A message from TheHopeLine® Team especially for you….
Do you feel worthless?
The reality is every one of us questions our value at some point.
- Do people like me?
- What does my life matter to anyone? Does anyone really care?
- People say such mean things about me, that must be what I’m really like.
- Why do people hurt me? I must not deserve any better
- Why am I such a mess up?
- Why doesn’t anyone notice me?
We all base our worth on how others view us. If someone else finds me worthy of their love, I must be worth something, right? But if I don’t feel like I am receiving approval from anyone, if no one else is noticing my worth, then maybe I’m not worth anything.
We base our value on gaining praise from others for something we’ve done or bought or the way we look because essentially, if someone else thinks I’m an O.K., then I must be O.K.
While I would like to say, don’t worry about what others think, I don’t think that is realistic. I think all of us are wired this way….we are wired to be loved.
The problem is that people do not ever love other people perfectly. And quite honestly, some people love horribly. Let me just say to the child who has never been unconditionally loved or accepted by a parent, I am truly sorry but it is NOT your fault and it does NOT mean you are worthless.
I believe the only answer to having deep rooted self-worth is to understand how God views you.
I believe the only answer to having deep rooted self-worth and to understand who you are is to understand how God, your creator, views you. Because HIS love is perfect and unconditional and pure. He thinks you are worthy. Once you understand this in the core of your being, in your soul, you will no longer depend on the fleeting approval of others, but on the solid foundation of an unchanging God.
The Bible is full of the truth about how the God of the universe feels about you. Let these words soak in. You can even try inserting your name into any one of these statements from the Bible.
God designed you and thought of you before you were born
• Imagine being dreamed about before you were even born – God dreamed about you!
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.” (Psalm 139:13-16)
God Thinks about you
• Imagine how it would feel to have someone love you so much they couldn’t stop thinking about you – that’s God!
“How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me!” (Psalm 139:17-18)
“The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness; He will quiet you by His love; He will exult over you with loud singing.” (Zephaniah 3:17)
God will Never Forget You
• Imagine someone tattooing your name on their hand – God has!!
“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.” (Psalm 49:15-16)
God will never abandon you
• Imagine never having to worry about being alone – God is always there.
“Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; He will neither fail you nor abandon you.” (Deuteronomy 31:8)
God Delights in you
• Imagine someone who finds joy in knowing you – God does!
“The LORD’s delight is in those who fear Him, those who put their hope in His unfailing love.” (Psalm 147:11)
God Cares for you
• Imagine someone who is willing to take on your burdens – God will!
“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)
God makes you NEW
• Imagine someone who doesn’t care about your past, but will accept you and make you new – that’s God.
“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (2 Corinthians 5:17)
God sees you as a Masterpiece
• Imagine being thought of as priceless, created with a purpose in mind.
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” (Ephesians 2:10)
God Loves You
• Imagine a love so deep that someone would offer their child’s life to save yours and then make you their child – that’s what God did.
“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
“Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes.” (Ephesians 1:4)
“See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1)
God Saves You
• Imagine that despite your past mistakes, someone offers you a free gift, a do-over, that will not be taken away – God offers you this!
“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
“So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death.” (Romans 8:1-2)
Are you beginning to understand? You are SO precious. Not because of what people think, not because of what you do, not because you look a certain way or have achieved a certain thing. You are worth so much because God loves you. Here are some more resources for finding self-worth and some additional verses of hope.
If you would like to know more about how God sees you, please contact TheHopeLine® LiveChat which is open 24/7.
TheHopeLine’s eBook on Self-worth gives a lot of practical advice about things you can do to increase your self-esteem. They are especially helpful tips once you place your value in the fact that you are a child of God.
Jen (from TheHopeLine Team)