Angry or Mad at God? Here's What To Do

Are You Mad At God?

I've got to believe at some point in your life, you've raised your fist and shouted out in anger at God. Most of us have done it.

Maybe your parent died, or you had a friend get seriously sick, or even killed. Maybe you have cancer, or some kind of handicap. These and other serious issues enter our lives, making it easy to target God for our pain.

Someone described anger this way: Anger is a human emotional response to situations that are either out of our control or out of our ability to understand, or both.

Have you ever wondered why we get so angry at God? That's what I want to talk about, because I can assure you that while God allows us to cry out to Him, He doesn't want us stuck in rage towards Him.

What are some of the reasons why we get mad at God?

The main reason we get so upset with God is that we think He owes us something. This usually happens in two ways:

1. We don't get something we want.

Have you ever really wanted a relationship with that perfect girl or guy? Or you really wanted that job you knew for certain would be perfect for you? When these things didn't work out, you no doubt found yourself hurt and disappointed. Our first impulse is almost always to blame God.

Daphne wrote: When we get mad at God it is really like a 2-year-old throwing a fit because Mommy or Daddy won't let them stick their finger in the light socket. The 2-year-old can only see what he/she wants, the parent sees the bigger picture, and the danger. When we are mad at God we show our immaturity, ignorance, and our shortsightedness.

2.  We get something we DON'T expect.

When something bad happens to someone we love, or to us, or someone gets really sick, or even dies we wonder why these things have to happen. We think of God as a big genie in the sky who should only give us good things and prevent the bad.

I received a comment from someone who said: Some people wonder why their lives end up being a certain way, and they blame God for it, because if God really cared for them, then He wouldn't let them suffer.

We think, "If God is so loving, why am I in so much pain? Is He punishing me for no reason by allowing horrible things to happen to me, or the people I love, or even the world?"

3. We think God owes us something.

Both of these situations can make a person feel like God doesn't care about us. After all the prayers we've prayed, God still didn't heal your brother's cancer, or get you the job you wanted.

Joe wrote: I have to admit that I am angry at God. The more I have prayed for help and guidance, the more I get nothing. He is ignoring me. It's His right to do with me what He will, but I am frustrated because I have done what I think I am supposed to do and yet no response, no help.

We get angry when we think God owes us something. When in fact, God owes us nothing.

A couple of other reasons:

  • We get angry with God when we don't know all the facts. It's so easy to think we know everything, but we can only see a very small part of the picture.
  • We get angry at God when we see others claim to know Him, and then act like hypocrites. It's easy to blame God for the faults of others.

These are just a few reasons why people get angry with God. Of course, there are many more.

 How to Get Over Being Mad at God - Know What You Can Expect From Him.

If we think God is going to be our genie in a bottle, and make everything good in our lives, we're going to be mad at God when something bad happens. Having faith in God is not insurance against hardships.

In the Bible, Jesus says- I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. (John 16:33)

So what can we expect from God?

  • His Peace - If we trust in Him and believe in Him we will have peace even in the hard times. Do you want to know how to find this peace? Begin Your Journey To Peace with this great resource from Peace With God
  • God Wins in the End - This world is full of sin, hate and death and that comes from the enemy, Satan, not from God. However, for all those who believe in Jesus, there is glorious, eternal life in heaven.
  • His Comfort - He promises to be near those who are hurting. "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalm 34:18)
  • His love - He promises His love for us. "God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." (1 John 4:16) He loves your heart and is with you in the midst of whatever your circumstances.
  • Life with greater meaning and significance - If we got everything we thought we wanted, we'd be spoiled and selfish. God is a wise father who knows what we need to become the best men and women we can be.

What can you do when you are mad at God?

1. Tell him how you feel.

The best thing you can do is tell God what you're angry about. He wants to hear from you about what you're thinking and feeling. Tell God honestly where you are at. God knows what's going on inside of you, but He wants to you be able to come to Him with honesty and openness.

