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Why Do We Get Angry?

anger 1Do you know someone who struggles with anger? You probably don’t have to look any further than your own mirror. I’ve written about what anger is, and now I’m asking the question, why do we get angry?

We get angry based on our reaction to a variety of things, people, circumstances, memories, or personal problems, just to name a few. It can also be a response to a single event, or a reaction to numerous events. What makes you angry? Here are some reasons people have sent me:

Shawnee wrote: What makes me angry? Being ignored.

Ali wrote: Fake people and liars.

Jake wrote: Trying hard at something and failing.

Ashley wrote: I hate it when people criticize me and have no idea what I go through.

Michael wrote: Being nice to people, only to have them be mean to me.

Jane wrote: Not being able to control my emotions.

Related Posts:
What Is Anger?
What Is Forgiveness?

When you feel anger, it’s easy to want to lash out to get back at whatever, or whoever, has hurt you. Unfortunately, we all know that anger can get out of control and become destructive, causing a ton of problems.

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So why do we get angry?

  1. We get angry when our expectations are not met. When something doesn’t go the way we think it should, we try to take control over the out of control situation with anger.
    Chells wrote: Usually I don’t get angry much, however, being accused of things will set me off big time.
  2. We also get angry when we feel we’re being threatened. And it may or may not be a real situation. We’ve all seen a person get angry about something that isn’t a real threat at all. For example: the guy at a bar who gets in a fight with another guy because, He looked at me funny, when the other guy didn’t even know he was there. People carry a lot of emotional baggage into certain situations, making them feel more threatened than they need to feel.
  3. Additionally, some angry people carry their resentments and rage around with them at all times, creating an environment that makes other people be more aggressive toward them, just enhancing the whole anger cycle. These are the kinds of people who have a very short fuse, and any number of things will set them off.

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Here are some other reasons why people might get angry. Maybe you have experienced some of these, too:

  • Grief – losing a loved one.
  • Rudeness
  • Tiredness
  • Hunger
  • Pain
  • Withdrawal from drugs or some medications
  • Some physical conditions, such as PMS
  • Physical illness
  • Mental illness
  • Alcohol, some drugs, alcohol abuse, drug abuse
  • Injustice
  • Being teased or bullied
  • Humiliation
  • Embarrassment
  • Deadlines
  • Traffic jams
  • Disappointment
  • Sloppy service
  • Failure
  • Infidelity
  • Burglary
  • Financial problems
  • Being told you have a serious illness

The fact is, just about anything can trigger an angry reaction. Monica said, I get angry very often. And quite frankly I don’t know how to deal with my anger. I bottle it up inside and every so often it all comes out.

Remember, even though anger will most likely be a part of the rest of your life, you don’t have to let it control you. In my next blog let’s talk about ways to manage your anger.

Your friend,

Forgiving people who have angered you, even if they don’t deserve it can free you from the toxic emotions which trap you.  To understand how to forgive and why it’s so important for you to forgive, download TheHopeLine’s free eBook.

Dawson McAllister Dawson McAllister (born in New Kensington, Pennsylvania) is an American speaker, radio host, and author. He is the founder of Dawson McAllister Association and TheHopeLine and host of the national radio program Dawson McAllister Live, which is aired on Sunday nights. Dawson has been speaking to and in support of teenagers and young adults for over 40 years.
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  • michelle


  • anything can make me angry

    What’s the app called

  • sam

    i just got in an argument with my friend about something i said that his miss interpreted. He yelled at me which just made me want to yell at him and i wish i could avoid situations like that because i believe they don’t help anyone and just make everything worse

  • Dhital

    I feel angry when someone doesn’t follow the instructions and rule and don’t try understand the situation.

  • The girl you were warned about

    Life, and people being narcissist, racist, materialistic idiots that act over entitled make me super ANGRY.

  • lee

    I get angry when i want a girl but she don’t want me. I also hate liars and cheaters 🙂

  • Marie

    I get angry when People give me the silent treatment and make me feel bad about myself and say I’m doing it all to myself and they are doing nothing wrong it hurts so much 🙁

  • ali ahmed

    Why Do We Get Angry?

  • basuki

    I normally get angry on myself when i fail at many things in life.Also sometimes on other people.I dont know how to control my anger.

    • Emma

      You can control your anger by noticing your thoughts. Anger is the gap between how things are and your thoughts about how you want things to be. Change your thoughts to accept how things are. You can try to change things if you want but don’t bother getting angry – it just robs you of happiness.

  • Akira

    Yeah. Correctly said but the feeling when you have fake friends is the worst. They can backstab you anytime and the inability to trust your own friends causes anger.

  • Sarah

    I get angry and depressed mostly when my sisters torment me and no be is ever there for me

  • Sarah

    When my sisters torment me and nobody is there for me

  • No name

    I get angry a lot. For no reason it seems. My husband tells me I am very negative and am unable to enjoy anything anymore. I’m sad most of the time and have tried to take my own life several times, but I do try to find happiness and I think I’m getting better most of the time. I guess my question is, how can I project happiness again to avoid conflict that makes me spiel or angry?

  • krishan sharma

    i think that the angry in our life is good but some people are think that the angry is not good in life but i think that it is come in life is so easy in this generation we can write a word that we angry when we can not get any think that we angry i also angry with it any one can give this answer.

  • Fv Brackat

    I analyzed everything I truly get angry for no reason. Let me explain. It may not be all of the time but I get angry at things 5 minutes ago I have absolutely loved! Like my niece who I hosted a graduation party for. Everything went precisely if not better than what I hoped and dreamed except for this one lady in the corner frowning at the people present the whole time! Yeah, turns out this stranger was me angry for no reason. I mean I was happy decorating the party I was even extremely happy thinking the party over but as soon as I opened the door for no reason at all I was severely angry it was like someone had switched on a light. It came out of nowhere for no reason and it has been 2 days since and I still can’t figure out why. I have looked online and to me it can’t be depression because nothing tragic has happened to me. And it can’t be anxiety because I don’t feel afraid. It can’t be a masked emotion because I have tried every emotion any other emotion to switch to at that moment would have been fine. But I couldn’t. So now I’m thinking it has to be a brain chemical. I have had another episode like this 2 years back. I love hugging I’m the hug of my family well obviously not anymore because now I am not sure about myself. Well that one fateful day my brother hugged me at first I felt really good as usual but then boom out of nowhere I got abnormally pissed and it wasn’t anyones fault. He hug like he regularly does. Why did i get angry. I didn’t tell anyone but now i kind of wish i did because if i am going to have surgery to fix this i don’t want info out of nowhere like this. I have thought through so far that it has to be the coffee. It has not bothered me when i don’t drink coffee but do to work i need coffee!