Why Do Bad Guys Get The Good Girls?
The differences between the genders can be unbelievably confusing and challenging. The more progress that is made to help you increase your understanding of the opposite sex, the healthier your relationships will be. Thank you for all the great questions you’ve been sending. I promise to keep answering them the best I can. Now to the questions:
Joseph asked: What is the motivation for a woman to go after an abusive, degrading man when she can just as easily get a nicer, more respectful guy?
Women Like Confidence
This is a great question Joseph. Many guys have spent sleepless nights wondering that same thing. Let me try to answer it. Women love a man with a great amount of confidence. They like guys who go their own way and do their own thing. Women like their man to not care about what other people think about them. They value strength and like to know their man will protect them in a dangerous situation. While everyone is different, these are some of things that women are drawn toward. Unfortunately, many guys who exhibit these characteristics can take them to the extreme and be self-centered, demanding, and even abusive.
Nice Guys are Not A Challenge
But on the other hand, from some female’s perspectives, many nice guys can appear to be boring and uninteresting. They are not a challenge. They are easy to figure out, easy to trust, easy to understand. Not a bad thing at all, but it doesn’t challenge a woman to get closer. The answer, if you’re one of the nice guys, is not to get mean or careless. But you will increase your attractiveness to some women by increasing the confidence you have in yourself. Move confidently toward the things you are interested in, and excel at those things. Remember, the more confident you become, the more attractive you are.
Still, some women are confused by the drama of an abusive relationship. Growing up in a dysfunctional home, that’s all they’ve ever known. Some have been beaten down so much they feel they only deserve an abusive guy. That is why you will see some girls keep going back to the same cruel, controlling, obsessive, and yes, abusive guy. It’s sad, but the best thing you can do is be kind to these needy girls. And stick to dating healthy girls who will respect the fact that you respect them.
Why Do Girls Put Themselves Down?
Max asked: Why do some girls say that they are fat or ugly when they truly aren’t? I think most of time they are looking for attention but sometimes it’s not that. Could you explain why they say those things about themselves?
Society tells girls over and over again, unless they look a certain way they are an inferior product.
Most women love to feel beautiful. The shopping mall is proof of that. They can spend hundreds of dollars on clothes, makeup and jewelry all because it makes them feel more attractive. Plus, society tells them over and over again, unless they look a certain way they are an inferior product. Not everyone can meet the high standards of the magazine covers and advertisers. Still, we’ve all seen beautiful women who weren’t very pretty at all, simply because they didn’t like themselves. Right? This is at the core of your question. One of the responsibilities of a little girl’s daddy is to tell his daughter she’s beautiful. If she doesn’t get that positive reinforcement from her dad, she’s going to convince herself she is unattractive.
Inner Beauty is Powerful
Some women do not understand the powerful truth about inner beauty. Inner beauty is the good qualities that come from within. These are such things as love, kindness, compassion, creativity, and sensitivity to the opposite sex. In the end, it’s the inner beauty that will allow a woman to be beautiful far past her physical prime. Yet, many young women neglect developing the inner beauty in working only on the outer shell of their physical being.
In the end, it’s the inner beauty that will allow a woman to be beautiful far past her physical prime.
God has made each of us beautiful in incredibly, unique ways. But it’s easy to forget, and simply focus on trying to get other people to like us, or to tell us we’re valuable. Many women find it effective to cut themselves down, just so they can hear someone disagree with them. It’s a way of forcing a compliment out of someone. Before long, the person can’t ever say anything positive about themselves. Your role as a man, if you’re dating someone, is to let your girlfriend know with your words how beautiful she is, inside and out. And you will have given her a priceless boost to her self-esteem.