2. Place the blame for evil on Satan, not on God.

God is good and Holy and perfect and loving. He is the opposite of evil. You may be mad at God because he didn't prevent the bad from happening to you, but he is not to blame for the bad thing, Satan is.  Jesus says in the Bible "The thief’s purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness." (John 10:10)

3. Pray for courage, strength and peace to make it through the day.

Betsy wrote: I find it easiest to leave everything in God's hands and pray that he will care for me and do what's BEST for me, not what I want, but what is best. It's very hard, and I have trouble with that at times, but that is my overall goal.

4. Trust that God will use a hardship for something beyond what you can see.

So can God use everything we go through for a greater purpose? I believe He can. Ask God for understanding to see the bigger picture. Over time, you may see more clearly how God used your trial for good.

Jill wrote honestly: I feel like I have a daily tug of war with God. I know everything happens for a reason, but when you're lonely, broke, bored, and feel helpless, it is really hard to say, okay God, I know you're doing this for a reason.
Betsy echoed Jill's thoughts: After many trials, I learned that it is best to accept what God has done and believe that it is for my good, whether I like it or not.

Believing He does have a reason for everything we go through helps us to trust that something bigger is going on here, even more than we can probably understand. But I'm not God, He is. And I'm just going to trust that He knows what's going on with me.

5. Get involved in other people's lives.

A lot of our anger and frustration in life comes from thinking about ourselves too much - we think about the way things are and how different they are from how we wish they'd be.

Yevgenia wrote: One of the best things I have learned while going through this is God won't put you through something unless he knows you will be able to overcome it. Another way I have used these things in a positive way is by using my experiences to help others who are going through similar things in their lives.

The best way to find joy and peace from the hardships of life is to get involved in other people's lives. Take an interest in other people and their circumstances. Share in their joy and their pain.

6. Decide to have a relationship with God.

The Bible says the only way to know God is by knowing His son, Jesus. Jesus was basically God with skin-on and gave us a way to know who He is, His love, and how to be in a relationship with Him.

Lucas wrote: Sometimes only God will know why He has allowed a trial and sometimes He will reveal its purpose to us. Sometimes it's because He is preparing us for a greater thing. Sometimes it is to show us how little we truly love Him, and to allow us to change. Trials give us an opportunity to build our faith in a way nothing else can.

How have you dealt with your own personal anger toward God? I'd love to hear from you. Please let me know how you got over being upset with God.

It’s hard to have faith when life is hard, but God understands your pain. For more help read this blog: Life is Hard, God Understands

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250 comments on “Angry or Mad at God? Here's What To Do”

  1. God gave us a life, he didn't give us a good life. Some of us are pretty some are ugly some are rich and most are poor.
    Life unfair. Please explain why I'm supposed thank GOD for all my hardships. So far in 50 years the only things I've seen are a lost finger, being set on fire, a brother death, no father, and a bad mother, I've felt so many different types of pain. I'm not mad at god I don't hate. I'm just disappointed. The life I wanted will never be, that's not ok but these where the cards I was dealt. I've tried to make somethings out of nothing, on top of my hardships. I don't blame GOD or satan on these things. If GOD wanted me to have a good great life than I would have a good great life. I'm just disappointed, I'm in pain right now psychology and mentally, where are you GOD. My whole life can't be about suffering that would be unfair...

    1. So you’re gonna settle for the cards you were dealt, rather than change the whole set?
      Listen we don’t get to choose how we get there, we just do.
      The thing with God is that where you grew up in you saw some things and now you know not to repeat. You know what not to do in order to fail.
      You wanna succeed? Talk to people who have. Not who has failed. Don’t let a generational curse, curse you.
      Don’t settle for it is what it is. Change it. Right now these just seem like words, but you want change? Change too. Get out of the comfort zone. If you came on this website and bothered to leave this comment, than perhaps you’re not as unaware and ungrateful.
      You don’t blame God? You blame life for the cards on the table? Guess what you have all that it takes to cause a change.
      You want different? Or you’re comfortable in where you are? See, try something else. And try again. You WILL get it. Respect timing. Walk what you talk. Bark and bite.
      Try it.
      From a sister with love.❤️

      1. Yes I had success already I am a master electrician, but I've been set on fire I have skin grafts on my hands and arm and had a finger amputated in December. My Brother committed suicide 15 years ago was left at the alter 16 years ago. My father died when I was a kid and I had a unstable mother. and I still became a master electrician on my own. My complaint is life shouldn't be thIs hard for some, there are a lot of people that truly have it worse than me... I have a strong will when I've failed I've only got back up and learned..
        Thank you for your response.

