be perfect for you? When these things didn't work out, you no doubt found yourself hurt and disappointed. Our first impulse is almost always to blame God.

Daphne wrote: When we get mad at God it is really like a 2-year-old throwing a fit because Mommy or Daddy won't let them stick their finger in the light socket. The 2-year-old can only see what he/she wants, the parent sees the bigger picture, and the danger. When we are mad at God we show our immaturity, ignorance, and our shortsightedness.

2.  We get something we DON'T expect.

When something bad happens to someone we love, or to us, or someone gets really sick, or even dies we wonder why these things have to happen. We think of God as a big genie in the sky who should only give us good things and prevent the bad.

I received a comment from someone who said: Some people wonder why their lives end up being a certain way, and they blame God for it, because if God really cared for them, then He wouldn't let them suffer.

We think, "If God is so loving, why am I in so much pain? Is He punishing me for no reason by allowing horrible things to happen to me, or the people I love, or even the world?"

3. We think God owes us something.

Both of these situations can make a person feel like God doesn't care about us. After all the prayers we've prayed, God still didn't heal your brother's cancer, or get you the job you wanted.

Joe wrote: I have to admit that I am angry at God. The more I have prayed for help and guidance, the more I get nothing. He is ignoring me. It's His right to do with me what He will, but I am frustrated because I have done what I think I am supposed to do and yet no response, no help.

We get angry when we think God owes us something. When in fact, God owes us nothing.

A couple of other reasons:

  • We get angry with God when we don't know all the facts. It's so easy to think we know everything, but we can only see a very small part of the picture.
  • We get angry at God when we see others claim to know Him, and then act like hypocrites. It's easy to blame God for the faults of others.

These are just a few reasons why people get angry with God. Of course, there are many more.

 How to Get Over Being Mad at God - Know What You Can Expect From Him.

If we think God is going to be our genie in a bottle, and make everything good in our lives, we're going to be mad at God when something bad happens. Having faith in God is not insurance against hardships.

In the Bible, Jesus says- I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. (John 16:33)

So what can we expect from God?

  • His Peace - If we trust in Him and believe in Him we will have peace even in the hard times. Do you want to know how to find this peace? Begin Your Journey To Peace with this great resource from Peace With God
  • God Wins in the End - This world is full of sin, hate and death and that comes from the enemy, Satan, not from God. However, for all those who believe in Jesus, there is glorious, eternal life in heaven.
  • His Comfort - He promises to be near those who are hurting. "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalm 34:18)
  • His love - He promises His love for us. "God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." (1 John 4:16) He loves your heart and is with you in the midst of whatever your circumstances.
  • Life with greater meaning and significance - If we got everything we thought we wanted, we'd be spoiled and selfish. God is a wise father who knows what we need to become the best men and women we can be.

What can you do when you are mad at God?

1. Tell him how you feel.

The best thing you can do is tell God what you're angry about. He wants to hear from you about what you're thinking and feeling. Tell God honestly where you are at. God knows what's going on inside of you, but He wants to you be able to come to Him with honesty and openness.

2. Place the blame for evil on Satan, not on God.

God is good and Holy and perfect and loving. He is the opposite of evil. You may be mad at God because he didn't prevent the bad from happening to you, but he is not to blame for the bad thing, Satan is.  Jesus says in the Bible "The thief’s purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness." (John 10:10)

3. Pray for courage, strength and peace to make it through the day.

Betsy wrote: I find it easiest to leave everything in God's hands and pray that he will care for me and do what's BEST for me, not what I want, but what is best. It's very hard, and I have trouble with that at times, but that is my overall goal.

4. Trust that God will use a hardship for something beyond what you can see.

So can God use everything we go through for a greater purpose? I believe He can. Ask God for understanding to see the bigger picture. Over time, you may see more clearly how God used your trial for good.

Jill wrote honestly: I feel like I have a daily tug of war with God. I know everything happens for a reason, but when you're lonely, broke, bored, and feel helpless, it is really hard to say, okay God, I know you're doing this for a reason.
Betsy echoed Jill's thoughts: After many trials, I learned that it is best to accept what God has done and believe that it is for my good, whether I like it or not.

Believing He does have a reason for everything we go through helps us to trust that something bigger is going on here, even more than we can probably understand. But I'm not God, He is. And I'm just going to trust that He knows what's going on with me.

5. Get involved in other people's lives.

A lot of our anger and frustration in life comes from thinking about ourselves too much - we think about the way things are and how different they are from how we wish they'd be.

Yevgenia wrote: One of the best things I have learned while going through this is God won't put you through something unless he knows you will be able to overcome it. Another way I have used these things in a positive way is by using my experiences to help others who are going through similar things in their lives.

The best way to find joy and peace from the hardships of life is to get involved in other people's lives. Take an interest in other people and their circumstances. Share in their joy and their pain.

6. Decide to have a relationship with God.

The Bible says the only way to know God is by knowing His son, Jesus. Jesus was basically God with skin-on and gave us a way to know who He is, His love, and how to be in a relationship with Him.

Lucas wrote: Sometimes only God will know why He has allowed a trial and sometimes He will reveal its purpose to us. Sometimes it's because He is preparing us for a greater thing. Sometimes it is to show us how little we truly love Him, and to allow us to change. Trials give us an opportunity to build our faith in a way nothing else can.

