Why “Netflix & chill” sells us short…
Guest blog written by Carson Case, a young guy who is faithfully pursuing God. He believes that every person matters. “You just need to take the time to listen and understand where they’re coming from.”
This phrase, “Netflix & chill” has become the one-liner for the past couple years. Lately, it’s the late night text or tweet that you’ll get from someone who doesn’t want you, they just want something from you. Now before I dive in, I’m not trying to call someone out. I just want our generation to realize what we are missing out on. We weren’t made for this. The phrase “Netflix & chill” is so much deeper than just those words. It signifies settling for something “average,” taking the easy way out, being cheap, and lacking confidence and respect. These days, most guys get away with using this phrase to lure a girl into an uncomfortable situation. Hey, I’m just being real. It’s the truth, but it’s an evil truth. God didn’t create a young man to pursue and “love” in a way that defies Himself or cheapens the worth of a young girl. Pursuit was meant to be true and right.
A first date or first text that says, “Netflix & chill?” isn’t a real first date people. [Tweet This!]. We were meant for more.
I realize that not everyone who begins texting and talking will end up seriously dating, but if you begin any sort of “relationship idea” with this phrase, chances are that’s all it’s going to be. I want ladies to listen up on that. I’ve made crucial mistakes in my past, been in positions that defy God, yet as a young man, that’s why I’ve learned the importance of seizing God’s best. The world pushes us to be cheap and lazy, instead of taking a girl out on a date. Simply put, Netflix in your bedroom isn’t a date. Let’s be honest. I believe as a generation of young men that it is time to kill this “cheap” vibe, and pursue in a respectful manner. Ladies, don’t fall for tricks. As men, we are tricky. We have this thing called the sinful nature in us. This nature (“beastly” for lack of a better word) wants to take over at times and misuse you. As real men, we seek God and His ways so as to lead you rightly and respectfully. Men, let’s lead like this.
Don’t live for less than what God is calling you to. [Tweet This!]
Picture it this way: “Netflix & chill” is like a ring you get out of a vending machine at the store. It’s plastic, cool at first site, then hours later you throw it away because it is cheap and truly sucks. Am I dogging on Netflix? No, I freaking love Netflix, it’s just the symbolism here.
On the other hand, going out on a real date, talking in person and not texting, that’s like a real diamond. It’s the real deal. It’s not cheap, and at the end of the day, we will all take a diamond ring over a plastic ring (unless you’re just real dumb). The point I want to make clear is that sitting down and having some popcorn while turning on some Netflix is not a bad thing. It’s just not first date status, probably not the next couple dates either (tips for you guys). It’s not the real deal.
Ladies, if that’s the first text you get when he wants to hang out, RUN. It’s not the real thing.
Get to know someone through real communication and real time spent together. [Tweet this!]
Our world lacks that don’t you think? Everyone has to be on their cell phone at all times, and dates aren’t even a thing. I believe we can change that if we focus on what’s true, not what is easy. Genuine time together doesn’t happen when you lock yourself in a room together. We all know what happens in that situation, and truth is…building a relationship on the physical will not last…EVER. Don’t test it. I promise God won’t lie to you. Let’s not be sucked into the culture our generation has produced. I love this generation, but I want to see growth and change..I’m sure you do too. You only settle for the plastic ring when you choose “Netflix & chill.” It won’t produce good results, and God surely has something better for you.
Three final things to remember:
- Netflix is cool, just make sure you don’t abuse it just to get in bed with someone.
- We need more authentic men. Pursue a girl’s heart with real love and communication.
- Don’t fall for the cheap stuff ladies. I’m not talking about money because you don’t have to have an expensive date to show some love (I’m a broke college student). I’m saying, don’t give into an immature guy’s tricks. It isn’t worth it.