      2. Generational curses are Old Testament, this side of the cross you are not under the curse of the law sister.

  2. When I read other people's stories, I get even more worried. If God can let other people go through far much worse than I'm complaining about, where then does my hope for a better future lie. One thing about this trial phase that I don't understand is why we have to go through it alone, without the presence of God, lonely and in pain. We as Christians are promised peace and solace but I feel so alone and angry. I hope for better days.

    1. See now, seems like you got a lot to be grateful for when you hear others right?
      Guess what, when we read yours too, we think the same. So that’s where hope comes from, from gratitude. Because when we step into someone else’s shoes we realize it can be better, because we have better. We have the power to help, let us help.
      Worried about what? You trust the God that takes you? Then let Him take you.
      You are most definitely not alone. Choose the right ones. Sometimes God’s comfort comes in the shape of a hug from a dear and honest loved one. Sometimes it comes in the shape of goosebumps that the Spirit fills you up with so you know that the Holy Ghost is there with you.
      In whichever way it comes from, take it. Don’t be disgruntled about trying to figure out why you’re alone, that way you miss who’s with you. Embrace where you are, who’s with you and what you have.
      During trials, you will have at your disposal the right tools. Because God doesn’t set you up for failure. He sets you up to succeed. Faith has a lot to do with knowing we will win through the bad times.
      You will win. Take the win. Let yourself win. The right tool is right there with you. Don’t look sideways, or backwards. Look to your front. It is standing right there. Use it, love it (if it’s a person).
      Let go and let God. Don’t focus on trying to feel His presence, detach from worry and float. Actually feel Him. If you hold on to the idea, you won’t be able to see it. Let go of your expectations. His ways are mysterious, so embrace that. Let Him show you His face.
      Love from a sister,

  3. I'm so tired of waiting and trusting Him to work on this situation and make the stress to end, completely. I'm scared that this situation which is slowly breaking and killing me will leave me so broken that I won't be able to pick up the pieces.

  4. Praying for answers for you Tommy!! I am personally struggling as a lifelong Christian and member of the church with my relationship with God at the moment. God has closed several doors while I stayed quiet and strong in faith for the longest time. For years I have smiled when I didn’t want to and been there for others and have been still and waited for God. In the midst of the waiting I try to lead a life he would want me to, leaning on him while pursuing what I believe his plan for me is. I’m still waiting and trying not to be bitter and angry. I know God is in charge and it’s all about His timing. There really isn’t anything else I can do except wait. I try not to sit in anger, bitterness, and sadness because it only stirs up more anger, bitterness, and sadness so I just keep moving forward and try to stay busy. I would hate to miss the “yes” God has planned for me while wallowing in sorrow. I really hope the hardships and waiting are over soon, but if they’re not, I guess it’s all a part of his plan and I have no doubt He knows me better than I know myself and what I actually need to be the best version of myself, for me and for others.

  5. God is our heavenly father, when we find ourselves in a situation with no way out. i don't even know if there are words to describe it. i don't understand it. i don't understand where is mine Dad in all of these. i do think in times when we find ourselves in situation such as those, God is only one we want to talk to. i can't hear from Him now. i want to feel His presence so badly it is a very dark and confusing place to be.
    but i don't need to hear from the author or anyone else, i need to hear from mine Heavenly Father.
    feel free to censor this comment, it is a very cowardly and nasty thing to do, which appears to me is practiced by many Christian bloggers.

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