I’m Pregnant, What to Do About My Baby’s Abusive Father?
Vanessa’s pregnant and still has feelings for her baby’s father. He’s cheated on her and pulled a knife on her mom. She’s angry with him but wants her son to have both parents.
Baby’s Abusive Father
VANESSA’S (SIOUX FALLS, SD) QUESTION:
Dawson: Vanessa, I hear you are mega pregnant. You’re due any minute?
Vanessa: Yep
Dawson: Boy or girl?
Vanessa: Boy
Dawson: So, is it going to be a healthy home he’s coming into or what kind of craziness are we having to deal with?
Vanessa: I’m living on my own. Basically, I’m having a hard time with his father. During the first part of my pregnancy, I lived with him. And I had to put up with his girlfriend all the time. He basically ran me through the ground, and I can’t take it anymore.
Dawson: Is he cheating on you?
Vanessa: We were engaged to be married and I found her in bed with him.
Dawson: Let me see if I got this right. You’re engaged, you walk in the bedroom, and there’s some other girl with him?
Vanessa: Yes, and that’s when I called everything off. My parents came and helped kick him out. I wasn’t pregnant at the time. He pulled a knife on my mom; so, there’s really bad blood between him and my mom.
Dawson: Yeah, almost real blood.
Vanessa: Yeah, ha. Something happened, I hooked back up with him 5 months later, and I got pregnant. When I moved in, he wasn’t with her anymore. And now, one minute he wants to be there and the next minute he doesn’t want to be there. And it’s just a constant battle.
Dawson: Vanessa, there’s only so many ways you can say the name loser.
Vanessa: Exactly.
Dawson: Any guy that would treat you like he’s treating you and pulled a knife on your mom. Get out of town and get into the prison!
Vanessa: Exactly. I can’t stop.
Dawson: Stop what?
Vanessa: I’m so angry with him, but I still have feelings for him. And I want my son to have a life and both parents like I did.
DAWSON MCALLISTER’S ANSWER:
Dawson: Vanessa, you don’t want this clown to be anybody’s father. Your little boy deserves a whole lot more than him. He could hurt him. He could kill him. Why are you even living this drama? Get with your parents, get to a safe place, have your baby. If you have to move out of town, do what you have to do, but stay as far away from this clown as you possibly can. Because he’s going to spend most of his life in prison, unless he turns his life around. So, why play the fool? Emotions or no emotions, why play the fool?
Vanessa: I don’t know. I’m so scared I’m going to lose my son and everything else.
Dawson: You’re not going to lose your son, unless you hang out with your ex. The sooner the better, Vanessa. Save your baby! Save your life!
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