How have you dealt with your own personal anger toward God? I'd love to hear from you. Please let me know how you got over being upset with God.

It’s hard to have faith when life is hard, but God understands your pain. For more help read this blog: Life is Hard, God Understands

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250 comments on “Angry or Mad at God? Here's What To Do”

  1. Yes I'm mad at god and there nothing wrong with that, if god is all knowing then he knows why I'm upset.
    Telling me that he loves me isn't a answer. It's a Belief..
    God has let me down in so many ways. I grow up without a father he died when I was kid, been left at the alter
    weeks before marriage, brother committed suicide , was set on fire at work spent two weeks in
    a intensive care unit. I have many more battle wounds. But I'm still here in have scars inside an out
    Yes I'm mad at god. I still believe in common respect for all living creature, I'm feel I'm not here to judge anyone and truly
    get upset when I see someone wronged women, child, an animal. I don't like that we eat living things even plants,
    all of Gods gifts have meaning. Am I not good enough for love from people or god. Why do I have to be the one with heartache
    and pain.

  2. I only reached your page, because at some point in my life. Possibly my lowest, and I still haven’t fully recovered due to an ongoing inner battle. I have come to be very angry towards God. All fear for him has gone out the window. Yet, I find myself talking to him everyday. Questioning why he created Satan? If he knows the big picture so much, why did he not eliminate the root of evil before it emanated into a heavenly war. Eventually, we humans seem to be the tool between God and his enemy for the purpose of spiritual warfare. A war we are born into, that we have no choice, but to be a part of.
    Sure, God owes us nothing. But what’s the point of creating us, then leave us fighting blindly in the dark. Why does his love involve an endless suffering of emotional rejection, constant bad experiences, just too many series of negative events. Nothing to draw positivity from?
    Even focusing on other people does not help, because your heart feels sorry for them, especially when they open up to you about series of childhood sexual abuse by family members who are highly respected in their own church. Really, too much negative reality happening about. Nothing positive to draw good from. Eventually making the Bible and daily devotionals feel more like bedtime story and fairytale, or just a feel good morning motivation, that gets drowned out by mean and rude people. I have not even discussed this with my Bible quoting mother or pastor Father, because I know their traditional Biblical view will shut me up with condemnation and accusation of Blasphemy and my own guilt of “I don’t know how far I’ve insulted the Holy Spirit”
    I really want to fear and love God, as I believe in the saving Grace of Jesus by dying on the cross. But my reasons above have hardened my heart

  3. I have been praying to God for a wife since I was divorced 10 years ago, I asked God for reconciliation with my wife and I was specific she came to me to tell me she was seeing another guy whom she moved into her house. I continued to pray,fast and seek God and it seems I have been taunted with all kinds of things. Feeling in my spirit that the time of fruition was upon me only to be shattered once again. This goes on and on and it never seems to quit. I have prayed to be released from her but nothing. I'm just exhausted from this over the last few years....... exhausted

    1. Me to Juan i have been praying to God for a wife as well its so lonely in this world and you see alot of men who dont love god and use women that have many different women.I feel line as gods son who has been celibate for i years god should love me enough to give me a wife i still love god I just dont know why he hasent answered my prayer for a wife...i feel like if he loved me a you enough he would answer i know he loves us but it hurts that he doesent answer are prayers for a wife

  4. I trust God and believe he heals and cares. He healed me of Breast cancer last year. And I give him all the praise. But after chemo I had 2 months of peace and then my Mom was as diagnosed with dementia. She is a Christian but she has always been negative and I am have quoted scripture and prayed with her. I am angry fir allowing my Mom to have dementia. She cannot drive nor live by herself ever again. And I had to put her in an Assistec Living because I cannot stop work and have enough money to pay our bills. I love her and want her to be okay. But she is a woman that no one can ever please . Hey cup is never full. Today at the assisted living she was mean to me and unfortunately it caused me to react badly. She is so mean that I don’t know if I want to go back. But I am an only child with no husband and no children of my own. I try my best to do things she likes and make things good for her. But her bet negativity is only reserved for me . She does not behave like that to others. I tried to speak to my Pastor and he was too busy. So I am angry that God will not direct me as to what I can do better to keep my anxiety level down and stay happy. I really wish someone could help me understand what to do. But I know I am not going to continue to visit just to have her be mean and unthankful fir everything.

  5. I have done all of these things and everday I get kicked down again. I talk and pray to God constantly all day everyday. If I didnt have faith and trust Him, I would have stopped communicating with Him aling time ago. I pray again today, that He shows some compassion. Ive already been kicked. I dont know how many more times He will crush me before this happens, but I try to be patient. It’s so painful!

    1. Thank you for reaching out to talk about this. You sound like you have an amazing faith in God and we commend you on trying daily to have faith and trust in Him. We have a great resource that can help you with what is going on in your like and the struggle of constantly getting kicked down again. We think an email mentor would help you with this. It is someone that you can email back and forth with for as long as you like about your daily struggles and your walk with God. An email mentor will listen, support, encourage you and help you along the path to victory. Sign up for an email mentor here: https://www.thehopeline.com/emailmentors/

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